What do you do when the Emotional Abuser comes back?

04/20/22 • 20 min

What to do when an Emotional Abuser comes back into your life and tries to reconnect. I share a personal story, how I was stuck in flight or fight and how I could use all the healing and personal work I did for months to help me in that moment.
If you need support:
Website: jessicaknightcoaching.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @jessicaknightcoaching

I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3
They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]
{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Support the show

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]
{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

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How to Diffuse a Narcissist

How do you communicate with a Narcissist? Most of the time, using communication tools (that are all the rage on Instagram) will not help you with communicating with a difficult partner.
I created a series of canned responses that can be helpful with diffusing conflict. You can get them here: https://jessicaknightcoaching.activehosted.com/f/3
They will be emailed to you with a plain subject just in case someone in your life has an eye on your emails.

Support the show

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]
{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

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Emotional Abuse Q & A

The top 10 questions I've received since starting this podcast.

I don't think he means it or knows what he is doing. Is it still abuse?
Am I being gaslit? How do I know? What if I'm just too sensitive?
Have you experienced a Narcissist or Abuser changing?
How can I start to step away?
Can I tell him that he's abusive?
Can he really change?
How do I start dating after an abusive relationship?
How do I ask for help? My family and friends don't understand.
Was I wrong to not apologize?
What is the difference between a Narcissist and an Abuser?

If you need support:
Website: emotionalabusecoach.com
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach

Support the show

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: [email protected]
{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse

{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist
{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

You Are Not Crazy - What do you do when the Emotional Abuser comes back?

Transcript

Today I want to talk about a tough-to-understand topic: what happens/what can you do when the abusive partner tries to reconnect with you?

When I talk about abuse in my life I typically reference my upbringing, my marriage and a past relationship - and this story is about the past relationship. And while I think abuse is abuse, sometimes it is different when you are married - and in my case - have kids. The healing looks different. Anyway, our relationship ended 8 months ago and healing