Living With Uncertainty

04/11/22 • 41 min

We’re always living with uncertainty. We just think we have control. None of us really know what’s going to happen next. We only have now and we have the ability to be fully present and actively alive and awake to what is happening right now.
Am I resisting and spinning a story of future catastrophe, or am I accepting what’s happening now, with Love and Joy?
Living with cancer constantly brings this point home.
We have a tendency to predict and plan, imagining we can mitigate our personal, fearful possible future scenarios. But they aren’t reality. That’s imagination. The ego’s job is to create problems to solve — to predict catastrophic outcomes.
If you’ve identified yourself as a problem-solver, you’re always making up problems to solve.
All problems are only problems because we’ve rejected reality and we’ve labeled what’s happening as a problem. But that’s just mental gymnastics.
In actuality, you’re fine. Right here and now. You’re dealing. This is life.
There’s always another way of looking at your situation. To think, “perhaps, life is really going my way right now — how might that way be?”
Lar shares about a situation at work where he initially resisted, but then opened his mind to this perspective that YES! This is just what I wanted! Thank you! Everything goes my way!
And I share about some of the mental gymnastics I got up to doing some yummy book launch parties and surrendering to the flow of each present moment.
Each of us is writing our own story and each story is ALL our stories... We are humankind and we are glorious!!!
Once you get away from the ego running things and you really look at what’s important, and what’s the reality of what’s happening. And you’re not trying to make something happen —you’re not trying to meet some criteria. — You’re just experiencing the all-ness of what you get to experience — It’s absolutely YUMMY exactly as it is!
If you can just keep in mind, that there is no chance the wrong thing is happening — none of us know what that will be — you can live in uncertainty with equanimity...
Life is aways confirming that you’re right where you’re supposed to be and it’s easy to see if you’re open to seeing it.
Life is going your way — if you’re not experiencing that, you’re just getting in they way of experiencing it, with your mental gymnastics.
We share the way we work with emotions that arise, say, while watching television, and how we allow emotions to arise, own them, and in taking responsibility, we question our beliefs and decisions... and how we bring choice and transformation into our conversation and lives.
Thanks for joining us for another yummy conversation about living The Yummy Way!
And recognizing when we’re not.. and turning the dial toward accountability so you can live present in the moment you are in. — Being fully in the present moment is death to the ego. Because Love and ego can’t occupy the same space.Love & present Joy, is the yummy way!
It is our joy to share them with you. We’d love to hear from you!
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Reality vs What You Think About It

In today’s podcast episode we’re talking about how we’re constantly getting derailed from presence in the moment we’re in, by jumping into reacting to the stimuli in front of us as if we’re actually part of it. We leave our presence in favor of judgement about what should or shouldn’t be happening — or what so-and-so shouldn’t or should be saying. But it’s not even our reality.
The moment in front of you is reality. What’s happening right here and now. For example, what’s actually happening is you are sitting holding your phone and looking at the screen and reading your newsfeed. Perhaps you’re doomscrolling what’s happening in Ukraine or the political scene or what someone posted on FB.

You’re noticing you’re feeling upset about what your reading. Because you don’t like what you’re reading. You make judgements about the thing you’re reading as if you’re a participant in the scenario you’re reading about. You’re taking sides mentally. Now, you tell someone else about it as if it is a real thing.

But the actuality of you’re reality is that you’re sitting looking at a phone screen and the rest is imagination, based on your conditioned beliefs and sense of self.

Lar talks about a situation he read about on his newsfeed and how he instantly judged the situation and what that said about who persons involved were.
But by bringing it to the light of awareness and into conversation, he saw the short-term payoff of self-righteous judgement, and furthermore, he was able to see that his judgment was a reaction based in a set of fearful beliefs about what ‘might’ happen if they are right.
But with further exploration, we were able to see that imaging what should and shouldn’t happen is a fantasy to give us a false sense of control over what we actually have no control over.
It’s way outside of being present and accounting to your immediate choice of how we want to experience what’s happening. When you notice that you’re caught up in the scenario, as if it is your reality, that’s a prefect opportunity to see where it is you are holding yourself.
What’s happening is not what’s bothering you — What you thinking about it, is what’s bothering you. But what’s happening is actually always innocent. Life is happening, and what we’re experiencing is our reaction to the information coming into our moment and we decide whether we’re going to bother ourselves with it or not. By accepting it all, our hearts become available to add love to the collective energy pool.
Judgment can seem automatic — especially when we’re doomscrolling our newsfeeds, right?
But reality is this moment. You’re reading information on a screen. It’s just words on a screen, actually. You’re having a reaction to what you’re reading, you can notice your attaching your identity to what you think is a ‘right side’ of it, and that tells you that you have a belief that there’s a right and wrong. You can ask yourself: how much do you want to attach to that stance? How much peace are you willing to sacrifice to that ‘rightness?’
In order to restore yourself to peace, you have to accept all of it. Accepting lets your whole being come into play. And with it, the ability to make a choice that is more aligned with your whole being — your essential being.
Experiences happen and as they happen, if we let them move though us — that’s experiencing life.
Love is a power that needs nothing else. We have this moment before us, and our experience of it.
Ask yourself, in each given moment, what is your integrity?
Remind yourself:
It’s not my business to condone or to judge.
It’s my business to accept reality as it is in my reality.
But I can be conscientious about where I’m coming from and what I’m going to do with it.

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Ultimately—You Are Your True Authority

In today’s episode we talking about how we find and live from each of our own integrity to true self verses out of obligation or deferring to some perceived authority.
It’s amazing how quickly we can defer to a so-called authority, when a seeming crisis happens and loose touch with your genuine personal experience. So often, at times like this, we give authority figures the power to tell us how we should feel.
It’s almost like ‘shit man, I’ve been going along doing fine, and now I’ve got this ‘problem’ that now I’ve got to fix.’
And if you get obsessive about it, your life gets really small.
Life becomes about a problem to be fixed — rather than a life to be lived.
If you’re loosing your center of peace, and fixating on the so-called problem, it feels icky. You’re no longer receiving life as it comes in and flowing with life, you’re identifying with the problem or problem fixing. For instance, I’ve got a heart condition, so now that becomes a new identity. But once we notice that tightening around the problem fixing identity, we can readjust by accepting that this new experience is now part of my new reality.
We’ve got to remember that ultimately we are the greatest authority for our lives — we’ve got our yummy-stat, showing us if we’ve compromised our personal power, and giving it to an authority outside ourselves — it feels icky.
Sure they can offer valuable information and suggestions. It is our responsibility to bring that information to counsel with our inner being that has our best interest —always!
There’s no chance the wrong thing is happening. Pay attention to where you are resisting the actuality of your current situation... relax & let go... Accept what is, because that is the gift this present moment is offering you. You can only live in this moment. Taking predictive action, because an authority said if you don’t do this, then that will happen, needs to be taken with a grain of salt. Does it feel loving and joyful to move in that direction? Or is fear of consequences motivating you?
Being aware of your yummy-stat constantly redirecting you to you inner truth, your true authority is crucial. When you do, you can deal with any situation that occurs — even a heart condition, a broken back or cancer. Nothing is ever happening you can’t deal with with with acceptance and love. If it’s your experience, you have what it takes to deal with it. Period.
Every experience is divine. Being who you are is your only job in this life. Accepting yourself as you are lets you live authentically — you are at home with yourself and you can live from love.
You’re no longer trying to get something from life — you’re serving the moment given you right now and you can love all of it.
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