The Wounds That Do Not Heal

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This podcast episode delves into the tragic events surrounding Matthew Livelsberger, a 37-year-old active-duty Special Operations Soldier, who committed suicide and detonated a vehicle-born improvised explosive device (VBIED) outside Trump Tower on New Year's Day. The episode addresses Livelsberger's struggle with PTSD and perhaps traumatic brain injuries (TBI) and explores the military's handling of mental health issues among its service members. Tressa discusses Livelsberger's background, the conspiracy theories that have emerged following his death, and the psychological toll of war on veterans.

Tressa also examines the broader issue of veterans' vulnerability to radicalization and extremist groups. She highlights the challenges veterans face in transitioning to civilian life, their susceptibility to moral injuries, and the role of social media in fostering extremist ideologies. The episode emphasizes the need for mandatory mental health treatment for service members and calls for a reevaluation of the military's approach to mental health care to prevent further tragedies. The discussion is both a poignant reflection on the human cost of war and a call to action for better support for veterans and their families.
Sources from this episode:
UN Report find alleged drug facilities were not lawful targets - airtrikes caused significant civilian casualties | OHCHRMatthew Livelsberger—More Messages Allegedly From Cybertruck Suspect Shared
Vegas cybertruck explosion outside Trump Tower. What we know so far.

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The youngest of nine, Selena was a force of nature—a talented violinist, star athlete, and dedicated military intelligence analyst.

But behind her achievements lay a dark secret: a troubled marriage marked by manipulation and control. Just weeks after advocating for victims of domestic violence, Selena became a victim herself.
This disturbing look at domestic violence in the military makes you think: How did a woman so full of life fall prey to such a tragic fate?
This episode paints a full picture of Selena—not just as a victim, but as a cherished sister, friend, and mother whose life was tragically cut short.
What You’ll Learn:

• Who is Selena Roth?
• Selena's military career and family.
• Her relationship with Raul Hernandez Perez.
• Why coercive control is the top predictor of an abuser killing their victim.
• Patterns leading up to Selena’s death.
• The aftermath and advocacy.

Ideas Worth Sharing:

• “If you're looking for signs of abuse in a marriage, very often the abuser is so talented at hiding their instability and abusive side that you have to look more at the spouse to see changes in them.” - Tressa Brady
  
• “Statistically, physical violence is not the top predictor of whether or not an abuser will kill their victim, but rather, being coercively controlling is the top predictor.” - Tressa Brady
  
• "When you’re dealing with the repercussions of any disagreements with an abuser, you bend and compromise yourself to keep them from getting angry.” Tressa Brady
  

Resources
Podcast: “True Crime Date Night”

• Hosted by: Married couple KC Witzens (audio engineer) and wife Nicole Friday (True Crime Expert).
• Guest Expert: Erin Roth (Selena’s older sister)

Facebook Memorial Page:

• Remembering Selena Roth
• Raul Hernandez-Perez Court Martial

Media Article:

• Hawaii-based soldier gets 62 years in prison for bludgeoning wife to death | Stars and Stripes by WYATT OLSON STARS AND STRIPES • September 15, 2021

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This podcast episode is a heartfelt and intense reflection on the challenges and dangers that holidays can bring, especially for those in abusive relationships. Tressa shares personal experiences of abuse during holidays, highlighting how increased stress, alcohol consumption, and financial strain can exacerbate domestic violence. The episode also discusses how events like football games and other sporting events can trigger abusive behavior.
Tressa shares a poignant story about Keith Lewis, a soldier who sustained a traumatic brain injury during his military service. Despite his injuries, he continued to serve and later married Sarah Stewart Whitaker, a former military service member and paramedic. Tressa explores the potential connection between the domestic violence and Keith's military service, examining if his trauma and experiences in the military contributed to his abusive behavior. The story highlights the severe impact of untreated mental health issues and the importance of support for those affected.
The episode underscores the importance of safety and support for victims of domestic violence, especially during the holiday season. It also calls into question the military's handling of soldiers with PTSD and brain injuries, highlighting the need for better support and intervention.
Tressa's message is clear: while holidays can bring joy and togetherness, they can also be a time of increased danger and stress for some. It's crucial to prioritize safety and seek help if needed.
What You'll Learn:
1. **Domestic Violence During Holidays**: The episode emphasizes that holidays can be especially difficult for those in abusive relationships. Increased stress, alcohol consumption, and financial strain can exacerbate domestic violence, and sporting events can be significant triggers for abusers.
2. **The Impact of Untreated PTSD and Brain Injuries**: The story of Keith Lewis highlights the severe consequences of untreated PTSD and traumatic brain injuries. It underscores the need for better mental health support and intervention for soldiers returning from combat.
3. **The Role of the Military in Supporting Veterans**: The episode criticizes the military's handling of mental health issues and brain injuries among soldiers. It calls for greater responsibility and better care for those who have served.
4. **The Importance of Safety and Support**: The episode highlights the critical need for safety and support for victims of domestic violence, especially during the holiday season. It also encourages awareness and vigilance in recognizing and addressing signs of abuse.
Overall, the episode is a poignant reminder of the complexities of human experiences during the holidays and the importance of empathy, support, and mental health care.
Resources:

