The one about intimacy, ageing and the game with Ruby May

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02/15/24 • 42 min

In this week's episode, I speak to Ruby May, edge-dwelling, truth-seeking, earth loving mischief maker who is passionate about how we can each midwife a culture of deeper connection – to our bodies, each other and our planet. She is a writer, community leader, mentor and (semi-retired!) facilitator.

Listen to hear us discuss:

The intricacies of intimacy as an adult with ADHD or Autism
The 'rules' of relating
What it really means to 'Adult' inside a relationship
The hope that 'happy couples' bring us and how we get to 'have some of that for ourselves'
The new era of relating, what we can expect of each other, and how to be the best partner ever!

Plus, in this week's behind-the-scenes 'The Patron Part with Ruby May' she passes on one of my questions (can you guess which one?) and we talk about setting ourselves up for satisfaction, and knowing what a 'yes' truly feels like in our body.

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Meet Ruby May:

Ruby May is an educator, activist, coach and community leader in the field of feminine leadership and human connection, who is rallying for a revolution through listening to the wisdom of our bodies.

After a decade of researching and studying intimacy, sexuality and shadow work, offering one-to-one sessions and facilitating workshops internationally, her interest in feminine leadership and collective shadows around power was catalysed by her work as a professional dominatrix.

In 2018, she founded Know Your Flow, an online education and membership program bringing together an international network of women who are exploring menstrual cycle awareness as a tool for developing body literacy, inspiring their leadership and creating cultural change, as well as co-founded Sensing the Change, an initiative that brought together somatics and political activism. Since 2023 she has worked as the community leader for the largest cycle awareness school in the world, Red School, leading their community of graduates of the Menstruality Leadership training.

She is also author of the interactive journal Know Your Flow and creator of The Game, a card game that brings people together to experience deeper and more meaningful intimacy.

https://rubymay.co/

https://www.know-your-flow.com

https://www.the-connection-game.com/

https://www.instagram.com/_.ruby.may._/

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Listen to hear us discuss:

The intricacies of intimacy as an adult with ADHD or Autism
The 'rules' of relating
What it really means to 'Adult' inside a relationship
The hope that 'happy couples' bring us and how we get to 'have some of that for ourselves'
The new era of relating, what we can expect of each other, and how to be the best partner ever!

Become a subscriber to 'The Patron Part' of the podcast for just £5. (or by joining The Maven Haven®️)

Find out more about the podcast, all the perks of becoming a patron, and leave me a voice note testimonial here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

Meet Ruby May:

Ruby May is an educator, activist, coach and community leader in the field of feminine leadership and human connection, who is rallying for a revolution through listening to the wisdom of our bodies.

She is also author of the interactive journal Know Your Flow and creator of The Game, a card game that brings people together to experience deeper and more meaningful intimacy.

https://rubymay.co/

https://www.know-your-flow.com

https://www.the-connection-game.com/

https://www.instagram.com/_.ruby.may._/

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If you're curious about your Human Design, you can get your free 'Embody your Design' chart and Report worth £49 for free as a gift from Ebonie HERE

To talk to Ebonie about anything in this episode you can whatsapp her or DM her on Instagram.

Previous Episode

The one about being an Aspie Adult with Dan Morgan Jones

In this week's episode, I speak to Dan Morgan Jones, award-winning video influencer and the international best-selling author of Autism For Adults. With 260k subscribers on his YouTube channel 'The Aspie World' we chat about being an aspie adult.

Listen on for:

Our experiences of the intersection of ADHD and Autism
The age that is the most difficult for Autistic people
An alternate way of viewing problems that will blow your mind!
The one thing that is absolutely required for intimate relationships to be successful
The missing part of your gratitude practice that will change the game completely!

Plus, in this week's behind-the-scenes 'The Patron Part with Aspie World's Dan Morgan Jones' we're talking Strip clubs, being Straight Edge, Dan's favourite dopamine seeking activity that begins with s and ends in x, and how different cultures relate to nakedness...

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Meet Dan Morgan Jones:

Daniel M. Jones (The Aspie World) is an international best selling author of Autism For Adults / video influencer with an award winning YouTube channel called The Aspie World.

The Aspie World is the biggest YouTube channel dedicated to autism from an autistic person in the world. The channel is dedicated to Autism awareness and understanding from an autistic person's point of view.

Creating engagement with real people to create real change in a positive and uplifting way. And also helps raise money for charities like The National Autistic Society.

Daniel Has a diagnosis of Autism, OCD, ADHD and Dyslexia and uses his influence to help educate people about Autism using his skills of video and social media influence.

Daniel has also created the first-ever neurodiverse panel talking about ADHD and Autism at VidCon US which is the largest video convention in the world.

You can find Dan here:

www.theaspieworld.com or @theaspieworld on all socials (no seriously all of them)

What's your favourite bit of being an adult?

to be my own boss and guardian

What do you do for FUN?

Skateboard, Surf, play D&D and learn stuff

What do you see as the most important or valuable shift or change you've made for yourself in your adult life?

confidence!!!

Complete this sentence: "I am an adult but....."

I do miss someone making my food for me daily :(

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The one about embodying middle age with Mark Walsh

In this week's episode, I speak to Mark Walsh, "Mr Embodiment", author of the books 'Embodiment', 'Working with the Body in Training and Coaching', and 'Embodied Meditation'. He is the host of The Embodiment Podcast and founder of the Embodied Facilitator Course.

Have a listen as we go deep on:

The consequences of being better than your average hippy at marketing
The precarious edge of showing up in the world and what gets kept private
The very personal challenges that have supported us in deepening our maturity (even if they SUCKED at the time.)
THE question to ask instead of asking someone what their values are
What the way you make choices tells people about you

Plus, in this week's behind-the-scenes 'The Patron Part with Mark Walsh' you can hear Mark ambitiously going for the record in answering all 10 questions. He shares about becoming sober, his journey with aikido, his experience of becoming middle-aged (and some stuff he doesn't want his mum to hear)

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Meet Mark Walsh:

“Mr Embodiment” (Mark Walsh) is the author of Embodiment, Working with the Body in Training and Coaching, and Embodied Meditation. He hosts The Embodiment Podcast (1 million+ downloads), and led The Embodiment Conference (1000 teachers, 500,000 delegates). Seeing a theme yet?

He founded the Embodied Facilitator Course, and has trained over 2000 embodiment coaches in over 40 other countries (some of which will even let him back in).

He recently went out to Ukraine twice during the recent conflict and set up saneukraine.org a charity now run solely by Ukrainian professionals to provide trauma and embodiment training to trainers, therapists and coaches.

He gained an honours in psychology (despite been an alcoholic at the time), and has taught widely in the corporate.

He has worked in war zones, and entertained over 50,000 children. He has headlined International Coach Federation events, taught at Moscow State University, lived with the circus in Ethiopia, taught celebrities and kissed a princess.

Mark is an aikido black belt, and also has 25 years of experience of other martial arts, with yoga, bodywork, improv comedy, conscious dance and meditation.

Find Mark here:

https://www.instagram.com/warkmalsh

https://www.facebook.com/mark.walsh.9256

https://embodimentunlimited.com

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