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Navigating the Complex World of Adoption: Unveiling Azriel June's Journey
Adoptees Crossing Lines
08/25/23 • 45 min
Navigating the Complex World of Adoption: Unveiling Azriel June's Journey
They were told they’re white. They aren’t. They were told they’re Jewish. They aren’t. They tried to erase her heritage over and over again. They couldn’t...so they “gave her back”. This is the story that explains how US adoptions human rights violations - they’re genocide.
This is Azriel’s story - a transcultural adoptee from a loving first family who has been systemically preyed upon by the adoption industry.
TW: Sexual Assault
“The worst part about the secrecy was that I knew I was being lied to. And not by, you know, my friends or some girl in middle school or something, but by the people who were supposed to be my parents.”
What we discussed
(00:40) Azriel, an adoption abolitionist
(01:27) A whole family traumatized by adoptions OR Azriel’s adoption story
(06:02) Erasing my heritage OR No idea who I am...
(08:32) Mindf*cked OR From someone’s garbage to someone’s blessing
(11:26) Illegal adoption OR Renting me for my “cute” years OR Getting illegally adopted
(12:52) My mom and grandma’s traumas
(16:28) Is adoption generosity? OR Is adoption selfless? OR Is adoption a better life?
(21:37) Living a literal lie OR Why am I not good enough to know the truth?
(24:59) Why I think my adoption was illegal
(27:52) What I wish they did instead OR 1 call would’ve changed my life
(29:46) Becoming an abolitionist
(31:10) Family policing is genocide
(34:51) Community is lifesaving OR “Twitter was as angry as me” OR Community saved my life
Links
Connect with Azriel: Twitter
Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | Tiktok
Credits
Special thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at [email protected]
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Mila's Truth: Navigating Adoption, Liberation, and Community
Adoptees Crossing Lines
03/22/24 • 58 min
Mila's Truth: Navigating Adoption, Liberation, and Community
The Church does an excellent job of silencing you if you oppose them. They’d even hire a marketing company to rebrand adoption so that their business as adoption middlemen can continue to thrive. But, it’s not just the Church. The dominant culture is to silence anyone who speaks up against adoption. To make them feel shame. To gaslight them. That was Mila Konomos’ experience once she realized how adoption has wounded her.
Mila tells her story of how she was forcibly removed from her family in 1975 to the realization in 2009 that everything she thought she knew about adoption was a lie. She discusses how reuniting with her biological parents changed everything, how similar she realized she was hto her bio parents, grappling with her identity, the power of speaking up, and the cultural resistance against accepting the truth about adoption.
Mila is the host of the podcast called Everything You Think You Know About Adoption Is A Lie.
“If you don't change the narrative, then you can't change the policies.”
What we discussed
(00:22) Who is Mila Kanomos?
(01:39) Being a (clueless) grateful adoptee
(04:25) Realizing I’m actually wounded
(06:00) “You had this information all of my life?!”
(08:24) The Last Unicorn
(12:55) Terrified of opposing adoption publicly
(15:50) The Church is complicit
(18:23) Propaganda around adoption
(19:38) Surviving reunion
(22:04) How do I become Korean?
(25:39) Biological traits & connections
(30:55) Everything you know about adoption is a lie
(36:43) Church PAID to rebrand adoption
(41:03) Centering adoptee narratives
(44:47) Adoption IS oppression
(49:03) What can you do about this?
(55:51) You already know who you are
Links
Everything You Think You Know About Adoption Is A Lie Podcast
Child Catchers by Catherine Joyce
Connect with Mila: Instagram | Podcast Instagram
Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | Tiktok
Credits
Special thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at [email protected]
Navigating Parenthood as Adoptees: Insights from Dr. Noelle and Tosha
Adoptees Crossing Lines
03/10/23 • 31 min
Adoptees as parents
Parenting as an adoptee
What’s it like when you’re adopted and then become a parent? We discuss the unexpected joys and reliefs of parenting, the mistakes we were almost programmed to make, how parenting can heal us, how to tell your children you’re adopted, and being careful about not placing a burden on our children that they aren’t equipped to carry.
PS: If it isn’t clear yet, we would never put our children up for adoption.
