Ways to Help You Release Sorrow and Grief
09/30/24 • 14 min
Good day, today’s podcast is
“Ways to Help You Release Sorrow and Grief.
I have been a United Church of
Canada Minister for over 35 years and I have ministry in many churches. I have
seen Grief and loss take on many forms. Grief is a natural response to loss.
It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is
taken away. Often, the pain of loss can feel overwhelming. You may experience
all kinds of difficult and unexpected emotions, from shock or anger to
disbelief, guilt, and profound sadness. The pain of grief can also disrupt your
physical health, making it difficult to sleep, eat, or even think straight.
These are normal reactions to loss—and the more significant the loss, the more
intense your grief will be.
Coping
with the loss of someone or something you love is one of life’s largest
challenges. You may associate grieving with the death of a loved
one—which
is often the cause of the most intense type of grief—but any loss can cause
grief, including:
Termination from a job, company closing, serious illness,
divorce or break-up of a relationship, financial stability, a miscarriage,
retirement, death of a pet, loss of a friendship, loss of a dream, loss of
safety after trauma, selling the family home, and so on so forth.
Even
subtle losses in life can trigger a sense of grief. For example, you might
grieve after moving away from home, children changing schools, graduating from
college, or changing jobs.
Whatever
your loss, it's personal to you, so don't feel ashamed about how you feel, or
believe that it's somehow only appropriate to grieve for certain things. If the
person, animal, relationship, or situation was significant to you, it's normal
to grieve the loss you're experiencing. Whatever the cause of your grief,
though, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain, in time, can ease your
sadness and help yourself come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and
eventually move on with your life.
It can appear when you least expect it, such as when you
finally think you’ve processed what has happened. At other times, it may feel
heavy, like a crushing weight you can’t quite crawl out from under. Many of us
have been taught not to cry in north American culture especially males as it is
a sign of weakness.
In fact, processing grief can take significant time and
various rituals. Some even say we don’t actually process grief but merely get
used to it. However, we can practice ways to let go and accept our emotions.
Whether you’ve lost a loved one or are facing the end of a
relationship, the hurt exists.
It’s real. For some time, we may feel as though we need to
hold onto it for fear of more loss and hurt. So, when you’re ready to let go
and move forward, use the following ways to release sorrow and grief, making
room for new and happier emotions to enter your life once again.
We
carry grief and sorrow within our energy fields and our bodies. The two place
of sadness is carried in the heart chakra or top part of the breast bone.
Another area where emotions of grief and sadness is in our abdominal area.
Stomach aches, loss of appetite, lungs (grief), upper back and heart, chest and
the throat. Trapped emotions can cause many sensations in the body. For
difficult emotions, this could include:
·
muscle tension or tightness
·
a feeling of heaviness or tiredness
·
a “lump” or choking sensation in the throat
·
aching or pain
·
nausea or “knots” in the stomach
Here are some practical methods
to try in assisting you in your grief and sadness.
1.
Write a
Letter.
This could be to your ex or to the one who is gone. This can
offer a safe and private space to pour out your emotions. Take your time. Write
anything that comes to mind, whether that includes regrets or the unknown of
how to move forward without them.
You can even use this space to write what you appreciated
about them being in your life, leaning into a bit of positivity if it feels
right.
2. Bury It (Literally, Not Figuratively).
Okay, this may feel a little “woo-woo.” Yet, this practice
offers a symbolic way to let go.
• Grab an item or your
...
Good day, today’s podcast is
“Ways to Help You Release Sorrow and Grief.
I have been a United Church of
Canada Minister for over 35 years and I have ministry in many churches. I have
seen Grief and loss take on many forms. Grief is a natural response to loss.
It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is
taken away. Often, the pain of loss can feel overwhelming. You may experience
all kinds of difficult and unexpected emotions, from shock or anger to
disbelief, guilt, and profound sadness. The pain of grief can also disrupt your
physical health, making it difficult to sleep, eat, or even think straight.
These are normal reactions to loss—and the more significant the loss, the more
intense your grief will be.
Coping
with the loss of someone or something you love is one of life’s largest
challenges. You may associate grieving with the death of a loved
one—which
is often the cause of the most intense type of grief—but any loss can cause
grief, including:
Termination from a job, company closing, serious illness,
divorce or break-up of a relationship, financial stability, a miscarriage,
retirement, death of a pet, loss of a friendship, loss of a dream, loss of
safety after trauma, selling the family home, and so on so forth.
Even
subtle losses in life can trigger a sense of grief. For example, you might
grieve after moving away from home, children changing schools, graduating from
college, or changing jobs.
Whatever
your loss, it's personal to you, so don't feel ashamed about how you feel, or
believe that it's somehow only appropriate to grieve for certain things. If the
person, animal, relationship, or situation was significant to you, it's normal
to grieve the loss you're experiencing. Whatever the cause of your grief,
though, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain, in time, can ease your
sadness and help yourself come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and
eventually move on with your life.
It can appear when you least expect it, such as when you
finally think you’ve processed what has happened. At other times, it may feel
heavy, like a crushing weight you can’t quite crawl out from under. Many of us
have been taught not to cry in north American culture especially males as it is
a sign of weakness.
