The One About Ritual Making

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12/19/19 • 29 min

Meet Viktor Lysell Smålänning

Viktor is a ritual maker who works with rituals as a powerful part of transformative processes, community building and culture change. He approaches the topic of ritual through a lot of directions; by creating art about it, studying it academically, engaging with it spiritually and by taking on the meaningful moments in life with self-made rituals. Since 2013, Viktor has lived in five countries and worked with clients all over the globe on his journey to make sense of how to engage with rituals in the modern world.

Viktor has just opened an Instagram account so you’ll be able to find him over on @howtomakerituals in the near future!

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Without belonging we’re fucked.”

“Ritual is a human process that can really facilitate a shift.”

“How do I feel today? What is my intention?”

“Ritual holds a huge potential for shifting ourselves in relation to what’s going on, and really finding some honesty and some truth about ourselves and the situation that we find ourselves in.” - EA

“Christmas is a ritual on steroids.” – EA

In this episode we talk about:

How being fiercely independent without creating a community around you can leave you feeling isolated
How ritual can be a powerful tool to experiment with your own boundaries and to change and grow
The “before” and “after” time that exists in the context of ritual, and the transformation that lies in between those moments
How to ritualise everyday acts
Acknowledging that Christmas can be challenging for a lot of people and how you can make it work better for you by creating your own rituals

Plus, we talk about Viktor’s personal journey to discovering the power of ritual.

Meet Viktor Lysell Smålänning

Viktor has just opened an Instagram account so you’ll be able to find him over on @howtomakerituals in the near future!

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Without belonging we’re fucked.”

“Ritual is a human process that can really facilitate a shift.”

“How do I feel today? What is my intention?”

“Christmas is a ritual on steroids.” – EA

In this episode we talk about:

How being fiercely independent without creating a community around you can leave you feeling isolated
How ritual can be a powerful tool to experiment with your own boundaries and to change and grow
The “before” and “after” time that exists in the context of ritual, and the transformation that lies in between those moments
How to ritualise everyday acts
Acknowledging that Christmas can be challenging for a lot of people and how you can make it work better for you by creating your own rituals

Plus, we talk about Viktor’s personal journey to discovering the power of ritual.

Previous Episode

The One About Capacity

Meet Lisa Fabrega...

As a truth-telling coach, writer and an innovator in the realm of leadership, Lisa has devoted her life to helping people unleash their inner Gandhi, Mother Teresa or MLK’s (or helping ordinary people achieve extraordinary things) so that they can make a powerful impact in the world. One client described her as her “Courage Curator” while another declared her to be “the secret weapon for the world’s next great thought leaders”.

Her poems, essays and musings can be found on bentlily.com, Medium and Inside The Jungle Magazine. She has also been featured in CNN, Sports Illustrated and as a guest blogger on LauraRoeder.com.

When she’s not helping people ignite their own revolutions in the world, you can find her travelling the world in search of epic nature views and watching the sunset with her laptop in one hand and a piña colada in the other.

You can find out more about her over on her website https://lisafabrega.com/, or on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter all @LisaFabrega

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Do I have the capacity to receive that which I say I want to create?”

“Sometimes it’s ok to feel like a fraud because it keeps us in integrity.”

“When we are in a place of capacity we have discernment, we have equanimity, we have sovereignty and we have boundaries.”

“Boundaries are bigger than just saying no and putting up walls. Boundaries are about making specific requests to the universe about what we want.”

“The whole point of this journey is to get to be yourself and to enjoy it.”- EA

In this episode we talk about:

What our ‘capacity’ is. And why it’s vital to up-level it if we want to up-level our lives or businesses
The four pillars of Lisa’s capacity work
Getting to the real root of low self-confidence
Feeling like a fraud. Does it mean that you’re not living in alignment with your soul’s purpose? Or is it another part of the jigsaw puzzle? We discuss.
Lisa gives us an invaluable ‘self-assessment’ quiz to get a very clear picture of where you are and what to do next in terms of your capacity

Plus, we talk about how important it is to learn to do things in the way that works for you, otherwise, you end up wasting time and money.

Resources:

Get Lisa’s free video series on working out your capacity by joining her mailing list over at https://lisafabrega.com/

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The One About Breaking Out Of Diet Culture

This week, Ebonie chats with Harri Rose about 'breaking out of diet culture'.

Harri is a certified health coach and author specialising in unapologetic body acceptance. Through her one-to-one coaching, workshops, and writing, Harri teaches her clients how to love their bodies, find more self-compassion and discover what wellness means to them. Her new book ‘You are enough’ is out now. She is also co-creator at the Anti-Diet Riot Club and an emotional resilience trainer with Tough Cookie.

You can find Harri's website online at https://www.harrirose.com/

Fav quotes from this episode:

“I thought by now I would have all my shit together!’

“It’s a bit hard, isn’t it, this adulting stuff”

“A lot of the trauma that happens around food happens at home”

“We need to give ourselves permission to enjoy this festive tradition of feasting... it’s normal, it’s Christmas!”

“Food doesn’t have to be hard”

“There’s no perfect diet”

“You need a rebel attitude to bust out of diet culture and the unrealistic expectations of what we should be looking like!”

“I’m an adult but... time-keeping is hard! I’m perpetually late”

In this episode we talk about:

The impact that breakups and other major life transitions can have on your long term happiness and becoming a more authentic version of yourself
That major decisions don’t have to last a lifetime! Life is long and we are allowed to change.
Why there doesn’t seem to be a boundary with family members when it comes to making comments about body image, and why it’s worth making coping plans for the Christmas period when you’re likely to come into contact with people who make these comments.
How it’s people’s own projections of body confidence and beauty that causes them to make comments and assumptions about your relationship with food, diet and your body.
That the ‘thin ideal’ is just one standard of beauty, but that it controls so much of what we think and do.
How the process and journey to making peace with food isn’t easy, but it is possible.
“Fat” isn’t a feeling - if you are feeling “Fat”, it could be that you are feeling sad, you are feeling sluggish. It’s important to establish what the underlying feelings are.

Plus, we talk about how gentle movement STILL COUNTS when it comes to improving health and wellbeing, and that you don’t need to be “smashing it” in terms of exercise to see and feel the benefits.