
Grief : A New Understanding
07/01/22 • 46 min
How does grief work? Kelly and Sarah tackle the big topic with a big guest. Dr. Mary Frances O'Connor joins them for a conversation about grief and her new book, The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss.
Dr. O'Connor shares her thoughtful insights and research on how grief is not a single circular series of phases, preparing for inevitable hard moments in one's life, and how grief can be a community experience. Kelly discusses how The Grieving Brain arrived at the exact right moment and Sarah fangirls out.
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Guest Host Bio:
Mary-Frances O’Connor, PhD is an associate professor of psychology at the University of Arizona, where she directs the Grief, Loss and Social Stress (GLASS) Lab, which investigates the effects of grief on the brain and the body. O’Connor earned a doctorate from the University of Arizona in 2004 and completed a fellowship at UCLA. Following a faculty appointment at UCLA Cousins Center for Psychoneuroimmunology, she returned to the University of Arizona in 2012. Her work has been published in the American Journal of Psychiatry, Biological Psychiatry, and Psychological Science, and featured in Newsweek, the New York Times, and The Washington Post. Having grown up in Montana, she now lives in Tucson, Arizona. For more information go to www.maryfrancesoconnor.com.
Resources:
O'Connor, M.-F. (2022). The Grieving Brain: New discoveries about love, loss, and learning. HarperOne.
American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). https://doi.org/10.1176/appi.books.9780890425596
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How does grief work? Kelly and Sarah tackle the big topic with a big guest. Dr. Mary Frances O'Connor joins them for a conversation about grief and her new book, The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss.
Dr. O'Connor shares her thoughtful insights and research on how grief is not a single circular series of phases, preparing for inevitable hard moments in one's life, and how grief can be a community experience. Kelly discusses how The Grieving Brain arrived at the exact right moment and Sarah fangirls out.
Join us on The Unchosen Fork.
Guest Host Bio:
Mary-Frances O’Connor, PhD is an associate professor of psychology at the University of Arizona, where she directs the Grief, Loss and Social Stress (GLASS) Lab, which investigates the effects of grief on the brain and the body. O’Connor earned a doctorate from the University of Arizona in 2004 and completed a fellowship at UCLA. Following a faculty appointment at UCLA Cousins Center for Psychoneuroimmunology, she returned to the University of Arizona in 2012. Her work has been published in the American Journal of Psychiatry, Biological Psychiatry, and Psychological Science, and featured in Newsweek, the New York Times, and The Washington Post. Having grown up in Montana, she now lives in Tucson, Arizona. For more information go to www.maryfrancesoconnor.com.
Resources:
O'Connor, M.-F. (2022). The Grieving Brain: New discoveries about love, loss, and learning. HarperOne.
American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). https://doi.org/10.1176/appi.books.9780890425596
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Women, Work and Autoimmune Disease: Keep Working, Girlfriend!, Rosalind Joffe MEd (Author), Joan Friedlander (Author) Demos Health
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Ali DiGiacomo is a professional trainer, social media influencer, and RA survivor, Ali was diagnosed at the age of 15 with Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis, now known as Idiopathic Arthritis. She kept her diagnosis a secret, telling no one but family and her best friend. She didn't know a single person with Rheumatoid Arthritis let alone someone with an autoimmune disease. After countless amounts of medications, surgeries, and struggling with depression and anxiety; she decided to start an Instagram account documenting her experience. Through this, she met thousands of other Spoonies who were going through the exact same thing she was experiencing. She then started bringing awareness through funny videos to show others that they're not alone in this.
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Resources:
- The Spoon Theory: Christine Miserandino; https://butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/
- Dimitrov, S., Hulteng, E., & Hong, S. (2017). Inflammation and exercise: Inhibition of monocytic intracellular TNF production by acute exercise via β2-adrenergic activation. Brain, Behavior, and Immunity, 61, 60–68. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.bbi.2016.12.017
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