What we discussed
(00:00) How being an adoptee affects the way you parent OR Adoptee parenting patterns
(05:46) Being a helicopter mom
(07:16) “No way I was putting my child up for adoption”
(08:47) Late discovery adoptees
(11:29) Telling your kids you’re adopted
(16:34) Are adoptees better parents?
(20:51) Disadvantages of being an adopted parent OR Biggest regret as an adopted parent
(25:57) Parenting and healing
(31:15) Greatest joy of parenting
(33:55) Advice for adoptive parents
(35:31) Legacy
Links
Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | Tiktok
Learn more about Lia
Credits
Special thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at [email protected]
Exploring the Impact of Adoption on Mental Health: Insights from Adoptees
Adoptees Crossing Lines
03/24/23 • 39 min
Exploring the Impact of Adoption on Mental Health: Insights from Adoptees
Why adoptees are more likely to attempt suicide
Trigger Warning: Suicide, Suicidal ideation, Involuntary hospitalization
Adoptees are 4x more likely to commit suicide, in this episode we unpack why that is. Being an adoptee is a lifelong sentence, we have to cosplay as someone else’s child, we belong almost nowhere - and on top of all that, we invest emotional labor educating therapists about our mental health.
Throughout the episode, we answer questions you’ve asked us on Twitter about adoptee mental health.
“To be a Negro in this country and to be relatively conscious is to be in a rage almost all the time.” - James Baldwin
What we discussed
(00:00) Content Warning
(00:47) Should the state fund adoptee therapy?
(02:21) Cosplaying as someone else’s child
(07:40) Why adoptees struggle with mental health
(11:31) Why holidays suck for us
(13:23) Does sharing our experiences help?
(19:26) The anger inside of us
(24:07) Finding an adoptee-competent therapist OR Finding a therapist that understands adoption OR Finding a therapist you don’t have to teach
(29:10) What works (other than therapy)?
(32:57) Societal gaslighting against adoptees
Links
Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | Tiktok
Learn more about Lia
Adoptee Therapists: https://growbeyondwords.com/adoptee-therapist-directory/
Credits
Special thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at [email protected]
Adoption, Therapy, and Self-Discovery: Fai Knudson's Story
Adoptees Crossing Lines
05/24/24 • 53 min
Fai Knudson
Fai Knudson grew up in a white, conservative town, always feeling different. As a biracial, transracial adoptee, Faye faced racism and isolation.
Leaving their hometown ignited a journey of self-discovery, leading to advocacy and therapy focused on adoptee mental health.
In this episode, Fai shares their powerful story, the challenges of being a transracial adoptee, and how they now help others navigate similar paths.
What we discussed
(00:18) Who is Fai Knudson?
(04:05) Feeling different
(05:32) Not allowed to read adoption paperwork
(06:30) Coming out of the fog
(09:11) Studying adoption for master’s
(13:53) Adoptee therapists
(21:32) Adoptee care is neglected
(28:12) Story behind “Good Faith Therapy”
(33:20) Support for adoptees
(35:01) Genetic graveyard
(36:24) Finding an adoptee affirming therapist
(39:34) Partial reunion
(47:54) Finding your authentic self
Links
Connect with Fai Knudson: LinkedIn
Good Faith Therapy Website | Good Faith Therapy Instagram
Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | Tiktok
Credits
Special thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at [email protected]
Exploring Abolition, Intergenerational Trauma, and Creative Resistance w/ Benjamin Lundberg Torres Sánchez
Adoptees Crossing Lines
06/28/24 • 54 min
Benjamin
Words matter. Especially when it comes to adoption. Benjamin Lundberg Torres Sanchez isn't just "adopted" - they were separated from their first family for 28 years.
In this episode, we unpack how the language we use shapes our understanding of adoption. Benjamin shares their journey of rejecting industry terminology and embracing more accurate descriptions of their experience.
We discuss how this shift in language opens up new possibilities for solidarity and political action.
"I think it's just really important to name what happened to us."
What we discussed
(00:22) Who is Benjamin Lundberg Torres Sanchez?
