"Confidence Comes From Keeping The Promises You Make To Yourself."

02/17/25 • 11 min

In this episode of WORDS MATTER, Deanna Ley, The Catalytic Coach, kicks off a brand-new series on self-confidence—what it is, how we lose it, and how to build it back stronger than ever before.

Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build. And at the core of that process is self-trust. When you consistently keep the promises you make to yourself, you reinforce your own reliability, creating a foundation of unshakable confidence.

Deanna breaks down why self-trust matters, how incongruence erodes confidence, and the simple, practical steps you can take today to start rebuilding belief in yourself.

What Listeners Will Learn:

Why confidence is built, not given
How breaking promises to yourself damages self-trust
The role of congruence in confidence-building
How to shift from "I want to be confident" to actually becoming confident
A step-by-step framework for strengthening self-belief

Memorable Quotes:

"Confidence comes from keeping the promises you make to yourself." - Ed Mylett
"Think about it... If you had a friend who constantly told you they’d show up, but then flaked out, would you trust them? Of course not. Yet we do this to ourselves all the time."
"Every time we break a promise to ourselves—whether it’s skipping that workout we swore we’d do, hitting snooze instead of getting up early, or telling ourselves we’ll start Monday—we chip away at our own confidence."
"Your brain keeps score." - Brendon Burchard
"When we act in alignment with who we say we want to be, our confidence grows."
"Confidence isn’t built in a day. But every day, with every promise kept, you are strengthening that foundation."
"The goal isn’t perfection; it’s proof. Proof to yourself that you can follow through."

This episode inspires listeners to take action, proving to themselves—one promise at a time—that they are capable, trustworthy, and confident in who they are becoming.

Your WORDS MATTER because YOU MATTER.

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In this episode of WORDS MATTER, Deanna Ley, The Catalytic Coach, kicks off a brand-new series on self-confidence—what it is, how we lose it, and how to build it back stronger than ever before.

Deanna breaks down why self-trust matters, how incongruence erodes confidence, and the simple, practical steps you can take today to start rebuilding belief in yourself.

What Listeners Will Learn:

Why confidence is built, not given
How breaking promises to yourself damages self-trust
The role of congruence in confidence-building
How to shift from "I want to be confident" to actually becoming confident
A step-by-step framework for strengthening self-belief

Memorable Quotes:

"Confidence comes from keeping the promises you make to yourself." - Ed Mylett
"Think about it... If you had a friend who constantly told you they’d show up, but then flaked out, would you trust them? Of course not. Yet we do this to ourselves all the time."
"Every time we break a promise to ourselves—whether it’s skipping that workout we swore we’d do, hitting snooze instead of getting up early, or telling ourselves we’ll start Monday—we chip away at our own confidence."
"Your brain keeps score." - Brendon Burchard
"When we act in alignment with who we say we want to be, our confidence grows."
"Confidence isn’t built in a day. But every day, with every promise kept, you are strengthening that foundation."
"The goal isn’t perfection; it’s proof. Proof to yourself that you can follow through."

This episode inspires listeners to take action, proving to themselves—one promise at a time—that they are capable, trustworthy, and confident in who they are becoming.

Your WORDS MATTER because YOU MATTER.

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"Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy."

In this episode of WORDS MATTER, Deanna Ley, The Catalytic Coach, dives into the double-edged nature of comparison and its impact on our mindset. While comparison can fuel growth and inspiration, it can just as easily steal our joy when it becomes a measure of our worth.

Deanna unpacks how comparison, amplified by negativity bias, can leave us feeling inadequate and stuck. But with practical reframes, tools for self-reflection, and strategies to celebrate our own progress, she shares how to transform comparison from a joy-thief into a catalyst for growth.

What Listeners Will Learn:

• Why comparison is natural and how it impacts our self-perception
• How negativity bias magnifies feelings of inadequacy
• Practical ways to reframe comparison from discouragement to inspiration
• How to turn jealousy into curiosity and motivation
• Simple strategies to track your progress and celebrate your wins

Memorable Quotes:

• “Comparison is the thief of joy (Theodore Roosevelt) —when it pulls our attention away from our own path.”
• “Jealousy is just unspoken desire. Instead of letting it bring you down, let it guide you forward.”
• “Comparison steals our joy when we use it to measure our worth instead of our growth.”
• “I am not behind. I am not less than. I am exactly where I need to be.”
• “Let your journey, your resilience, and your growth be the proof of your Possible.”

This episode inspires listeners to shift their perspective on comparison, turning it from a source of self-doubt into a roadmap for personal growth and joy.

Your WORDS MATTER because YOU MATTER.

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"Whether You Think You Can Or Think You Can't, You're Right."

In this episode of WORDS MATTER, Deanna Ley, The Catalytic Coach, continues her self-confidence series by diving into the power of belief. Inspired by Henry Ford’s iconic quote—"Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right."—this episode explores how our thoughts shape our reality, drive our actions, and ultimately determine our success.

Deanna unpacks the science behind mindset, discussing negativity bias, confirmation bias, and how past experiences have shaped our limiting beliefs. But the good news? Those beliefs can be rewritten. This episode offers practical, actionable steps to shift from an I CAN’T mindset to one of I CAN, setting the foundation for self-confidence that leads to action.

What Listeners Will Learn:

Why your beliefs shape your reality
How negativity bias and confirmation bias reinforce self-doubt
The impact of carrying old limiting beliefs—and how to let them go
How to actively rewire your brain to believe in your own capabilities
A powerful I CAN exercise to shift limiting beliefs into possibilities

Memorable Quotes:

"Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right." – Henry Ford
"Your thoughts shape your reality. If you believe YOU CAN’T, you might not even try. But if you believe YOU CAN, you start looking for ways to make it Possible."
"Just because you’ve been carrying it doesn’t mean it belongs to you. And just because you’ve collected it doesn’t mean you have to keep it. GET RID OF IT!"
"Negativity bias keeps us stuck in the I CAN'T mindset because it makes us believe that our failures are bigger, more significant, and more defining than they actually are."
"Your brain will find proof of whatever you tell it to look for."
"What we believe is what comes to be."
"Confidence isn’t built in your head—it’s built in action."
"Implementation leads to transformation."

This episode inspires listeners to challenge their limiting beliefs, rewire their thought patterns, and take the first step toward proving to themselves that they CAN.

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WORDS MATTER with Deanna Ley - "Confidence Comes From Keeping The Promises You Make To Yourself."

Transcript

Welcome back, friends, to another episode of WORDS MATTER. Today, we're beginning a brand-new series—one that has the potential to change everything about the way you see yourself, the way you show up, and the way you move through life.

For the next several episodes, we’re diving deep into the foundation of self-confidence—what it is, how we lose it, and most importantly, how we can build it back stronger than ever before.

Because confidence isn’t