The Hidden Costs of Resilience: Insights from a War Survivor
09/08/24 • 59 min
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Helen Sairany, a war survivor from Iraq. We dive deep into the world of trauma and how it can shape our lives.
Helen shares her incredibly brave story of surviving war as a Kurdish child. Together, we talk about the psychological effects of trauma, the importance of feeling safe, and why we need a world that understands and supports people who've been through tough times.
It's a powerful conversation about community, connection, and learning to be kind to ourselves.
Thank you for listening and you can find me on IG: @theanxietymd if you have any questions.
PS. If you would like to join the MBRX family of 3800+ anxiety WARRIORS who are shifting from coping with their anxiety to actually HEALING it, click the link below: https://www.theanxietymd.com/MBRX
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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 - Introduction
01:10 - Dr. Sairany's Background
01:24 - The Impact of War
03:34 - Connection vs. Protection
04:53 - Trauma and Sensitivity
07:23 - Struggles with Safety
09:44 - Coping Mechanisms
11:19 - Understanding Emotional Responses
13:15 - Healing as a Process
17:23 - The Importance of the Present
18:21 - The Healing Journey
20:22 - Feeling Like an Outsider
21:20 - Subconscious Identity Struggles
22:05 - The Price of Authenticity
24:09 - Importance of Safe Communities
25:04 - Quality Over Quantity in Friendships
26:29 - The Power of Friendship
27:09 - The Role of Professionals in Healing
29:03 - Understanding Trauma Beyond War
30:16 - The ACE Study's Importance
32:51 - Burnout in Medical Professionals
35:23 - Trauma's Overwhelming Nature
40:14 - Moral Injury in Healthcare
43:43 - The Cost of Change
45:06 - Delayed Action in Mental Health
45:53 - Awareness of Trauma in Society
49:17 - Moving from Head to Body
50:29 - Compassionate Connection
56:18 - Wisdom from a Trauma Survivor
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Helen Sairany, a war survivor from Iraq. We dive deep into the world of trauma and how it can shape our lives.
Helen shares her incredibly brave story of surviving war as a Kurdish child. Together, we talk about the psychological effects of trauma, the importance of feeling safe, and why we need a world that understands and supports people who've been through tough times.
It's a powerful conversation about community, connection, and learning to be kind to ourselves.
Thank you for listening and you can find me on IG: @theanxietymd if you have any questions.
PS. If you would like to join the MBRX family of 3800+ anxiety WARRIORS who are shifting from coping with their anxiety to actually HEALING it, click the link below: https://www.theanxietymd.com/MBRX
______________________________
TIMESTAMPS
00:00 - Introduction
01:10 - Dr. Sairany's Background
01:24 - The Impact of War
03:34 - Connection vs. Protection
04:53 - Trauma and Sensitivity
07:23 - Struggles with Safety
09:44 - Coping Mechanisms
11:19 - Understanding Emotional Responses
13:15 - Healing as a Process
17:23 - The Importance of the Present
18:21 - The Healing Journey
20:22 - Feeling Like an Outsider
21:20 - Subconscious Identity Struggles
22:05 - The Price of Authenticity
24:09 - Importance of Safe Communities
25:04 - Quality Over Quantity in Friendships
26:29 - The Power of Friendship
27:09 - The Role of Professionals in Healing
29:03 - Understanding Trauma Beyond War
30:16 - The ACE Study's Importance
32:51 - Burnout in Medical Professionals
35:23 - Trauma's Overwhelming Nature
40:14 - Moral Injury in Healthcare
43:43 - The Cost of Change
45:06 - Delayed Action in Mental Health
45:53 - Awareness of Trauma in Society
49:17 - Moving from Head to Body
50:29 - Compassionate Connection
56:18 - Wisdom from a Trauma Survivor
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