All The Little Lies That Destroy Trust in Marriage: How to Spot and Stop Them
03/17/25 • 22 min
Not all lies are loud.
In marriage, it’s often the quiet, everyday phrases—“I’m fine,” “It doesn’t bother me,” “I’m over it”—that do the most long-term damage.
In this episode of The Voyage Cast, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Eddie Eccker explores how small, self-protective lies quietly erode emotional intimacy and relational trust. These aren’t betrayals you read about in books—they’re the slow drips that wear down even strong connections.
With candid insight and a powerful satirical segment inspired by C.S. Lewis’ The Screwtape Letters, Eddie breaks down:
- The hidden cost of emotional dishonesty in marriage
- How hyper-individualism and unforgiveness distort intimacy
- Why the illusion of “endless options” sabotages commitment
- How to build truth-based relationships that actually last
This episode blends humor, theology, and practical advice, offering a call to action for couples who want more than survival in marriage—they want restoration.
Because real love doesn’t lie—it leans in.
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Not all lies are loud.
In marriage, it’s often the quiet, everyday phrases—“I’m fine,” “It doesn’t bother me,” “I’m over it”—that do the most long-term damage.
In this episode of The Voyage Cast, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Eddie Eccker explores how small, self-protective lies quietly erode emotional intimacy and relational trust. These aren’t betrayals you read about in books—they’re the slow drips that wear down even strong connections.
With candid insight and a powerful satirical segment inspired by C.S. Lewis’ The Screwtape Letters, Eddie breaks down:
- The hidden cost of emotional dishonesty in marriage
- How hyper-individualism and unforgiveness distort intimacy
- Why the illusion of “endless options” sabotages commitment
- How to build truth-based relationships that actually last
This episode blends humor, theology, and practical advice, offering a call to action for couples who want more than survival in marriage—they want restoration.
Because real love doesn’t lie—it leans in.
For Counseling Support in Colorado Contact Voyages Counseling
This podcast is a labor of love, and you can help us keep it going strong. Join our Patreon community and become a key part of what makes it all possible.
Connect with us on the socials The Voyage Cast - Link Tree
Products used to create The Voyage Cast:
Rodecaster Pro 2
AKG P120 Mic
Mogami XLR Mic Cables
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