Ask WAC: Help! I’m losing my friends to parenthood

01/28/25 • 45 min

We rally round a childfree couple whose friend groups are now full of parents, with little time for anything but their kids. This is such a tricky problem that we’ve all either faced or one day will, so we tapped the We are Childfree community hive mind for some stellar support and amazing advice!

If you have a problem you'd like the community's help with, email [email protected] with "Ask WAC" as the subject line.

Questions from We are Childfree members get priority! To jump the queue, get episodes a week early, and find your community of childfree cheerleaders, join us at www.wearechildfree.com/join/ 🙌

Links

Study: Parents spend more time with children now than they did 50 years ago

The Cut: Adorable Little Detonators

Report: Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation

Meetup Group: Cape Coral Childfree Women

Book: We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships

Childfree Trip: Belize: Jungles, Mayans & Manatees With Zoe

Book: Harpy: A Manifesto for Childfree Women

If you have a problem you'd like the community's help with, email [email protected] with "Ask WAC" as the subject line.

Questions from We are Childfree members get priority! To jump the queue, get episodes a week early, and find your community of childfree cheerleaders, join us at www.wearechildfree.com/join/ 🙌

Links

Study: Parents spend more time with children now than they did 50 years ago

The Cut: Adorable Little Detonators

Report: Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation

Meetup Group: Cape Coral Childfree Women

Book: We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships

Childfree Trip: Belize: Jungles, Mayans & Manatees With Zoe

Book: Harpy: A Manifesto for Childfree Women

Previous Episode

Ask WAC: He doesn't want me to get a tubal ligation

“Now I wish I'd never brought it up but mostly I'm sad and feel quite alone.”

We help out a childfree woman whose partner is pushing back against her decision to get permanent birth control surgery. There’s tons of great advice from the childfree community here, about negotiating this tricky subject with your partner, what to do if they seem to be sitting on the fence, and owning what is ultimately your choice, for your life.

If you have a problem you'd like the community's help with, email [email protected] with "Ask WAC" as the subject line.

Questions from We are Childfree members get priority! To jump the queue, get episodes a week early, and find your community of childfree cheerleaders, join us at www.wearechildfree.com/join/ 🙌

Links
Childfree Stories: My Body Their Choice

Podcast: Don’t fear regret, with Orna Donath

Journal: Do childfree people regret their choice?
Journal: Happy World Vasectomy Day!

Resource: The Childfree Friendly Doctors List

Resource: Sterilisation Binder Guide

Next Episode

Ask WAC: External pressures or authentic desires?

OK this one’s a doozy! Even if you’re sure you want kids, society’s going to try and pressure you to doubt yourself and change your mind. And when that happens, how do you separate those external influences from your true heart’s desire. We offer some guidance, with the help of our wonderful childfree community!

If you have a problem you'd like the community's help with, email [email protected] with "Ask WAC" as the subject line.

Questions from We are Childfree members get priority! To jump the queue, get episodes a week early, and find your community of childfree cheerleaders, join us at www.wearechildfree.com/join/ 🙌

Links

Podcast: No regrets, with 78 year-old childfree trailblazer Marcia Drut-Davis

Masterclass: Create Your Childfree Life Vision

Book: The Baby Matrix

Podcast: Don’t fear regret, with Orna Donath

Podcast: Kids or Childfree

Podcast: Navigating ambivalence, with clarity coach Keltie Maguire