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The Sleep Is A Skill Podcast - 017: Nir Eyal, Bestselling Author of Indistractable & Hooked, Teaches us how to manage our days to prioritize sleep (7 days a week!) in a highly distractable world. *Spoiler: It is possible!

017: Nir Eyal, Bestselling Author of Indistractable & Hooked, Teaches us how to manage our days to prioritize sleep (7 days a week!) in a highly distractable world. *Spoiler: It is possible!

09/08/20 • 40 min

The Sleep Is A Skill Podcast

What is Distraction?
- What is the opposite of distraction?
- Most people will answer 'Focus', but that isn't quite correct.
- The answer is *Traction*
- trACTION definition = any action that pulls you towards your goals and the person you want to become.
- DIStrACTION definition = any action that pulls you away from your values, goals, and the person you want to become.
- "Anything can be traction as long as you plan for those things."
- People usually blame social media for its addictive build, but demonizing technology must stop since they are actually good platforms that can help us. "How would we get through the pandemic without social media"

Identity
- Willpower used to be thought of as something which we could run out of (aka ego depletion); however, this belief has been debunked by new Psychology studies.
- Basically, people who run out of willpower are people who *believe* willpower is a finite resource.
- People put identities on themselves all the time by using labels
- These labels are usually unfavorable: 'I have an addictive personality,’ ‘I'm a night owl,’ 'I'm not a morning person,’ 'I have a short attention span,’ etc.
- For example, I'm a night owl or I'm an insomniac are labels that can negatively affect your sleep.
Identities can either serve you or hurt you. "Whatever we tell ourselves who we are, that’s who we become. You believe that you are what you say you are."
- A study has been done to show this, which consisted of a group of people sleeping in a lab. In the first part of the study, these people were told in the morning that they had a bad night's sleep, even though, in reality, they had an excellent sleep. - These people then behaved groggily and acted like they were not well-rested (which they wrote on their surveys). The second part was the opposite, the people had a horrible sleep, but they were told that they slept well. Hearing this affected the study group's behavior; this time, they acted more energetic and felt better.
- This study shows how your beliefs about yourself affect your life.

Sources of Distraction
- It is a common belief that distraction is created by external triggers such as "pungs, dings, and notifications of any sort"
In reality, the number one source of distraction is internal triggers. Which are the uncomfortable emotional states that we seek to escape from?
- Such as boredom, loneliness, fatigue, stress, anxiety, etc.
- The actions we take to escape these negative emotions are the real roots of procrastination and distraction, so don't blame your procrastination on character flaws, there is nothing wrong with you!
- The important thing here is to create healthy tools that will lead you towards traction rather than a distraction.

Sleep, Distractions, and Identity
- Identities can sometimes serve us and sometimes hurt us. How can we use it to help us...?
- By reducing self-limiting beliefs. We can use it to become the person we want to become. Stating to yourself ‘who I am’. --- Utilizing this kind of identity for the things and activities we want to do, **which includes sleeping.**
- "Okay, I got the blackout shades, phone in another room, in bed on time, no distraction. But I woke up at 3 am every night and wouldn’t be able to fall back to sleep. “I’m not sleeping, that means tomorrow is gone, and I’m not gonna have a productive day,” Etc. Bad thoughts are triggering more anxiety." How to disarm this anxiety?
- Knowing that your task was to sleep at a specific time and have already completed your task and done your part should give relief. If you can't have a good sleep tonight, you can have a better one tomorrow.
- A mantra to go by is: **The body gets what the body needs**
- You won't usually know how you actually slept unless you get information from an external source, therefore your initial thoughts in the morning will even shape your day either positively or negatively. This shows how putting a label on your day and believing it affects your day and life.

How to Beat Distraction
- The difference between distraction and traction is forethought
- “We get in our way, that we make harder than what they are” So don’t wait for motivation.
- If you want to change a behavior, don't wait for inspiration. Make that behavior easier to do for you.
- People who seem to be indestructible don't have a lot of self-control, self-discipline, and willpower. What they have is a system and a plan. "*The antidote to impulsiveness is forethought".*
- We don't initially know what to do with the impulses that create distractions and procrastination; however, do not get distracted. We have to do the following:
- Take steps in advance and make sure that our distractions won't get the best of us.
- For example: What will you do when someone offe...

