
#42. Sex and relationship insights for drug addicts, alcoholics, and the sober community - with Life Recovery Coach, David Marion
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10/27/21 • 62 min
What happens to us in relationships when there is substance abuse? When we numb and cope with alcohol or drugs? How do we behave in intimate spaces with people we love? How is our sexuality impacted?
In this episode, David Marion is going to give us some male insight into his own sex life and way of “relationshipping” over the course of his substance abuse journey and recovery journey. David and I discuss how substances ruined the ability to have strong secure relationships, the type of people he attracted, and other wisdom around pain, shame, and childhood trauma. Lend me your ears y’all — this is a raw and honest conversation with a man who has done the work (continues to do the work) and is sharing his experience.
David is 13 years sober, and is a certified interventionist and recovery coach, author of the book, “Addiction Rescue: The No-BS Guide To Recovery,” public speaker and advocate for all suffering from substance use.
Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching
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Links we talked about:
https://wellbeingcbdwaters.com
Discount code “PILLOW10” at checkout for $10 off your first pack!
Ships next day | Only in the US
David Marion info:
https://www.theliferecoverycoach.com/
Book: Addiction Rescue: The No-BS Guide To Recovery
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About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator
Ellen Melon links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA
Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com
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What happens to us in relationships when there is substance abuse? When we numb and cope with alcohol or drugs? How do we behave in intimate spaces with people we love? How is our sexuality impacted?
In this episode, David Marion is going to give us some male insight into his own sex life and way of “relationshipping” over the course of his substance abuse journey and recovery journey. David and I discuss how substances ruined the ability to have strong secure relationships, the type of people he attracted, and other wisdom around pain, shame, and childhood trauma. Lend me your ears y’all — this is a raw and honest conversation with a man who has done the work (continues to do the work) and is sharing his experience.
David is 13 years sober, and is a certified interventionist and recovery coach, author of the book, “Addiction Rescue: The No-BS Guide To Recovery,” public speaker and advocate for all suffering from substance use.
Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching
____________________
Links we talked about:
https://wellbeingcbdwaters.com
Discount code “PILLOW10” at checkout for $10 off your first pack!
Ships next day | Only in the US
David Marion info:
https://www.theliferecoverycoach.com/
Book: Addiction Rescue: The No-BS Guide To Recovery
____________________
About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator
Ellen Melon links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA
Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com
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#41. How intimacy changes after kids, postpartum, and repair after an affair - with Life Coach for Mums, Kiri Honey
Motherhood is hard. I don’t even have kids and I know that. I have this amazing opportunity to speak with Kiri Honey, Life Coach for Moms whose mission is to inspire women to empower themselves to take the lead in their lives and relationships. To support them to take action that feels aligned and authentic to their wants and needs and on a practical level, help them focus on the key steps needed to rekindle the passion and fun in their relationships.
In this episode we hear about Kiri’s experience in being a mom of 2 children, her postpartum depression she didn’t know she had, and how to repair a relationship when an affair occurs — what kind of conversations, honesty and accountability are truly required. We also discuss her new digital series – 30 Interviews from Sex & Intimacy Experts called, “Falling in Love Again, Season 1.” These interviews are FREE until October 17th so sign up NOW. (Click link in show description or IG bio)
Kiri’s mission is to have a community of Mother’s who are equipped with the confidence to value themselves and their worth as well as honour their truth are an unshakable force! Helping Mother’s feel valued and part of a team will do wonders for humankind and future generations. The benefit of feeling loved, appreciated and respected has no bounds. Imagine how many families we could keep together if women were equipped with the tools they need to communicate their desires.
Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching
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Links we talked about:
Falling in Love Again Digital Series for FREEuntil October 17th: https://kirihoney.com/FallingInLoveAgainEvent_Ellen
All episodes for Falling in Love Again will release October 18th – Nov 4th, with a Replay Weekend Nov 5-7th
Where can people find you? [email protected]
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About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator
Ellen Melon links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA
Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com
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#43. A story of recovery, postpartum motherhood, and overcoming resentment in married sex - with full-time mama, Madeline Clair
Here’s the thing about having kids — it changes everything. Your physical body, your mind, your hormones, your sex life, your sleeping life, what you eat, when you eat, and beyond. Many people don’t talk about all the sucky parts of child-rearing because of fear that they are “doing it wrong” or will be deemed “bad parents” but what NOT TALKING ABOUT IT actually creates is mothers’ beliefs that “there must be something wrong with me or my kids.”
Postpartum anxiety and depression are a huge part of this conversation — and happening more frequently. In the United States alone, approximately 70% to 80% of women will experience, at a minimum, the ‘baby blues’. Many of these women will experience the more severe condition of postpartum depression or a related condition. (https://www.postpartumdepression.org)
Many mothers don’t know they are experiencing it because they are in the throes of no sleep, new experience, and without a template. In this episode, we talk to Madeline Clair Fisher and her experience of postpartum depression and anxiety. She tells us about doing some preventative work ahead of pregnancy to make sure she set herself up for success, and how her husband actually called out her behavior — “Hey you’re not acting like yourself, let’s get support.” We also discuss her recovery story, having been addicted to drugs in high school. Madeline also shares with us a hard conversation she had with her husband about feeling resentment in their sex life...and what was really underneath that.
Interesting in working with a Sex & Relationship Coach? Apply for 1on1 coaching with me: www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching
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Links we talked about:
Madeline Clair Fisher: https://www.instagram.com/madeline.clair/
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About Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach and Un-Educator
Ellen Melon links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/EllenMelonShow
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL_F0bL0mItXS-jundACwnA
Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com
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