Episode 62 – The One About Plan B

02/07/19 • 5 min

Adulting with Ebonie

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The One About Plan B

Meet Ruth Ridgeway

Ruth Ridgeway is the creator of The Lifestyle Designers Club and an understander of what happens when your life gets turned upside down and inside out in an instant.

She’s the proud girlfriend to her guy who was involved in an accident that left him paralysed in 2014. She shares their stories of life, love, hope and strength and what it’s like to create a (different, but equally beautiful) ‘Plan B’ life on her blog.

Through her work, stories and online club she’s helped hundreds of women to design businesses they love that allow them the freedom, security, and flexibility to do what they want, when they want, and from anywhere in the world they want through creating their own online courses, products and memberships.

Find out more about Ruth on her website: http://www.ruthxo.com

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Adulting means getting to choose what the heck you want!”

“It’s our job as adults to take care of our mindset and happiness even in the face of shitty circumstances.”

“Life is real and shit happens.”

“You will laugh again, you will have a better day again.”

“‘This too shall pass’ is my mantra.”

In this episode we talk about:

How quickly life plans can change, and what circumstances changed Ruth and her partner’s lives in 2014.

How important it is to be present for the good things that happen in your life

That Plan B isn’t necessarily ‘second best’ – it’s a different type of beautiful.

How it’s easy to stop looking at what is fun, and start looking at what is easy or useful, but that isn’t necessarily what you should do.

Plus, we discuss why it’s a good idea to train to be a ninja!

Next Episode

The One About Finding Your Kink

Meet Mary England

Mary Is The Colourful Boss Babe Behind Uncustomary, The Corner Of The Internet Where Self-Love Meets Creativity. She Is A Huge Advocate For Mental Health, Body Positivity, And Celebrating The Every Day. She's Published A Book And Workbook On Self-Love And Continues To Leave A Trail Of Glitter Wherever She Goes.

Fav quotes from this episode:

“If you can’t handle what I look like then that’s on you.”

“Adulting is ultimately having the freedom that I didn’t think I had before.”

“What is hotter than knowing that you are both into something?”

“There is a huge importance of consent culture in kink.”

“Kink is a beautiful world of non-judgemental, embracing open arms and beauty.”

“If you have an inkling of trying something, and you’re scared, then know that there is someone out there who is willing to try it with you.”

“Please stop talking about anal sex at dinner”

In this episode we talk about:

Mental health, and body image.
Making the decision to love and accept yourself and find that inner confidence.
The challenge of feeling “different” from everyone around you, and relief of finally finding your tribe.
Kink. What is, what it’s not, and why it’s a beautiful community to be part of.
Consent, communication and boundaries - and how they form integral cornerstones of all adult relationships.

Plus, we talk about having the courage to be different and to go after what you want!