049_Be Your Own Superhero by Being YOU!

06/01/21 • 33 min

“We love our superheroes because they refuse to give up on us. We can analyze them out of existence, kill them, ban them, mock them, and still they return, patiently reminding us of who we are and what we wish we could be” ~ Grant Morrison
Lar and I have been watching all the Marvel movies lately and it that triggered a conversation about what it is we love about superheroes. Lar, the consummate geek that he is, immersed himself in superhero comics. He introduced me to a whole new world —seen through superhero eyes.
Superhero icons symbolize the hope that someone can and will stand up to do the right thing, and that we humans have the potential to do be extraordinary — to think and act in a bigger way than the norm. Superhero’s inspire something super within us.
Why do we love superheroes so much?
Because they speak to something deep inside of us. That part of us that is unique and extraordinary that rises up in times of crisis — or whenever we are truly being ourselves. It is living in integrity with our truth, standing for what we know is right and good.
Forgiveness is a superpower each of us have. The best thing we can do for ourselves is to forgive — to let go of grudges and see that what others have done isn’t personal. But we take it personally and punish ourselves with it. Choosing to forgive releases the past and lets us be present to what’s actually happening. Forgiveness unleashes access to our other superpowers. Things like love and kindness, joy and integrity.
Just like the classic movie characters, inside of each of us, we have a little bit of all the characters we see in the world.
A little villain or passive bystander or victim waiting to be rescued. We need to own all of these aspects as part of the human condition. When we do, it helps us soften our attitude and perception of others when we see them acting in less than ideal ways.
And we all have a superhero self that wants to stand up and do the right thing. To lend a helping hand, give blood, food, shelter... a smile, an encouragement or a hug.
When we’re in our superhero selves we aren’t judging who needs help. Whoever needs the help is who we give what we have to give to.
Lar tells a story from his childhood about how all his neighbors rose up as superhero’s during wild fire season in California.
It creates amazing synergy.
We’ve seen this so much throughout the pandemic. Like the singer in Italy that serenaded the world from his balcony — from this one superhero act, balconies became a place of synergy where we cheered on the superhero’s on the frontlines. Talk about superheroes!!!
We’re attracted to superhero icon because they speak to the deepest, most yummy part of ourselves. They invites us to live in our integrity with who we are. What we do comes from where we’re holding ourselves within.
We all want to be the superhero’s of our lives.
Being a superhero is being authentically ourselves and choosing to hold to the yummy vibration of love each and every present moment. When we feel yummy, it’s infectious. It’s an energy that gets magnified and draws others in.
Being my yummy self is my greatest superpower.
Be a superhero —Smile and stay in the space of love in spite of the outcome. Trusting that who you are is the greatest gift you have to give.

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048_Being a Love Based Human —The Now Normal

In today’s podcast, as sort of an update, we begin by sharing how we’ve unleashed our creativity by recognizing when the tension created by our ‘inner-perfectionist,’ by dismissing its dictates, softening the tension, and unleashing our creativity instead.
Lar’s been painting like crazy and I’ve been having fun letting ideas unfold as I put my finger on the keyboard. I love it — Our home is a buzz of creativity — where love and joy are the predominate vibration.
I’ve been filled with the simple delight of living as a love-based human. And that’s the springboard for today’s topic.
Love is a way of seeing the world and our place in it. It is choosing to see life as an interconnected whole. It is an invitation to live in the joyful flow with life.
Being a love based human is choosing to love — to see through the eyes of love. It is recognizing that anything that interferes with that yummy experience is a belief — a mental program that pits us against the world or each other.
Choosing love first unleashes our inner joy naturally. And that joy guides us toward what our highest contributions are to the whole.
Love is the creative force of the universe. It is natural to love. Watch kids. They are open and receptive. You don’t see them doing job interviews on the playground before choosing who they play with. The kids around them are the ones.
To be living as a love based human, we must choose to pay attention to what’s going on inside us. The way you know that you’re not, it doesn’t feel good. Period. When we feel tension, a judgement or fear has become predominate in our psyche. We don’t even have to know what the stimulus was or be clear on what the belief program is or where it come from.
We simply have to notice that our life force is being held hostage and the flow has stopped. And deal with the actual energy inside of us. We can soften behind the tension and that’s like a release valve. We can ease into the presence of our own being which is intrinsically love based.
Love is always inviting us back into ourselves. It’s always already there for us because love is who we are. We just have to want it more than we want to be right about our opinions. We have to be willing to pay more attention to what’s happening inside than what’s happening externally. When we do, what we see before us looks different. We’re looking for the common ground behind our differences — because now we’re seeing from the eyes of love.
Have a yummy week & a yummy day!!!

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050_Are You Waiting Until You Feel Ready?

Have you ever spent more time getting ready for something than you did actually doing the something ?

You have this great idea. You want to start or create something. You want to try something and you don’t much about it. We research, look at stuff, gathering information and we would hopefully at sometime, we feel comfortable enough to then do it. Right?
It’s that “hoping to be comfortable enough to start” place we discussing in today’s podcast.
Preparation is good. Having the knowledge is good. Understanding is good. Information can be valuable and even help us feel more confident. But at some point we have to take a leap of faith in ourselves and just do it.
We’re never going to feel completely ready to take a leap of faith. That why it’s a leap of faith. We’re never totally comfortable leaping into the unknown.
That feeling on the edge of starting something is palpable. It is the intersection of excitement — of joy & fear.
If you’ve ever gone rock climbing and repelled off the top — that’s the feeling!
This is where often, rather than leap and just do the thing, because we don’t feel ready, we do more research, more ‘prep’ to hopefully dampen the fear part of that equation.
Prep can only take you so far. Prep will never match the actuality of doing the thing.

I’ve forgotten tons of great idea projects I had that never got off the ground because I got lost in ‘getting ready’ until the idea no longer felt exciting or feasible. Can you relate?
What’s behind this? Fear of failure. Fear of the unknown.

Getting ready is comfortable, because no actual leap has taken place. Getting ready is fun, because there is no commitment in place.
Getting ready is distracting, because when you think that you don’t know what you are doing, you focus on all the things you don’t know yet instead of picking one and starting. It feels productive, but it never really gets you anywhere.
There’s a fine line between preparing ourselves and being in the moment, and saying, “Okay I’m going to let go of expectations.” “I’m going to let go of what my bar of success is.” “The reason I’m doing this is because I want to try something new.” That is reason enough. To try the new thing for the experience of trying the new thing. For the present moment experience of ourselves taking the leap.
When I look back on some of the greatest moments of my life, they all started with a leap of faith.
How about you? Do you get stuck in analysis paralysis? What are you waiting for?
It’s crucial to be honest with ourselves about what we’re up to with over-preparing. There’s always an expert we can give our power to to buy ourselves a few more moment of delay, of procrastination. But only experience changes our relationship with the unknown of trying something new.
Kids live in the adventure of taking leaps of faith. They are great teachers for us to remember we can leap before we feel ready.
Every leap of faith builds our faith in ourselves. It teaches us to trust ourselves to be flexible and adapt to new information. We learn to trust our intuition instead of relying on ‘experts’ that aren’t even in our unique situation. When we trust ourselves we can be in the moment and respond to what life is presenting us with honestly. This is where real communication with life takes place.
Stop waiting to be ready and take a leap of faith now! You’re worth it!