Family says Army ignored unseen wounds of a former Sarasota man
Army combat medic and pregnant wife die in apparent murder-suicide
Ugly side of the beautiful game: the football world cup and domestic violence | The BMJ
Find Domestic Violence and Abuse Help, Information and Stats
SGB, Spravato, TMS & Ketamine Infusion | Treatment by Stella

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Dive into the haunting story of Dana Alotaibi, an OnlyFans model and influencer, whose life was cut tragically short. In this episode, Tressa explores the systemic failures, societal attitudes, and lack of empathy that left Dana vulnerable despite her desperate pleas for help. Her story sheds light on the broader issues of victim-blaming and domestic violence within the military community.

Don't miss this eye-opening episode that emphasizes the need for a more compassionate and understanding society. Tune in to hear Dana's story and be part of the conversation on fostering empathy and support for victims everywhere.
Join Tressa next week as she dives into the concept of DARVO and discusses its relevance in pop culture, including in a major current event that is hijacking every storyline, involving actor Justin Baldoni and actress Blake Lively. Stay tuned for some personal anecdotes about Justin Baldoni, Tressa's childhood next door neighbor, and a deeper understanding of this abuse tactic Justin is being accused of.
Resources for today's show:
Marine charged with 2nd degree murder following ex-wife’s stabbing death
GRAPHIC: Military spouse fatally stabbed in Hawaii sought help for repeated abuse, mother says
Marine accused of stabbing pregnant ex-wife to death after fight on busy Hawaii highway | Stars and Stripes
Dana's video conversation with domestic violence advocate found in this article: Dana Alotaibi Video: Victim Was OnlyFans, Instagram Model

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TW: Suicide and rape discussed in this episode:
In this episode, we delve into the dark and often hidden world of military corruption, domestic violence, military sexual trauma, and conspiracy theories.
Listeners will hear about the mysterious death of a military wife in Kaneohe Bay, the potential cover-ups of military deaths and sexual assaults, and the shocking stories of service members who have committed heinous acts.
Throughout the episode, Tressa shares personal anecdotes, listener emails, and detailed accounts of military-related murders and cover-ups, highlighting the systemic issues and the need for change. The episode concludes with a discussion on the increasing trend of young service members committing violent acts against their spouses, raising questions about the impact of military culture and the stresses of young marriages.
Join us for a deep dive into the hidden truths and untold stories of military life, as we uncover the secrets and scandals that the military would rather keep buried.
Sources for today's show:
10 years later, a soldier's family still grieves and questions the Army's version of her death | STLPR
Fort Hood Army Staff Sgt. Paul Norris Fatally Shot Spc. Kamisha Block in Murder-Suicide in Iraq; Family Calls for Congressional Hearings & Independent Investigations (August 16, 2007) | MILITARY JUSTICE FOR ALL
Bragg soldier gets nine months in prison for medic's death
Witness: Paratrooper tired of lying to cover up medic's death
Sailor admits killing wife, in-law | The Honolulu Advertiser | Hawaii's Newspaper
Hawaii Marine Detained in Case of Dependent Death Amid Separate Search for Soldier's Missing Wife | Military.com
Pat Tillman: Remembering The NFL Player Turned Army Ranger Killed By Friendly Fire 12 Years Ago Today - Inquisitr News
Report: Choking, strangulation victims 750% more likely to be killed by offender - KOB.com
DEEP DIVE: MEGAN FOX & THE BLA - The First Degree - Apple Podcasts