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Believe it or not, it’s easier to beat ourselves up all the time for not being good enough than to change our inner dialogue and give ourselves some grace. Self-kindness is the antidote to self-sabotage, whether the latter shows up in the form of unrealistic expectations, self-shaming or the comparison trap. The kinder we are with ourselves, the kinder we could show up to other people around us. Can you imagine a world where people are showing up with kindness to themselves and to each other? It’s a wonderful world that Thane Marcus Ringler begs us to envision in this episode.

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1. Reflective Learning
   1. How journaling has impacted my practice for golf
2. Smiling
   1. The power of something as simple as a smile
3. Convictional Living
   1. My belief (in golf) turning into a conviction

Adam’s Topics:

1. Information overload
   1. I’m spread too thin, and it’s been hard focusing my energies
   2. Limit how much information you process to avoid brain fog
2. Doing too much—overcommitting
   1. Fatigue, yes, but also inherent limitation. Deeper not wider. Cal Newport. Not about how many books you get through but how many to get through you.
3. Productivity and daily, weekly, and monthly reviews.
   1. Living intentionally--discipline to review

1. Becoming and being a knight
   1. https://www.farnamstreetblog.com/2016/08/20-rules-knight-timeless-guide-1483/
2. The Liturgy of Life
   1. http://www.theamericanconservative.com/articles/liturgies-for-young-and-old/
   2. Learning to love God by practicing liturgy. The role of discipline and raw willpower in shaping the emotions and directing obedience. It’s not just making the right (moral) choices, it’s investing yourself into the right (redemptive) narrative. You do that through the imagination, developing a biblical imagination, imagining yourself as someone else—a someone who may actually be more YOU and you are right now. Like a Knight.

1. What is character? (Define). And is it something that can be developed/how?
   1. 1 Tim. 6:6 - “Godliness with contentment is great gain"
   2. “Never hope for it more than you work for it"
2. Jocks Willink Podcast with Tim Ferriss
   1. "Motivation is unreliable and when you're counting on motivation to get your goals accomplished, you're likely going to fall short. You know what you have to do, go make yourself do it. Everybody wants some life-hack that eliminates the need to do the work, well I will tell you what: YOU NEED TO DO THE WORK. You gotta hold the line. You gotta make it happen yourself. You have to MAKE it happen, it's not gonna happen on its own. You have to make it happen, so dig in. Find the discipline, be the discipline, and accomplish the goals. THAT'S IT." - Jocko Willink
   2. http://fourhourworkweek.com/2016/09/21/jocko-willink-on-discipline-leadership-and-overcoming-doubt/
3. What will our "top 5 things learned from starting the U&C" be in 3/5/8 years?
   1. http://ugmonk.com/2016/09/26/8-things-ive-learned-from-8-years-of-ugmonk/?utm_campaign=8+Things+I%27ve+Learned+in+8+Years+%28xusmss%29&utm_medium=email&_ke=cmluZ2xlci50aGFuZUBnbWFpbC5jb20%3D&utm_source=Newsletter+Master+List+%5BNon-Sales%2FPromotion+Related%5D

1. Email on friends and friendship
   1. Her argument: to avoid feelings of false guilt, we need to clearly distinguish friends from acquaintances.
   2. My argument: I agree, but there are more than 2 categories (friends and acquaintances), so I have “tiers” of friends (Facebook friends, email friends, long distance friends, local friends, and then soul-mate like friends)
2. Millennial weakness
   1. "Wish we could turn back time, to the good ol' days, when our momma sang us to sleep but now we're stressed out." Those are the lyrics of a song called Stressed Out (by the great Twenty One Pilots) that has quickly become what The Atlantic calls an Anthem of Millennial Anxiety. http://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2016/03/one-thing-considered-stressed-out-an-anthem-of-millennial-anxiety/470034/
   2. http://babylonbee.com/news/millennial-diagnosed-tragic-inability-even/
   3. Anxiety: managing it from information overload. Lifehacker says "Don't Voluntarily Take on Other People's Anxiety if You Can Avoid It," but Paul said "bear one another's burdens" (Gal 6:2). I think both are right, but Lifehacker goes too far. We love and help others, but we realize our limitation and trust in God's sovereignty FOR them. After all, Jesus said "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?" (Matt 6:25).
   4. Part of the fall, but comes from fear. We are always confused, Calvin
3. Jocko Willink follow up

1. Selfishness
   1. is okay when you're alone/by yourself (goes along with recovery) - is not okay whenever you are with others (generalization but is the better side to habitually err on) - how to recognize your selfishness (from personal experience this week): are you consistently showing up late? Do your conversations mainly revolve around you or the person you are talking to? Do you more often adjust to others schedules or have them adjust to your own?
2. Article from Adam’s friend
   1. http://www.newyorker.com/science/maria-konnikova/social-media-affect-math-dunbar-number-friendships

Happy Thanksgiving!

This is a special episode to debrief Adam's trip to Geneva and catch up with our personal lives some before we settle down this weekend to give thanks for all God is doing in our lives. We talk about travel, culture, setting goals, picking yourself back up after disappointment, and other super important shtuff.

If you want to see the pictures from Adam's trip, check out the full show notes here: theupandcomersshow.com/episodes/thanksgiving