Episode 9 Season 2: Series on Narcissistic Abuse: The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse on Our Relationship With God
07/18/22 • 86 min
Episode Description:
The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse on Our Relationship With God is the last episode in the Series on Narcissistic Abuse. When we are raised by people with narcissistic traits, in a rigid religious environment, or we are abused or neglected long term in other ways, we believe the qualities that our caretakers have are also what God is like. Our caretakers are often projecting misconceptions onto God that they were taught as well, and they pass them down to us. As children, we have no other frame of reference for what God is like, who God is, or who we are in Christ. As a result, we are often left confused with mixed messages. We come to see God as rigid, withholding, harsh, judgmental, angry, stingy, or cold.
These misconceptions can cause us harm, making us feel fear, unworthiness, resentment, anger, and even despair in our relationship with God. This causes many to stop believing. It's life changing to separate our misconceptions about God from who God really is based on truth: scripture, healthy psychology, and objective reality. This also helps us heal misconceptions about ourselves. By healing our distortions and projections, we can enjoy a loving, secure, safe, and peaceful relationship with God (perhaps for the first time), run toward God instead of away from Him, and live the life He intended us to live.
Breakdown of Episode
0:00 Introduction to the Episode
3:34 Introduction to the Topic
6:12 How Caretakers Treat Us Impacts What We Think About God
28:39 Distorted Views of God and How We Project These Onto God
44:58 How to Separate Our Projections Onto God With Who He Really Is
56:22 Specific Ways to Heal Our Distortions About God
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Episode Description:
The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse on Our Relationship With God is the last episode in the Series on Narcissistic Abuse. When we are raised by people with narcissistic traits, in a rigid religious environment, or we are abused or neglected long term in other ways, we believe the qualities that our caretakers have are also what God is like. Our caretakers are often projecting misconceptions onto God that they were taught as well, and they pass them down to us. As children, we have no other frame of reference for what God is like, who God is, or who we are in Christ. As a result, we are often left confused with mixed messages. We come to see God as rigid, withholding, harsh, judgmental, angry, stingy, or cold.
These misconceptions can cause us harm, making us feel fear, unworthiness, resentment, anger, and even despair in our relationship with God. This causes many to stop believing. It's life changing to separate our misconceptions about God from who God really is based on truth: scripture, healthy psychology, and objective reality. This also helps us heal misconceptions about ourselves. By healing our distortions and projections, we can enjoy a loving, secure, safe, and peaceful relationship with God (perhaps for the first time), run toward God instead of away from Him, and live the life He intended us to live.
Breakdown of Episode
0:00 Introduction to the Episode
3:34 Introduction to the Topic
6:12 How Caretakers Treat Us Impacts What We Think About God
28:39 Distorted Views of God and How We Project These Onto God
44:58 How to Separate Our Projections Onto God With Who He Really Is
56:22 Specific Ways to Heal Our Distortions About God
Bulleted List of Resources
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Episode 8 Season 2: Series on Narcissistic Abuse: The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse on our Relationship With Others
Episode Description:
The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse on Our Relationship With Others is part of the Series on Narcissistic Abuse. It discusses how being raised in adverse childhood conditions or by narcissistic types can impact our mental health and programming and make us codependent. This episode then describes what codependency is, the traits of codependency, how this impacts relationships, and how it is possible to heal from codependency.
Someone with codependent traits is more likely to attract relationships with narcissists and unhealthy individuals. Additionally, survivors of narcissistic abuse can also project unhealed past abuse onto healthy relationships. However, by learning the red flags of abusive relationships, healing codependent traits, and taking more honest self-evaluation, we can heal from narcissistic abuse and pursue and cultivate the healthy, loving relationships God intended us to have.
Breakdown of Episode
0:00 Introduction to the Episode and Topic
4:52 The Impacts of Narcissistic Abuse in Childhood
24:09 Codependency
30:12 How Codependency Can Increase the Chances of Attracting Narcissists
43:08 How We Can Project Our Past Into Loving Relationships
59:40 Ways to Heal
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Episode 10 Season 2: Erikson's Stages of Development and Adverse Childhood Experiences
Episode Description:
Erikson's Stages of Development and Adverse Childhood Experiences is also a Youtube Video. If you haven't please click the link below and subscribe for exclusive content different than the podcast. Adverse Childhood Experiences (or ACES) can impact our development as children. If we survived narcissistic abuse, childhood trauma, childhood emotional neglect, or any other form of abuse at a specific time in our development, we often get stuck there, and the trauma that impacts our lives will make our reactions to triggering situations similar to that of our reactions at that age. In other words, our social and emotional development becomes stuck and we repeat patterns from childhood.
By understanding Erikson's Stages of Development and how adverse childhood experiences that occurred during these specific stages impacted us, we can begin to take inventory of our own emotional and social development, where and when trauma may have kept us stuck, and start doing healing work around these age periods through journaling, meditation, and inner child work to help us release that trauma and develop emotionally and socially into the healthy adults God made us to be by healing trauma at its true source.
Resources:
Erik Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development by Kendra Cherry in Very Well Mind is an article that describes Erikson's Stages of Development and the significance of each. It describes what healthy development in each stage looks like as well as potential consequences of adverse experiences that can impact development in each stage from infancy to old age.
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying is a book I mention in the video/podcast in the last of Erikson's Stages of Development as a great book for considering what matters in life. This book was written by a woman who cared for hundreds of terminally ill patients, learned their deepest desires and regrets, and compiled a list of the repeated themes of what these individuals wish they had and had not done. It provides great insights on how to live a full, happy life without regrets.
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