In fact, processing grief can take significant time and
various rituals. Some even say we don’t actually process grief but merely get
used to it. However, we can practice ways to let go and accept our emotions.
Whether you’ve lost a loved one or are facing the end of a
relationship, the hurt exists.
It’s real. For some time, we may feel as though we need to
hold onto it for fear of more loss and hurt. So, when you’re ready to let go
and move forward, use the following ways to release sorrow and grief, making
room for new and happier emotions to enter your life once again.
We
carry grief and sorrow within our energy fields and our bodies. The two place
of sadness is carried in the heart chakra or top part of the breast bone.
Another area where emotions of grief and sadness is in our abdominal area.
Stomach aches, loss of appetite, lungs (grief), upper back and heart, chest and
the throat. Trapped emotions can cause many sensations in the body. For
difficult emotions, this could include:
·
muscle tension or tightness
·
a feeling of heaviness or tiredness
·
a “lump” or choking sensation in the throat
·
aching or pain
·
nausea or “knots” in the stomach
Here are some practical methods
to try in assisting you in your grief and sadness.
1.
Write a
Letter.
This could be to your ex or to the one who is gone. This can
offer a safe and private space to pour out your emotions. Take your time. Write
anything that comes to mind, whether that includes regrets or the unknown of
how to move forward without them.
You can even use this space to write what you appreciated
about them being in your life, leaning into a bit of positivity if it feels
right.
2. Bury It (Literally, Not Figuratively).
Okay, this may feel a little “woo-woo.” Yet, this practice
offers a symbolic way to let go.
• Grab an item or your
...
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Why You set Boundaries
In this episode we engaged in” Why you set boundaries for
yourself?”
Boundaries are just limits.
It’s a line you draw that you feel protects you: emotionally,
physically, socially, and or spatially. All through life we are faced with boundaries.
From the time we were children, when our parents said, “No hitting your
siblings,” to adults now having social distancing boundaries enforced.
How often do you think about boundaries in your
relationships?
If you want a healthy relationship, you must be able to set
and keep boundaries. Without them, you’re likely to have unnecessary conflict.
You can set boundaries while you are dating or once you’ve actually made a
commitment to a long-term relationship.
Conflict can arise even with boundaries, but more conflict
will come without them. For example, during the dating stage, men and women may
not talk a great deal about each other having friends of the opposite sex (Or
same sex, depending on where your preferences lay.).
When
committed to a long-term relationship and one or both of partners may want to
hang out with someone who could seem competitive to them, it could cause an
issue.
Some
males don't like their partner to hang out with other guys - even if they say
they are just friends. Some women are the same way. If their partner wants to
go have dinner with a female friend, it is often times difficult for their
partner to feel good about it. The same is true with same sex relations or any
relationship.
Granted,
some couples are completely fine with such arrangements, but the important key
to note is to have a discussion about it. State what you are comfortable with
and set boundaries if necessary.
Double
standards are a no-no as well. If your partner tells you they are allowed to
hang out with someone, but you are not allowed in the same way, that's a double
standard. There have been incidents where one partner may restrict their
partner of going out seeing their family or friends. This an abusive
relationship of power and is not healthy for the one who is powerless. They
need to get out of the situation immediately as there may be no room for their
need for boundaries.
For
optimal growth in a relationship, healthy boundaries ought to be discussed and
agreed upon. Each person needs to take responsibility for their role in the
relationship and draw lines when it comes to what is acceptable and what is
not.
It’s
alright for you to say no to things that you are uncomfortable with in a
relationship. If he / she is flirting with the waitress bothers you, tell them.
If she’s texting her ex and it bothers you, let her know.
Your
expression may or may not result in your partner changing their behavior, but
at least you can discuss how it makes you feel and not end up with resentments
down the road. You’ll also find out, if this is the type of relationship you
want long-term.
Within
our body energy system, the belief and values we grow up will may need to
change as they are not health. Often change in our boundaries will not be
except by others as the are use to the old system. In my own family there was
no clear boundaries in thinking differently, in behaviour, and rescuing system
to keep you in the same system as before.
An
example of this could be in a cult, where having no boundaries around sexual
intimacy, only one way of thinking, not being allow to explore knowledge in
throughout the universe. You are told the world is flat than you have to
believe it is flat. Religious organizations can have a set of beliefs and
values that can separate you from the rest of society.
In
addition to boundaries that have already been mentioned, here are some other boundaries
that are common in relationships:
1.
Intimacy
Have
an honest discussion around sexual intimacy.
Both
you and your partner should be able to express your:
• thoughts
• beliefs
• and boundaries regarding sexual expression in
the relationship.
It
might feel awkward, but press through. Understanding each other’s preferences,
beliefs, and expectations can help your relationship thrive and leave less room
for resentment, confusion, or other negative emotions.
2.
Finances
Discussions
about finances are important in a relationship. Those that ignore this topic
tend to run into problems down the road.
Discuss
your thoughts, expectations, and boundaries around money. If you don’t se...
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