S2:E7 Featuring: Amy Pagett

02/17/23 • 25 min

Host's note: If you prefer to watch this interview, check out the YouTube video.
This episode features our guest, Amy Pagett - a trauma-informed Self-Sabotage, Somatic Embodiment, and Breathwork coach helping her clients find healing through safety and reconnecting to their body.
TOPICS COVERED:
- Her journey with childhood trauma, the death of her brother, and sexual abuse that developed into a chronic debilitating autoimmune disorder which, as it came to the surface, thrust into her a healing journey.
- Embodying chaos and fear and people pleasing at a very young age
- What happens when you can't pretend anymore
- It sucks but it's true: Recovery has no road map or checklist!
- Somatic embodiment - befriending your nervous system
- Co-regulation v. Self-regulation
- Fawning trauma response
- Guilt and shame, taking care of others, and literally not knowing what you even need or want
- Self-sabotage: getting in your own way and how it keeps you stuck
- Cycles are familiar, and familiar seems comfortable
- Self-worth - what am I doing to feed my worthiness?
- Trauma wasn't our fault, but healing is our responsibility
- Deep dive into finding out what isn't serving your highest and best good, and how to go after what is
- Self-talk is so important
- Change is slow but repetitious, and trauma recovery is an ongoing thing
GUEST'S MOST USEFUL RESOURCES IN THEIR HEALING:
1. Linda Thai's Somatic Embodiment Course
2. Breathwork
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT OUR GUEST:
1. Website - https://www.aimtruecoaching.com/
2. Twitter - https://twitter.com/AimTrue7
Tags: #traumarecovery #traumarecoverycoach #traumahealing #healingfromtrauma #traumasurvivor #survivorhood #ifsinformed #childhoodtrauma #selfabandonment #selfsabotage #selfworth #chonicillness #autoimmunedisease #coregulate #selfregulation #somaticembodiment #healingfromtrauma #fawning #4f #traumaresponse #selftalk #cycles

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S2:E6 Featuring: Carter McNamara

Host's Note: If you prefer to watch the interview, check out the YouTube video.
This episode features our guest, author and consultant, Carter McNamara, who shares a journey in which he finally faces his traumatic past and then atones for the destruction and trauma his unhealed rage caused his family.
TOPICS COVERED:
- His story of the redemptive love of his wife after a traumatic childhood left him with unhealed cPTSD, detachment, and blackout rages of destruction that traumatized his wife and two children
- Anger was his coping skill to deal with triggers from his childhood
- Even when his mind couldn't even remember, his body was connected to his unhealed trauma
- Why he hated the word victim but what happened when he really realized it wasn't his fault
- His wife worked on herself and found healing and started setting boundaries, which then forced him into getting the help he needed
- Embracing the truth of his cPTSD, misunderstandings about therapy, and fearing telling his story because of shame in being mentally ill and broken
- How he was able to include his wife in his healing journey
- How to have a more authentic relationship
- Unconditional love was a safety net for him to heal
- How to atone for the damage caused when you've harmed others
- Group therapy - the similarities of trauma survivors
- Learning how to say sorry and learning that being forgiven isn't always a guarantee
- Having compassion without condoning abusive behavior (reasons, not excuses)
- Why it's vital to have a trusting, safe environment to share where people can be authentic and real and honest
GUEST'S MOST USEFUL RESOURCES IN THEIR HEALING:
1. Book - "The Body Keeps the Score" (Bessel van der Kolk)
2. Book - "The Boy Who was Raised as a Dog" (Bruce Perry)
3. Book - "What My Bones Know" (Stephanie Foo)
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT OUR GUEST:
1. Website
2. FB
3. His Memoir "Wolf: A Memoir of Love and Atonement"
Tags: #traumarecovery #traumarecoverycoach #traumahealing #healingfromtrauma #traumasurvivor #survivorhood #ifsinformed #unhealedtrauma #rage #destruction #PTSD #cPTSD #detachment #triggers #victim #therapy #boundaries #shame #traumatize #unconditionallove #atonement #love #guilt #authenticity #howtosaysorry #grouptherapy #compassion #understanding #marriage #healthyrelationships #safety #childhoodtrauma #blackoutrage #repression #memoir

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S2:E8 Featuring: Marina Yanay-Triner

Host's Note: If you prefer to watch this interview, check out the YouTube video here.
This episode features our guest, Marina Yanay-Triner, a body-based somatics coach supporting people as they address their stuckness, triggers, and nervous system dysregulation.
TOPICS COVERED:
- Her journey as the descendent of a Holocaust survivor (her grandmother was in labor camps in infancy) and the generational trauma of that as well as her personal journey as a refugee
- What it means to be a lightworker
- Not feeling her emotions
- An emotional and sexual abuse relationship as a teen
- Empowerment to change her relationship dynamics
- Personal development language brought her more shame, and that is where she found connection with body-based somatic tools
- How she unstuck by sitting with her body/Somatic Experiencing
- Helping her body understand she is safe now
- Being present in safety, nervous system regulation, and being aware
- Giving yourself full permission to celebrate and allowing yourself to practice staying in pleasure
- Empaths - how to know what is empathic and what is a trauma response or coping skill of people pleasing
- Healing v. regulation
- Somatic IFS and healing generational parts of her grandmother and her mother with rituals to move the energy to flow out of her and her parts
- How it is to be a filter of energy and a "therapist" for your mother
- Family Constellations
- Epigenetics and the case study of Holocaust survivors
- Body survival strategies - there are "no bad parts"
GUEST'S MOST USEFUL RESOURCES IN THEIR HEALING:
1. Finding good practitioners (not healing alone)
2. Somatic Experiencing & Peter Levine's work
3. Attachment Theory
4. Being with your body in compassion and surrendering to your emotions
FOR MORE INFO ABOUT OUR GUEST:
1. Website
2. IG
3. Free Training Video available here
Tags: #traumarecovery #traumarecoverycoach #traumahealing #healingfromtrauma #traumasurvivor #survivorhood #ifsinformed #childhoodtrauma #holocaustsurvivor #holocaustgeneration #generationalhealing #generationaltrauma #somaticexperiencing #bodybasedhealing #nervoussystem #triggers #stuckness #lightworker #PeterLevine #MarkWolynn #DickSchwartz #emotionalneglect #empowerment #celebration #permission #practice #empath #regulation #energy #familyconstellations #epigentics #survival