Your Money, Your Rules | Financial Freedom, Financial Mindset, Scarcity Mindset, Budgeting, Financial Planning - 110 | How to Stop Letting Money Control You and Start Creating Real Financial Confidence

110 | How to Stop Letting Money Control You and Start Creating Real Financial Confidence

05/19/25 • 14 min

Your Money, Your Rules | Financial Freedom, Financial Mindset, Scarcity Mindset, Budgeting, Financial Planning

Does it ever feel like your mood, decisions, or sense of safety are completely wrapped up with your money?

In this episode, we're diving into why money feels so emotionally charged—and how to shift out of fear and into real financial confidence. Money only feels like it’s controlling you because you’ve (unknowingly) handed your power over to it.

Most of us were conditioned to believe that money equals security, success, or even love. So, when we don’t have “enough,” it can trigger shame, fear, or paralysis. That’s not a financial literacy problem—it’s a nervous system and identity conversation.

Here’s what we explore in this episode:

Why traditional financial strategies ignore the emotional root of money stress
How conditional thinking like “I can’t spend until I feel safe” keeps you stuck
What it means to ask: Who am I being with money?
The difference between “green light” (aligned) and “red light” (fear-based) financial decisions
How to build bridge beliefs that support an empowered money identity
Why nervous system regulation is key to financial freedom and long-term wealth

Resources mentioned in this episode:

The Having: The Secret Art of Feeling and Growing Rich by Suh Yoon Lee and Jooyun Hong

Want to learn more? Here are your next steps:

Step 1: Join my FREE Facebook Community.

Connect, share, and learn how to master your money with other women just like you.

➡️ Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/941450038160915

Step 2: Grab your FREE Human Design chart

Curious what your Human Design chart reveals about how you're uniquely designed to make aligned financial decisions?

➡️ Get your chart here: https://generatealifewelllived.com/receive-your-human-design-chart

Step 3: Ready to transform your relationship with money and build true financial confidence?

Let’s create a strategy that feels aligned, intentional, and empowering—just for you.

➡️ Schedule your 1-hour Money Mastery Call here: https://generatealifewelllived.com/11-support

Money doesn't have to feel overwhelming. Let's create a strategy that feels nurturing and custom to you.

From my soul to yours,

Erin

Got a question? Send me a text.

Does it ever feel like your mood, decisions, or sense of safety are completely wrapped up with your money?

Here’s what we explore in this episode:

Why traditional financial strategies ignore the emotional root of money stress
How conditional thinking like “I can’t spend until I feel safe” keeps you stuck
What it means to ask: Who am I being with money?
The difference between “green light” (aligned) and “red light” (fear-based) financial decisions
How to build bridge beliefs that support an empowered money identity
Why nervous system regulation is key to financial freedom and long-term wealth

Resources mentioned in this episode:

The Having: The Secret Art of Feeling and Growing Rich by Suh Yoon Lee and Jooyun Hong

Want to learn more? Here are your next steps:

Step 1: Join my FREE Facebook Community.

Connect, share, and learn how to master your money with other women just like you.

➡️ Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/941450038160915

Step 2: Grab your FREE Human Design chart

Curious what your Human Design chart reveals about how you're uniquely designed to make aligned financial decisions?

➡️ Get your chart here: https://generatealifewelllived.com/receive-your-human-design-chart

Step 3: Ready to transform your relationship with money and build true financial confidence?

Let’s create a strategy that feels aligned, intentional, and empowering—just for you.

➡️ Schedule your 1-hour Money Mastery Call here: https://generatealifewelllived.com/11-support

Money doesn't have to feel overwhelming. Let's create a strategy that feels nurturing and custom to you.

From my soul to yours,

Erin

Previous Episode

109 | Is Your Financial Plan Creating Financial Freedom—Or Quietly Causing Burnout?

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Does your financial plan feel more stressful than supportive? Many women entrepreneurs try to follow rigid financial formulas that don’t align with their lives or businesses. Traditional plans often focus on distant futures without considering your evolving goals, wealth consciousness, or business changes.

A financial plan should be simple, clear, and flexible, evolving as you do. Build your plan around your values—not someone else’s template.

Key takeaways:

Keep your financial plan clear, simple, and personal.
Build your plan around your values, not external advice.
Balance achievement with rest and celebration.
Allow your plan to evolve as you grow and change.

Trust yourself to make decisions that support your unique goals and values.

Want to learn more? Here are your next steps:

Step 1: Join my FREE Facebook Community.

Connect, share, and learn how to master your money with other women just like you.

➡️ Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/941450038160915

Step 2: Grab your FREE Human Design chart

Curious what your Human Design chart reveals about how you're uniquely designed to make aligned financial decisions?

➡️ Get your chart here: https://generatealifewelllived.com/receive-your-human-design-chart

Step 3: Ready to transform your relationship with money and build true financial confidence?

Let’s create a strategy that feels aligned, intentional, and empowering—just for you.

➡️ Schedule your 1-hour Money Mastery Call here: https://generatealifewelllived.com/11-support

Money doesn't have to feel overwhelming. Let's create a strategy that feels nurturing and custom to you.

From my soul to yours,

Erin

Next Episode

111 | How Sacred Money Dates Support Financial Freedom, Nervous System Regulation, and a Better Money Mindset

Got a question? Send me a text.

If you’ve been avoiding your finances because they feel overwhelming, stressful, or just too much—this episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, I share the weekly practice that transformed my own relationship with money: money dates. Even as a former Certified Financial Planner and CFO, I used to avoid looking at my numbers—until I started approaching money through the lens of nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and money mindset work.

Whether you're navigating business finances or you're trying to feel more grounded with your personal spending, this ritual will help you move from money avoidance to confidence and clarity.

Key takeaways:

Create a safe, supportive environment to check in with your money
Bring more emotional regulation into your financial routine
Review income, spending, and decisions with curiosity—not shame
Build a system that actually supports your financial freedom

Let’s stop hustling for worth and start building a relationship with money that feels good, aligned, and empowering.

Want to learn more? Here are your next steps:

Step 1: Join my FREE Facebook Community.

Connect, share, and learn how to master your money with other women just like you.

➡️ Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/941450038160915

Step 2: Grab your FREE Human Design chart

Curious what your Human Design chart reveals about how you're uniquely designed to make aligned financial decisions?

➡️ Get your chart here: https://generatealifewelllived.com/receive-your-human-design-chart

Step 3: Ready to transform your relationship with money and build true financial confidence?

Let’s create a strategy that feels aligned, intentional, and empowering—just for you.

➡️ Schedule your 1-hour Money Mastery Call here: https://generatealifewelllived.com/11-support

Money doesn't have to feel overwhelming. Let's create a strategy that feels nurturing and custom to you.

From my soul to yours,

Erin

Your Money, Your Rules | Financial Freedom, Financial Mindset, Scarcity Mindset, Budgeting, Financial Planning - 110 | How to Stop Letting Money Control You and Start Creating Real Financial Confidence

Transcript

Erin Gray00:00:00.381

Have you ever felt like your entire mood depends on your bank account balance , like money is somehow calling the shots in your life , dictating what you can and cannot do , how you feel and even how you see yourself ?

Erin Gray00:00:15.349

If so , I want you to know that you are not alone . This has been my journey . It is , more often than not , a lo