From a very dark place

10/11/24 • 51 min

Episode 12 Season 2
Another amazing guest joins the boy's and what a story he has to tell.
Life in the Armed forces
Suicide
Complex Greif
Adjustment Disorder
Complex PTSD
Trevor Bygate, 48, joins Martin and Patrick for an informal chat about his time in the Armed Forces and how he received the devastating news that his Daughter Chloe had taken her own life in 2014 when she was just 19.
It led to him being medically discharged with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and he has used the experience to educate others of mental health.
Trevor initially took several months off work, but it was not until 2019 that he was diagnosed with complex PTSD and medically discharged from the Army.

He is keen to express his gratitude to the Royal British Legion, which helped him in his recovery after he left the armed forces.

The charity, which provides financial, social and emotional support for those who are and have been in the armed forces, helped fund Chloe's funeral. He described its support as "first class".

Trevor tells us how he received the devastating news whilst away on duty, how the Army supported him through this trauma, what happened to his mental health and how he made it through to today.
Trevor now works as a mental health advocate for HM Revenue and Customs while also helping to give presentations on behalf of Papyrus (Parents' Association for the Prevention of Young Suicide) - a charity dedicated to the prevention of suicide of young people.
He is keen to break the stigma around mental health and show it is OK to talk about struggles, while educating others on the topic.
"I always say to myself, Chloe didn't die for nothing, she died for something and that's me making sure that this story gets out."

One of Trevors outlets during his grieving process was running, sport and completing 6 Marathons raising thousands for charity. This has driven him on to where he finds himself today and finds himself selected for 2025's Invictus games in Canada.
"This year is 10 years since the Invictus Games started, it's 10 years since Chloe died, and I got the phone call to tell me that I was selected on 7 June - which is her 30th birthday.
Trevor believes Chloe was looking down on him the day he found out he had been selected for the games.
This is a truly amazing story from such an inspirational man.
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He is keen to express his gratitude to the Royal British Legion, which helped him in his recovery after he left the armed forces.

The charity, which provides financial, social and emotional support for those who are and have been in the armed forces, helped fund Chloe's funeral. He described its support as "first class".

Check out our new website at www.whostomanddick.com
https://www.papyrus-uk.org/
https://www.invictusgamesfoundation.org/

Check out our website at www.whostomanddick.com

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Episode 11
Sorry this episode was delayed by seven days due to our special last week where Martin updated us on his Cancer and his new battle.
Today the boys interview a very special guest in Jeff Boland.
Jeff once an active firefighter on the front line helping people and saving lives found the pressures very hard at times and found an outlet in a lite drink with colleagues after a busy and sometimes stressful shouts.
Before long the drink had taken control and Jeff became an Alcoholic and his life spiralled down hill fast.
Jeff later found that his Liver had been severely damaged through his drinking and with deteriorating health soon found that the only option was a Liver transplant.
After that Jeff thought it couldn't get any worse but his heart was the issue this time and several Heart attacks followed before he was back in hospital for some bypass surgery.
Listen as Jeff takes us through his life story, it is fascinating and truly amazing, Jeff certainly has a very strong will and its that which has got him through it all today.
No joke of the week this week but it will return, thanks for listening and please like and share our Podcast where yo can.
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Season 2 - Episode 13
Well we can hardly believe it ourselves but we launch episode 13 of season two today.
This week Martin and Patrick just have a chance to natter and martins been doing a little research on Smart watches, fit watches and wearables used for monitoring your health.
A number of devices are ion the market which can measure steps, pulse, blood pressure, heart rate and even oxygen levels and ECG but just how accurate are they, should they be trusted and can the cause unnecessary anxiety.
Social media and illness, we know that Martin like to update his Family, friends and followers on the stages of his Journey with Cancer and updating on things like treatment, medication, and wellbeing, but is Social media the right place, what sort of comments and messages result?
Ian Trushell, one of our contributors who is fighting stage 4 bowl Cancer tells us about the trolls and messages he has received on his social media accounts.
Yes, we do get a joke of the week from Martin and this week he also has a little ditty to recite.

#Mediastinal Germ Cell Tumour
#Prostate Cancer
#Bronchiectasis
#CharcotmarietoothDisease
#Emphysema
#The after life
#Ghosts
#Spirts
#Ouija boards
#Mediums
#Psychics
#Reincarnation
#HeartTransplant
#EbsteinsAnomaly
#RareCondition
#HealthJourney
#LifeChangingDiagnosis
#MentalHealth
#Vulnerability
#SelfCompassion
#PostTraumaticGrowth
#MedicalMiracle
#BBCSports
#Inspiration
#Cardiology
#Surgery
#Podcast
#Healthcare
#HeartHealth
#MedicalBreakthrough
#EmotionalJourney
#SupportSystem
#HealthcareHeroes
#PatientStories
#CardiologyCare
#MedicalJourney
#LifeLessons
#MentalWellness
#HealthAwareness
#InspirationalTalk
#LivingWithIllness
#RareDiseaseAwareness
#SharingIsCaring
#MedicalSupport
#BBCRep
#bbcupload
#papyrus