MMM 051 - I Broke My Commitment

06/17/19 • 15 min

I broke a commitment ... I gave my word and failed to back it up. Just two weeks ago, I was on the podcast teaching men to be their word. For me to stay within honor and integrity, I need you all to know that I was not that man last week. While it’s been tough as hell, I’m realizing that this mistake is teaching me way more than any victory ever could. In this episode I share with you some of the biggest realizations from the fall-out of my broken commitment.

Show Notes:

Honor is “doing the right thing, even when no one is watching"
Those who know me best know that I am willing to receive a harsh mirror for the sake of discovery. So that I may learn something about myself or my way of being that will empower me to become a better version of me.
Appreciating the fall-out for broken commitments is equally as important as keeping them.
If we put our word on a scale or spectrum, we’ve lost the power behind it from the beginning
Imagine how it feels revealing that I’ve broken a commitment after so recently speaking about this?
Values mean nothing until they are tested under the highest heat
The depth of pain we feel as a result of my own actions is a direct reflection of how much I care
Playing not to lose is NOT winning. Avoiding failure is NOT succeeding.
The greatest lessons are learned in the hardest falls
I can’t make anyone else happy, let alone EVERYONE. My own happiness resides in being who I say I am.
Winning is easy. But, losing...FAILURE...has the power to be a more motivating feeling than winning.

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Show Notes:

Honor is “doing the right thing, even when no one is watching"
Those who know me best know that I am willing to receive a harsh mirror for the sake of discovery. So that I may learn something about myself or my way of being that will empower me to become a better version of me.
Appreciating the fall-out for broken commitments is equally as important as keeping them.
If we put our word on a scale or spectrum, we’ve lost the power behind it from the beginning
Imagine how it feels revealing that I’ve broken a commitment after so recently speaking about this?
Values mean nothing until they are tested under the highest heat
The depth of pain we feel as a result of my own actions is a direct reflection of how much I care
Playing not to lose is NOT winning. Avoiding failure is NOT succeeding.
The greatest lessons are learned in the hardest falls
I can’t make anyone else happy, let alone EVERYONE. My own happiness resides in being who I say I am.
Winning is easy. But, losing...FAILURE...has the power to be a more motivating feeling than winning.

Rising Man Links:

Instagram @therisingmanpodcast

Instagram @jeddyazuma

Facebook @JeddyAzuma

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Show Notes:

The special dynamic between father and son
We can’t be fully prepared for raising a child.
Manhood and boyhood are present energies throughout our lives
Our children mirror back our great qualities, but also our shadows.
We can’t become a “perfect” parent, but we can be as present as possible and refrain from judgement.
The difference between guiding and controlling our children
Dealing with other peoples opinions on how we parent
Our society vilifies apex predators, even though they are vital parts of the ecosystem.
How to embrace the wild energy
You don’t have to be a biological father - there are children and other adults who could use this same energy
The power of leadership/fatherhood is inviting others into their greatness
We ARE our children, parents, ancestors, and future generations.
The obstacles present the opportunities

Connect With Kelly:

Facebook: Kelly Gardner

Instagram: WokeAssDad

Check out his work in Mancave (online) and Unleash the Beast(in person)

Kelly supports with Bridge and Bridge Extreme with Preston Smiles and Alexi Panos

Kelly helps entrepreneurs and creatives share their message by teaching them the art of storytelling.

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Show Notes:

A boy is still working out what he wants, while a man is clear and ready for what he wants.
A man is vulnerable and real, while the boy is learning those lessons.
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The potential to be a man of his word is in our DNA, but it must be awakened. Be gentle with yourself and let the process unfold.
As a collective, we have made the world unsafe for women. What can we do to reverse that?
Amy’s relationship with men - From abuse to self love.
Do men realize the depth that their actions have on women?
The value of meaningful heartfelt affirmations and compliments.
What helped Amy regain trust in men?
How emasculation shows up in relationship
Why vulnerability is a super power and makes a woman feel safe - WHEN SHARED IN THE RIGHT CONTEXT.
Safety for Women, Freedom for Men
Vulnerability is a connection point.
What is her message to men who have perpetrated violence towards women?
There is beauty everywhere
You must learn to fully receive in order to give
We do the work in order to give the next generations a better world
The greatest gifts and faults of the #MeToo movement.