(01:41) Conceived in violence
(04:58) Adoption day
(07:23) Good experiences but still angry OR Good vs. bad adoptions
(10:10) Learning to think critically about adoption OR Language of adoption
(14:35) Being hungry for community OR Availability of light skinned children
(18:56) Not only focusing on adoptees OR Adoptees are not alone
(26:46) Organized abandonment
(28:30) We Are Holding This Magazine
(37:46) Intersectionality vs. isolation
(44:12) Finding alternative power brokers OR Finding power brokers
(48:14) Get curious
(51:32) Support Benjamin
Links
An Open Letter to the People who Bought Me
Adoptees Crossing Lines
02/09/23 • 33 min
An open letter to the people who bought me
Yesterday I decided to text my adoptive parents that they failed me as parents, it was the first time I ever confronted them. I talk about how they responded in this episode and open up about being sexually assaulted as a child...then gaslighted. This was never my burden to carry, but they always blamed me. They used religion as a guise to avoid responsibility. Instead of risking the possibility of ruining their image, they chose to definitely ruin my life.
This episode is an open letter to my adoptive parents, the people who bought me.
“Shame dies when we tell our story”
What we discussed
(00:00) What happened yesterday OR What I texted my adoptive parents OR Telling my adoptive parents they failed me
(01:52) No one believed I was sexually assaulted OR Being sexually assaulted was MY fault???!
(06:45) They were EDUCATORS
(08:06) Should child protective services be abolished? OR Abolishing child protective services? OR Why I’m an abolitionist
(09:42) Olivia Atkocaitis’ story
(11:02) How the police failed me before I was born OR The police system is not broken.
(14:22) My parents were cowards OR I’m relieved he died
(17:38) Standing up to my parents for the first time
(20:15) How they responded
(25:36) Why I sent the text
(28:39) Own your story
Links
Olivia Atkocaitis’ Story on NBC
Follow us on social media: Twitter | Instagram | Tiktok
Learn more about Lia
Credits
Special thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast, support his work on Instagram or e-mail him at [email protected]
Navigating Relationships as an Adoptee
Adoptees Crossing Lines
01/27/23 • 32 min
Navigating Relationships as an Adoptee
Description:
In this episode of Adoptees Crossing Lines, Noelle, Lia, and Tosha explore the complexities of navigating relationships as adoptees. From dating to friendships and family dynamics, they discuss how adoption trauma, abandonment issues, and people-pleasing tendencies impact their ability to connect with others. The conversation delves into why adoptees may struggle to feel secure in relationships and why educating partners and friends is so important. They also provide advice for those looking to build healthy relationships with adoptees.
In this episode, we cover:
(01:03) Sharing adoption status with partners and how it affects relationships.
(03:25) Lia discusses the difficulty of explaining estranged family relationships.
(04:05) Noelle reflects on fear of abandonment and its impact on introducing partners to family.
(06:26) The burden of educating partners and the need for them to educate themselves.
(07:51) Noelle’s positive experience of having a partner who actively learns about adoption.
(09:16) The struggle of being a people pleaser due to adoption trauma.
(12:22) Lia’s struggle to believe people truly care about her and feeling disposable.
(14:17) Noelle’s difficulty with bonding and having few deep relationships.
(15:45) The pressure to constantly put others first and ignore one's own needs.
(18:08) Noelle struggles to assert herself and avoid making others uncomfortable.
(19:05) Lia’s experience with friends not understanding how deeply adoption affects her.
(21:02) Lia’s attempt to address trauma with her adoptive parents and how it went poorly.
(22:55) The challenge of confronting adoptive parents about trauma and lack of accountability.
(24:51) The most challenging aspects of navigating relationships as an adoptee.
(28:08) Advice for those looking to build healthy relationships with adoptees.
Call To Action:
- Website: adopteescrossinglines.com
- Instagram: @adopteescrossinglines
- BlueSky: adopteecrossing.bsky.social
- TikTok: @adopteescrossinglines_
- Substack: Adoptees Crossing Lines Substack
Resource:
Peer Support Space - A free global online peer support group for those who survived the system as kids. Register here.
Work With Me:
Email: [email protected] for brand partnerships and business inquiries.
Editing by Samuel Oyedele:
Special thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast. Support his work on Instagram or email him at [email protected].
