You Want a Marriage or a Wedding? The Why Behind the Ring!

02/13/25 • 70 min

Welcome to Season 2 of the WE3 The Winning Team Podcast. WE want to extend a heartfelt thank you to all of you who listened, liked and downloaded any episode from Season One of your Podcast! THANK YOU! Your support means the world to us. Please continue to like, comment, and share with your family and friends.

WE kick off the season by acknowledging the societal shifts around marriage and exploring the motivations behind wanting to get married today.

Is it societal pressure? A deep desire for partnership? Fear of being alone? WE dive into the "why" and challenge listeners to examine their own reasons.

With a focus on Christian values, WE discuss how this union fosters Christ-like qualities, encouraging vulnerability and growth. WE invite you to reflect on your own reasons for marriage and join us in this conversation, examining the cultural shift towards later marriages, cohabitation, and the rising influence of economically independent "alpha women."

Balancing love and individuality in marriage might seem like a daunting task, but it's the foundation of a thriving relationship.
The dynamics of modern marriage are in a state of flux, and WE delve into the balance between independence and interdependence. While exploring personal stories and societal narratives, such as the "strong Black woman" trope, WE highlight the importance of mutual support and shared responsibilities in creating a harmonious partnership.

WE challenge the traditional 50-50 financial split, advocating for a 100-100 approach to foster unity.

Join us as WE deliberate about the importance of self-reflection before marriage, the significance of intimacy and communication, and the role of mutual support in strengthening the bonds that make marriage a beautiful journey.

According to our research...people get married for the following reasons in 2025:
1) Companionship & Intimacy: Finding a lifelong partner for emotional support, companionship, and intimacy.

Pros: Reduces loneliness, provides emotional support, fosters intimacy and connection.
Cons: Can lead to codependency, stifle personal growth, and create pressure to conform.

2) Starting a Family: Building a family and raising children together.

Pros: Provides a loving environment for children, strengthens family bonds, creates a sense of purpose.
Cons: Can put a strain on the relationship, limit individual freedom, and increase financial responsibilities.

3) Social Status & Tradition: Fulfilling societal expectations and adhering to traditional norms.

Pros: Can provide a sense of belonging and social acceptance.
Cons: Can lead to marrying for the wrong reasons (e.g., pressure from family), neglecting personal desires.

4) Financial Stability: Sharing financial responsibilities, pooling resources, and increasing financial security.

Pros: Can lead to improved financial stability, shared financial goals, and increased financial security.
Cons: Can lead to financial disagreements, power imbalances, and loss of financial independence.

5) Legal and Social Benefits: Gaining legal rights and benefits, such as inheritance rights, healthcare benefits, and tax advantages.

Pros: Provides legal and financial security, simplifies legal matters, and offers ce

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Podcast Music by Micah Gatewood

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WE kick off the season by acknowledging the societal shifts around marriage and exploring the motivations behind wanting to get married today.

Is it societal pressure? A deep desire for partnership? Fear of being alone? WE dive into the "why" and challenge listeners to examine their own reasons.

WE challenge the traditional 50-50 financial split, advocating for a 100-100 approach to foster unity.

According to our research...people get married for the following reasons in 2025:
1) Companionship & Intimacy: Finding a lifelong partner for emotional support, companionship, and intimacy.

Pros: Reduces loneliness, provides emotional support, fosters intimacy and connection.
Cons: Can lead to codependency, stifle personal growth, and create pressure to conform.

2) Starting a Family: Building a family and raising children together.

Pros: Provides a loving environment for children, strengthens family bonds, creates a sense of purpose.
Cons: Can put a strain on the relationship, limit individual freedom, and increase financial responsibilities.

3) Social Status & Tradition: Fulfilling societal expectations and adhering to traditional norms.

Pros: Can provide a sense of belonging and social acceptance.
Cons: Can lead to marrying for the wrong reasons (e.g., pressure from family), neglecting personal desires.

4) Financial Stability: Sharing financial responsibilities, pooling resources, and increasing financial security.

Pros: Can lead to improved financial stability, shared financial goals, and increased financial security.
Cons: Can lead to financial disagreements, power imbalances, and loss of financial independence.

5) Legal and Social Benefits: Gaining legal rights and benefits, such as inheritance rights, healthcare benefits, and tax advantages.

Pros: Provides legal and financial security, simplifies legal matters, and offers ce

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She's The PRIZE...He's a GIFT!

