Why Being Selfish is Actually a Good Idea

02/13/24 • 68 min

Being selfish might be just the thing you need to tap into your joy.

It’s time to reframe what it means to be intentionally selfish in order to live the life you want.

When’s the last time you were selfish? Better yet, when’s the last time you were selfish without feeling guilty about it? It’s high time we rebrand what it means to be selfish and what it looks like to choose yourself more often. The days of endless self sacrificing and carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders are over. We are now entering our “Soft Life Era”. On this week’s episode we are joined by Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Psychotherapist, Trauma Specialist, and #1 Balance (and) Relationship Advisor in the World, Naketa Ren Thigpen, to help us all understand just how important it is to prioritize self care on a daily basis. From the mathematical formula to achieving balance to why selfish lovers are the best lovers. You’ve been selfless long enough. This is your official permission slip to be selfish.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/-IM_4tqJ78g

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

Learn to create the space for your joy, healing and forgiveness.
Start by coming into your body. Your body will tell you the truth.
It’s ok to not explain yourself. “No” is a full sentence.
Admit the truth of what you really want.
Creating boundaries around your truth will help you achieve your reality.
When you are intentional about being selfish, your life becomes more juicy.

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Naketa Ren Thigpen

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Website: https://thigpro.com

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Alechia Reese

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Dani Bourdeau

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Being selfish might be just the thing you need to tap into your joy.

It’s time to reframe what it means to be intentionally selfish in order to live the life you want.

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/-IM_4tqJ78g

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

Learn to create the space for your joy, healing and forgiveness.
Start by coming into your body. Your body will tell you the truth.
It’s ok to not explain yourself. “No” is a full sentence.
Admit the truth of what you really want.
Creating boundaries around your truth will help you achieve your reality.
When you are intentional about being selfish, your life becomes more juicy.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Naketa Ren Thigpen

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@TLOshow

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/asknaketa

Website: https://thigpro.com

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

Instagram | http://instagram.com/alechiareese

LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

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The Real Reason You Think Dating Is Trash

It’s time to learn how to recognize, accept and align yourself with the partner you desire.

Are you confused and frustrated out here in these dating streets? With the rise of social media and its impact on who, where and how we date, it’s easy to get caught up in how love should look rather than what it actually is. As much as we all want love, are we really willing to do what it takes to obtain it, cultivate it and then sustain it for years to come? On this week’s episode we are joined by psychotherapist, media personality, award-winning speaker and 5 time best-selling author, the “King of Breakthroughs”, Jack A. Daniels, to help give us a compass and much needed direction on the journey to finding true love and keeping it. Oftentimes, women make the mistake of asking other women for advice about men. You know we like experts! From the three types of men women should NEVER date to the places where single women should NEVER live and what’s keeping you loveless, we are getting the goods straight from the “horse’s mouth.” Tap into this week’s episode if you are tired of coming up short in love and want this Valentine’s Day to be the last one you spend alone. Don’t say we never gave y’all nothing!

Watch the conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/KEjwWn8izD8

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

"We are all connected and what we do to others, we do to ourselves."
"Your 'list' could be what’s keeping you loveless."
"Women who are seeking men should go out in pairs instead of packs."
Three types of men you shouldn't be dating: the Peacock, the Project and the Penis.
"Bad questions get bad answers...ask the hard questions."
Focus on values instead of valuables.
The more options you have, the less decisions you tend to make.
Social media is killing the mystery of women for men.
Most people cheat because they want something easy.
Love is connecting and reconnecting on a regular basis.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Jack A. Daniels

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Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@JackADaniels

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jackdanielstv/?hl=en

Website: https://jackadaniels.com

https://wherethemenat.com

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

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LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

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For more info, visit: http://triggeredafpodcast.com

Triggered AF Podcast is produced by Triggered Media Group.

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How to Enjoy Better Sex

Channeling your inner sex goddess is the key to achieving more orgasms.

50% of women have never experienced an orgasm while 95% of men have. Not only is that unfair, it doesn’t have to be that way and we have the solution.

When's the last time you tapped into you to unlock your full orgasmic potential? The goddess in you is always there, watching, waiting, and rooting you on. So many of us are so used to faking, we have no idea what it means to actually experience pleasure. Enter the chat, Samia Burton, entrepreneur, Hands on Sexual Educator and the host of "Not Just Another Podcast", whose mission is to guide us back to our "yoni" to unleash its power so we can live in our divine feminine. Samia doesn't shy away from those uncomfortable conversations that are absolutely necessary to move the needle forward in our intimate relationships. She reveals just how long it takes for the body to warm up and be ready for intercourse and tells us about erogenous zones you would never guess. If you're looking for ways to rekindle the fire in your relationship, marriage, or even yourself - listen to this episode STAT. Samia provides a perspective so fresh and so tantalizing you'll be eager to try out some of her suggestions to spice things up a bit. This episode is for grown folk only. Trigger warning as we do discuss sexual assault. If you've felt disconnected from your body and ultimately your sexuality due to unfortunate circumstances, Samia opens up in a way we hope you find both affirming and healing. We're bringing sexy back so that we have more love, more sex and more Big Os.

KEY POINTS & QUOTES:

“Pleasure is your birthright.”
It’s not weird to schedule sex, it may be necessary.
Men deserve more foreplay and sensuality on a regular basis.
You teach people how to treat you by the way you treat yourself.
Learn how to have tough conversations about sex with your partner to improve intimacy.
Have an open mind and be willing to try new things in the bedroom to increase overall pleasure.

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:

Samia Burton

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCA-BSvFkTnaVwq0KLxbyR4w

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/miabuggzy/?hl=en

Website: https://thesexualessentials.com

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS:

Alechia Reese

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LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/alechiareese

Dani Bourdeau

Instagram | http://instagram.com/thedanibourdeau

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