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What is Distraction?
- What is the opposite of distraction?
- Most people will answer 'Focus', but that isn't quite correct.
- The answer is *Traction*
- trACTION definition = any action that pulls you towards your goals and the person you want to become.
- DIStrACTION definition = any action that pulls you away from your values, goals, and the person you want to become.
- "Anything can be traction as long as you plan for those things."
- People usually blame social media for its addictive build, but demonizing technology must stop since they are actually good platforms that can help us. "How would we get through the pandemic without social media"

Identity
- Willpower used to be thought of as something which we could run out of (aka ego depletion); however, this belief has been debunked by new Psychology studies.
- Basically, people who run out of willpower are people who *believe* willpower is a finite resource.
- People put identities on themselves all the time by using labels
- These labels are usually unfavorable: 'I have an addictive personality,’ ‘I'm a night owl,’ 'I'm not a morning person,’ 'I have a short attention span,’ etc.
- For example, I'm a night owl or I'm an insomniac are labels that can negatively affect your sleep.
Identities can either serve you or hurt you. "Whatever we tell ourselves who we are, that’s who we become. You believe that you are what you say you are."
- A study has been done to show this, which consisted of a group of people sleeping in a lab. In the first part of the study, these people were told in the morning that they had a bad night's sleep, even though, in reality, they had an excellent sleep. - These people then behaved groggily and acted like they were not well-rested (which they wrote on their surveys). The second part was the opposite, the people had a horrible sleep, but they were told that they slept well. Hearing this affected the study group's behavior; this time, they acted more energetic and felt better.
- This study shows how your beliefs about yourself affect your life.

Sources of Distraction
- It is a common belief that distraction is created by external triggers such as "pungs, dings, and notifications of any sort"
In reality, the number one source of distraction is internal triggers. Which are the uncomfortable emotional states that we seek to escape from?
- Such as boredom, loneliness, fatigue, stress, anxiety, etc.
- The actions we take to escape these negative emotions are the real roots of procrastination and distraction, so don't blame your procrastination on character flaws, there is nothing wrong with you!
- The important thing here is to create healthy tools that will lead you towards traction rather than a distraction.

Sleep, Distractions, and Identity
- Identities can sometimes serve us and sometimes hurt us. How can we use it to help us...?
- By reducing self-limiting beliefs. We can use it to become the person we want to become. Stating to yourself ‘who I am’. --- Utilizing this kind of identity for the things and activities we want to do, **which includes sleeping.**
- "Okay, I got the blackout shades, phone in another room, in bed on time, no distraction. But I woke up at 3 am every night and wouldn’t be able to fall back to sleep. “I’m not sleeping, that means tomorrow is gone, and I’m not gonna have a productive day,” Etc. Bad thoughts are triggering more anxiety." How to disarm this anxiety?
- Knowing that your task was to sleep at a specific time and have already completed your task and done your part should give relief. If you can't have a good sleep tonight, you can have a better one tomorrow.
- A mantra to go by is: **The body gets what the body needs**
- You won't usually know how you actually slept unless you get information from an external source, therefore your initial thoughts in the morning will even shape your day either positively or negatively. This shows how putting a label on your day and believing it affects your day and life.

How to Beat Distraction
- The difference between distraction and traction is forethought
- “We get in our way, that we make harder than what they are” So don’t wait for motivation.
- If you want to change a behavior, don't wait for inspiration. Make that behavior easier to do for you.
- People who seem to be indestructible don't have a lot of self-control, self-discipline, and willpower. What they have is a system and a plan. "*The antidote to impulsiveness is forethought".*
- We don't initially know what to do with the impulses that create distractions and procrastination; however, do not get distracted. We have to do the following:
- Take steps in advance and make sure that our distractions won't get the best of us.
- For example: What will you do when someone offe...

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undefined - 016: Ellen Vora MD, Functional Medicine Psychiatrist, Provides A Modern Approach to Mental Health & Sleep Beyond Pharmaceuticals

016: Ellen Vora MD, Functional Medicine Psychiatrist, Provides A Modern Approach to Mental Health & Sleep Beyond Pharmaceuticals

In this episode, we discuss:

🩺How Dr. Vora came to create this new approach to mental health.

🩺Outlining how she approaches the topic of sleep with her patients and why it’s one of the first places that she begins in her patient assessment

🩺A thorough breakdown of her process including initial sleep screenings, sleep habit rundown, and an overview of the fundamentals.

🩺Dr. Vora’s thoughts on CBT-I (Insomnia) and beyond.

