Reparenting 101: Dating, Dysfunction and Your Inner Demon Child

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08/08/19 • 107 min

So many dating disasters can often be boiled down to a lack of reparenting on both people's parts. Without learning to reparent ourselves, we'll continue to dump our unresolved debris on every new love story we walk into- so one might say this is mighty important.

**In this week's episode we break it down: **

• What reparenting is.
• Why reparenting is essential regurdless of your age, experience or how much "work" you've done.
• Whatever was missed in early childhood healthy development is your demon childs biggest power play AND your key to liberation from your toddler tyrants tyranny.
• Why reparenting is a challenge and the normalcy of resisting this work.
• The revelation of our biggest areas of reparenting individually and how this impacts our relationship.
• The drama in dating and it's direct links to a lack of reparenting.
• Our top 10 tips to begin your reparenting journey.

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**In this week's episode we break it down: **

Previous Episode

Creating Your Breakup Plan

You can't begin a healthy relationship until you know how to end a relationship with grace, honour and respect. So many people simply don't know how to end a relationship from a place of love.

But here is the deal, if you loved each other at the start, to truly honour the essence of love, it is important we bring love into the ending. Even when it hurts, even when you're in pain, we have the choice to act with honour and love.

But this is a skill, one that is rarely modeled. In this week's episode we give you the step by step to creating a breakup plan TOGETHER and the importance of ending relationships with more respect, consideration and kindness.

Show Notes

• Why breakup plans are important and why many people avoid operating at this level of intentionality and practicality.
• How a breakup plan contributes to more integrity, intentionality and safety for the entirety of your relationship.
• The play by play of our breakup plan that we co-created at the start of our relationship and what it entails.
• The 10 Steps to support your breakup agreement co-creation. **

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Next Episode

Underfunctioning 101: Sucking From The Mommy Nipple

Underfunctioning is 1/2 of the dysfunctional dance so many couple's find themselves in. In this week's Powercouple Game Time episode we're exploring the in's and outs of underfunctioning. As a recovering underfunctioner, Jamie is in the hot seat this week. Being interviewed by Kelsey, he generously gives the audience access into the experience of the underfunctioner as well as some solid action steps to begin healing this pattern if you're (or someone you know) is underfunctioning and has the desire to become more optimal functioning in their life AND in their relationship.

In this episode

• What is an underfunctioner, and what is the relational and psychological definition?
• Where the roots of underfunctioning often begin.
• The internal stresses that come with underfunctioning and the unconscious coping behaviours to minimize and numb the anxiety.
• The relationship between competency and underfunctioning.
• The passivity, conflict avoidance and wounding patterns at play with underfunctioners.
• The imbalance of space in an underfunctioner dynamic.
• How to heal underfunctioning through reparenting.
• The role of discipline, challenge and backbone when it comes to moving towards more optimal functioning.

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Traver Boehm's article we referenced can be read HERE