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Girl dad's proclaim that their daughters are THE PRIZE, but as parents of a son, we declare that he is A GIFT.
A Prize

Implies winning or achieving something: A prize is often earned or sought after. It can suggest a competitive or transactional element.
Focus on external validation: The value of a prize is often determined by others' perceptions.
Can create pressure: Labeling someone as a "prize" might inadvertently put pressure on them to maintain a certain image or standard.

A Gift

Implies unconditional love and acceptance: A gift is freely given without expectation of return.
Focus on intrinsic value: The worth of a gift is often found in its uniqueness and the thoughtfulness behind it.
Promotes gratitude and appreciation: Recognizing someone as a gift fosters a sense of gratitude for their presence in one's life.

Are you preparing your daughters to know how to receive the gift of my son (or young men such as him)?

During this podcast, you will get the opportunity to meet Micah Gatewood, our first guest, as he shares his transformative experience from High Point University to Bradley University. Discover how Micah navigated freshman year, grew as a sports announcer, and prepared for the abundant opportunities that await him at Bradley’s prominent Sports Communication program. You’ll get a firsthand account of his ambitions, the challenges of maintaining personal values, and his enthusiasm for joining diverse clubs and internships.
Modern dating is a maze, and we’re here to guide you through it. Compare romantic gestures and communication styles from the 90s to today's trends, and understand the frustrations young men face with mixed signals in the dating scene. Through engaging anecdotes and discussions, we unravel how social media and music shape behaviors, the importance of authentic connections, and the role of mutual support and understanding in relationships. If you’ve ever wondered how to stay true to yourself while navigating modern dating's pressures, this conversation is a must-listen.
Building a strong relationship in college? We’ve got you covered. We tackle everything from aligning personal values with your partner to balancing career aspirations with personal growth. Explore the significance of love languages and the power of trust and patience in relationships. Plus, get practical advice on time management and effective communication to achieve a fulfilling relationship and personal success. With heartfelt reminders of faith and divine timing, this episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone seeking meaningful connections.

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Marriage Myths EXPOSED!

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What happens when the fairytale collides with reality? In this eye-opening episode of WE3 The Winning Team Podcast, WE tackle three relationship myths that might be sabotaging your journey to marriage: opposites attract, soulmates, and love at first sight.
We love hearing your feedback! Please like, share, subscribe and let us know which relationship myths you've struggled with or what topics you'd like us to cover in future episodes.

We love hearing your feedback! Please like, share, subscribe and let us know which relationship myths you've struggled with or what topics you'd like us to cover in future episodes.

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As promised...here are some thought-provoking discussion questions to help you reflect and consider a biblical perspective on marriage:

What experiences or influences (movies, family, personal relationships) shaped your beliefs about love and marriage?
Have you ever seen a couple who disproved one of these myths? What made their relationship work?
How does your view of love and relationships align with what the Bible teaches?

Opposites Attract – The Myth of Excitement

Can two people with completely different values and life goals truly have a healthy, lasting marriage? Why or why not?
Have you ever been in a relationship where differences initially felt exciting but later caused conflict? What happened?
What qualities are more important in a spouse: compatibility or chemistry? Why?
How does Amos 3:3 ("Can two walk together unless they are agreed?") challenge or confirm your beliefs about opposites attracting?
Instead of focusing on differences, what should couples prioritize in a relationship for long-term success?

Soulmates Exist – The Myth of ‘The One’

Do you believe God created only one perfect match for each person? Why or why not?
If there’s only one soulmate for everyone, what happens if someone marries the ‘wrong’ person? Does that mean their marriage is doomed?
How does believing in soulmates affect the way people handle conflict in relationships?
What does the Bible say about love being a choice rather than a predestined fate? (1 Corinthians 13:4-7, Ephesians 5:25)
How can a couple build a strong marriage rather than just hope to ‘find’ the perfect one?

Love at First Sight – The Myth of Instant Connection

What is the difference between attraction and love? Can they happen at the same time?
Have you or someone you know ever fallen for someone quickly, only to realize later they weren’t the right person? What did you learn?
If love is based on emotions and chemistry alone, what happens when those feelings fade?

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WE3 The Winning Team - You Want a Marriage or a Wedding? The Why Behind the Ring!

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especially in a Christian marriage where you , as a individual , is striving to be just like God in all of your ways and all of your thoughts , your words , your deeds and your actions . And imagine me doing the exact same thing . I'm not focused on the role of a husband , you're not focused on the role of a wife , but we're focused on being just like Christ has has ordained f