🩺Her ancestral mindset and approach to sleep

🩺Thoughts on sleeping pills and anti-anxiety medications for sleep

🩺Applying testing from a functional medicine perspective to mental health

🩺Dr. Vora’s online small groups around mental health

🩺Discussions on the topic of anxiety, depression, bipolar and light’s connection to them all

EPISODE LINKS:
Email: [email protected]
Twitter: @ellenvoramd
Linkedin: Ellen Vora
Instagram: @ellenvoramd
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenvoramd/

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Receive personalized feedback on where your sleep is at and what it will take to turn it around.
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4. Book a 15 minute Call

We have something for everyone, no matter where you’re at with your sleep. Book a quick call to discuss what the next best steps are for you.

Next Steps To Upleveling Your Sleep -
Website: https://www.sleepisaskill.com/

‘Sleep Obsessions’ Monday Newsletter: https://www.sleepisaskill.com/newsletter

8-Week Wearable Group “Optimize Your Sleep” Program: https://www.sleepisaskill.com/optimize

Sleep Is A Skill Podcast: https://www.sleepisaskill.com/podcasts

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mollie.eastman

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sleepisaskill
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sleepisaskill/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/SleepIsASkill

YouTube:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy-IU372xapHLvXnZRbXU7A

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undefined - 018: Todd White, CEO of Dry Farm Wines, "The Ultimate Biohackers Wine": Why most traditional wines are high in both sugar & alcohol and stand to wreck your sleep...and what to do about.

018: Todd White, CEO of Dry Farm Wines, "The Ultimate Biohackers Wine": Why most traditional wines are high in both sugar & alcohol and stand to wreck your sleep...and what to do about.

Key Takeaways:

  • In contrast to common belief, wines are mostly not natural. Only less than 1% of the wines produced on the planet are natural.
  • The sugar levels in industrially produced wine are higher, but they can hide this fact.
  • Alcoholic beverages with high levels of alcohol disrupt sleep.
  • You have to shop online to purchase natural wine mainly.

What is inside of commercial wine, and why can’t we find natural wine?

  • There are more than 70 additives that are approved by the FDA. These additives include many toxic products within them. European vineyards are allowed to use half the amount compared to the US.
  • It's usually tough to find natural wine unless you live in a big city with some retail stores specifically. Online shopping for natural wine is the easiest way to go.
  • The alcohol level is not mandatory by federal law to be stated. These are regulations that come from the post probation era since lab tests weren’t very accurate back then. And the wine industry likes to keep things this way.
  • Lab-created yeast is used instead of natural yeast. The reason for this is to increase production at scale. Additives have to be used to produce high amounts of wine.

What is natural wine?

  • People usually believe that wine is natural, but only ****less than one-tenth of 1% of wines are naturals.
  • Of the top 20 best selling wines in the US, only two met the sugar-free and natural wine criteria.
  • The use of natural yeast, which is naturally formed on the outside of grapes due to the contact with air. Therefore, natural yeast is a bit harder to get in large quantities, and it works slower.
  • Dry Farms - Are farms where no irrigation is used, which hurt the plants and lead to a lower quality product. Dry farms are the real natural way to grow fruits and vegetables. Irrigation is banned in many places in Europe.
  • Lab testing to see that there are no additives and to check that the alcohol levels are low.

Sugar:

  • “Elevated blood glucose, hyperproduction of insulin are the primary causes of most illnesses.”
  • “Sugar is the single most addictive, destructive, and the most widely abused drug on the planet,” Which leads to many health problems. “Alcohol is also very dangerous, so we have to be careful with that as well and work on low alcohol and sugar-free.”
  • Combining sugar and alcohol creates a devastating effect. Think about the impact of two Tequila shots during your night out compared to the morning after. It gives a boost of energy due to the amount of sugar.
  • 'Clean wines' are not natural wines; they are copycats. When you see companies use clean wine, don’t be fooled by it.
  • We don’t allow more than 1 gram sugar per liter, which is technically sugar-free.

Relation with Sleep:

  • High alcohol and sugar disrupt sleep since they hype the user, giving them an energy boost. On the other hand, wine with low sugar content makes you sleepy and puts you off to sleep. Heavier alcoholic beverages with high sugar content don't do this due to the energy it gives.

EPISODE LINKS:

http://dryfarmwines.com/sleepisaskill
https://www.raisin.digital/en/

Next Steps To Upleveling Your Sleep -
Website: https://www.sleepisaskill.com/

‘Sleep Obsessions’ Monday Newsletter: https://www.sleepisaskill.com/newsletter

8-Week Wearable Group “Optimize Your Sleep” Program: https://www.sleepisaskill.com/optimize

Sleep Is A Skill Podcast: https://www.sleepisaskill.com/podcasts

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mollie-eastman-sleep-is-a-skill-82531825/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mollie.eastman

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sleepisaskill
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sleepisaskill/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/SleepIsASkill

YouTube:

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