
#65: How to talk about sex, before, during, and after pregnancy and post-partum - Relationship Series Part 3 with Mike and Ellen Melon
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12/13/23 • 65 min
Part 3 of 7! This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics:
- How to talk about envious and jealous feelings
- How to talk about money and finances, spending habits
- Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need
- On taking things too personally
- Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time
- Day to day compromising
- Coparenting in a blended family
In this episode, Mike and I discuss difficult feelings and values around money, like:
- The beginning of our sex life (early dating), first sexual experience
- First trimester sex
- Second/third trimester sex
- Post-partum sex life and how to navigate the emotional and physical mess
- Things that get in the way of our sex life
For questions regarding this topic, please email [email protected]
Episodes I've called out in the episode:
- #60. The trick to using dating apps - a real convo with my boyfriend Mike
- #19. Finding self-love with The 4 Agreements
- #14. How sex changes in partnerships for first time parents, genito-pelvic pain, and arousal disorder - with Dr. Natalie Rosen
- #9. Vaginal tearing during child labor: Sex, anatomy, fear, and lessons learned - with Alyssa
- #7. The messages I received about sex when I was young - Part 1 of 2 - with Ellen Melon
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For more info on 1-on-1 coaching program:
https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching
____________________
Coach Ellen Melon links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow
Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com
Part 3 of 7! This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics:
- How to talk about envious and jealous feelings
- How to talk about money and finances, spending habits
- Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need
- On taking things too personally
- Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time
- Day to day compromising
- Coparenting in a blended family
In this episode, Mike and I discuss difficult feelings and values around money, like:
- The beginning of our sex life (early dating), first sexual experience
- First trimester sex
- Second/third trimester sex
- Post-partum sex life and how to navigate the emotional and physical mess
- Things that get in the way of our sex life
For questions regarding this topic, please email [email protected]
Episodes I've called out in the episode:
- #60. The trick to using dating apps - a real convo with my boyfriend Mike
- #19. Finding self-love with The 4 Agreements
- #14. How sex changes in partnerships for first time parents, genito-pelvic pain, and arousal disorder - with Dr. Natalie Rosen
- #9. Vaginal tearing during child labor: Sex, anatomy, fear, and lessons learned - with Alyssa
- #7. The messages I received about sex when I was young - Part 1 of 2 - with Ellen Melon
____________________
For more info on 1-on-1 coaching program:
https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching
____________________
Coach Ellen Melon links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow
Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com
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#64: How to talk about money, finances, spending habits - Relationship Series Part 2 with Mike and Ellen Melon
Dear listeners, pardon my absence! After taking a year off of the podcast, being pregnant, buying a house, having a baby, getting engaged, I am back and ready to share some new content on the podcast.
This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics:
- How to talk about envious and jealous feelings
- How to talk about money and finances, spending habits
- Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need
- On taking things too personally
- Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time
- Day to day compromising
- Coparenting in a blended family
In this episode, Mike and I discuss difficult feelings and values around money, like:
- Money mindset
- How money was discussed in our homes, upbringing
- Our challenges with talking about money
- As a woman, making my own money to be able to make empowered decisions
- Spending money seperately, together, and on large purchases
For questions regarding this topic, please email [email protected]
____________________
For more info on 1-on-1 coaching program:
https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching
____________________
Coach Ellen Melon links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow
Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com
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#66: Reflections & Lessons: Top 10 Things I Learned in 2024
Description: In this New Year 2025 episode, I reflect on the biggest lessons I learned over the past year—a tradition that has shaped my personal growth since my late 20s. From the challenges of motherhood and navigating work relationships to the importance of curiosity, holiday traditions, and personal integrity, I share insights that shaped my year and might resonate with you.
I also open up about my absence from podcasting, the realities of balancing work, family, and personal well-being, and my hopes for future episodes. Plus, I ask you: How do you reflect on your year? What lessons have stood out to you?
Topics Covered:
- The growing pains of motherhood & step-parenting
- Navigating work relationships & personal growth
- The power of asking better questions
- The role of traditions in creating joy
- Showing up in relationships with more awareness
Stick around for a tip on improving sleep, a powerful insight on breakups, and a challenge for you: What’s a hard conversation you’ve been avoiding?
Hit subscribe to catch future episodes, and let’s reflect together! 🎙️✨
Coach Ellen Melon links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow
For questions regarding this topic, please email [email protected]
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