Why We’re Not Grateful
Adoptees Crossing Lines
12/23/22 • 30 min
Why We’re Not Grateful
Description:
In this episode of Adoptees Crossing Lines, Noelle, Lia, and Tosha dive into the complicated and often misunderstood topic of gratitude within the adoption experience. They discuss why the expectation of gratefulness placed upon adoptees is harmful and how it serves to silence their pain and experiences. The conversation explores the disconnect between the adoption community and the adoptee community, the harsh realities adoptees face, and why they refuse to conform to the narrative of being “grateful” for family separation.
In this episode, we cover:
- (01:06) The difference between the adoption community and the adoptee community.
- (04:26) Questioning the expectation of gratitude for being separated from family.
- (07:22) Challenging the societal narrative of adoptees needing to be grateful.
- (09:16) Leah’s powerful reflection on surviving abuse within her adoptive family.
- (10:42) The failure of social workers and the child welfare system to truly protect children.
- (14:30) The lifelong sentence of being an adoptee and its impact on identity.
- (15:00) The carceral nature of the child welfare system and how it fails families.
- (17:24) The dismissal of birthright and the hurtful expectation of adoptees to be grateful.
- (18:46) The inconsistency of adoption practices within families.
- (19:41) The absence of emotional support and how it impacts adoptee experiences.
- (27:49) Tasha’s observation on the narcissism and unpreparedness of adoptive parents.
Call To Action:
- Website: adopteescrossinglines.com
- Instagram: @adopteescrossinglines
- BlueSky: adopteecrossing.bsky.social
- TikTok: @adopteescrossinglines_
- Substack: Adoptees Crossing Lines Substack
Resource:
Peer Support Space - A free global online peer support group for those who survived the system as kids. Register here.
Work With Me:
Email: [email protected] for brand partnerships and business inquiries.
Editing by Samuel Oyedele:
Special thanks to Samuel Oyedele for editing our podcast. Support his work on Instagram or email him at [email protected].
Reflections on Grief, Healing, and Honoring My Mom
Adoptees Crossing Lines
01/24/25 • 19 min
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Podcast Q&A
Why did you start this show?
We started this show so we could be heard. The adoption narrative is almost ALWAYS focused on the industry and adoptive parents, not the adoptees who are most affected.
What do you hope listeners gain from listening to your show?
We are 3 people with 3 very different experiences of being adopted. In this podcast we deconstruct the romanticism holding up the adoption industry and expose the lies, abuse, and pain that gets silenced. We’re here to unwrap the shiny bow around adoption and speak our truths as adoptees. In doing so, we explain what it means and what it feels like to “come out of the fog”. This isn't your feel good podcast, we are angry, healing and honest adoptees.
Which episode should someone start with?
Welcome to Adoptees Crossing Lines
Which have been your favourite episodes so far?
Adoptees & Mental Health Adoptees & Saviorism Adoptees as Parents Adoptees & Grief
Which episode are you most proud of?
I'm most proud of our first episode. This all started with a tweet and eventually manifested, so to see it come to fruition is beautiful.
What is your vision for your show?
Our vision for the show for adoptees to feel seen, heard and loved. We hope to build community because we believe the only way we get through this collective trauma is together.
How did you come up with the name for your podcast?
Dr. Noelle actually came up with the name. We had been brainstorming about it and kept hitting walls. When we heard Adoptees Crossing Lines we really liked it because it really embodied what we were trying to do. We aren't here to cater to adoptive parents or the industry, we're here to tell the truth and to most we are crossing lines by going against the status quo, but to us this is our lived experience.
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FAQ
How many episodes does Adoptees Crossing Lines have?
Adoptees Crossing Lines currently has 44 episodes available.
What topics does Adoptees Crossing Lines cover?
The podcast is about Society & Culture, Personal Journals, Podcasts, Self-Improvement and Education.
What is the most popular episode on Adoptees Crossing Lines?
The episode title 'Navigating the Complex World of Adoption: Unveiling Azriel June's Journey' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Adoptees Crossing Lines?
The average episode length on Adoptees Crossing Lines is 38 minutes.
How often are episodes of Adoptees Crossing Lines released?
Episodes of Adoptees Crossing Lines are typically released every 14 days.
When was the first episode of Adoptees Crossing Lines?
The first episode of Adoptees Crossing Lines was released on Oct 24, 2022.
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