The Power Couple Podcast

Underfunctioning is 1/2 of the dysfunctional dance so many couple's find themselves in. In this week's Powercouple Game Time episode we're exploring the in's and outs of underfunctioning. As a recovering underfunctioner, Jamie is in the hot seat this week. Being interviewed by Kelsey, he generously gives the audience access into the experience of the underfunctioner as well as some solid action steps to begin healing this pattern if you're (or someone you know) is underfunctioning and has the desire to become more optimal functioning in their life AND in their relationship.

In this episode

• What is an underfunctioner, and what is the relational and psychological definition?
• Where the roots of underfunctioning often begin.
• The internal stresses that come with underfunctioning and the unconscious coping behaviours to minimize and numb the anxiety.
• The relationship between competency and underfunctioning.
• The passivity, conflict avoidance and wounding patterns at play with underfunctioners.
• The imbalance of space in an underfunctioner dynamic.
• How to heal underfunctioning through reparenting.
• The role of discipline, challenge and backbone when it comes to moving towards more optimal functioning.

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Traver Boehm's article we referenced can be read HERE

So many dating disasters can often be boiled down to a lack of reparenting on both people's parts. Without learning to reparent ourselves, we'll continue to dump our unresolved debris on every new love story we walk into- so one might say this is mighty important.

**In this week's episode we break it down: **

• What reparenting is.
• Why reparenting is essential regurdless of your age, experience or how much "work" you've done.
• Whatever was missed in early childhood healthy development is your demon childs biggest power play AND your key to liberation from your toddler tyrants tyranny.
• Why reparenting is a challenge and the normalcy of resisting this work.
• The revelation of our biggest areas of reparenting individually and how this impacts our relationship.
• The drama in dating and it's direct links to a lack of reparenting.
• Our top 10 tips to begin your reparenting journey.

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You can't begin a healthy relationship until you know how to end a relationship with grace, honour and respect. So many people simply don't know how to end a relationship from a place of love.

But here is the deal, if you loved each other at the start, to truly honour the essence of love, it is important we bring love into the ending. Even when it hurts, even when you're in pain, we have the choice to act with honour and love.

But this is a skill, one that is rarely modeled. In this week's episode we give you the step by step to creating a breakup plan TOGETHER and the importance of ending relationships with more respect, consideration and kindness.

Show Notes

• Why breakup plans are important and why many people avoid operating at this level of intentionality and practicality.
• How a breakup plan contributes to more integrity, intentionality and safety for the entirety of your relationship.
• The play by play of our breakup plan that we co-created at the start of our relationship and what it entails.
• The 10 Steps to support your breakup agreement co-creation. **

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In this week's episode we're rocking a Power Couple Podcast Threesome with our amazing friend, colleague and all around bad-ass Amy Young.

Show Notes

• The importance of taking ownership over our dating and love lives.
• Navigating the discomfort of coming into full bodied alignment with what it is you're looking for in another person.
• Accountability and sex appeal.
• Giving up our dating victimhood mentalities and showing up more fully for ourselves first.
• Why follow through boosts the healthy relationship you have with you.
• Our love of Will Smith's wisdom and how it plays into high quality dating.
• The link between intimacy and imperfection. When we're obsessed with perfection in relationships and dating there is no room for true intimacy.
• Why "seeing the good ones" has everything to do with what you're actually intent on seeing.
• The difference between discernment and picky judgment.
• Just because someone is a good human doesn't make them a good partner for you. Pay attention to the full picture.
• Attention isn't love. How to move from needy to honoring our needs.

Looking for more Amy?
Find her on instagram HERE
More on her work HERE

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Who we are when we first get together with someone can be very different than who we ultimately become.
A wonderful example of this is our dear friends Ben and Renae Oosterveld. They've been together for 16 years, have 5 kids and have been through the wild world of personal and relational transformation in that time.
In this interview we explore the world what it actually looks like behind the scenes of a long-term relationship, when it comes to remaining committed when both people are growing, changing and evolving.
We also explore what its like when two people who are so different pair up in partnership and how to come together as a team, instead of opposing one another in a ego battleground.
We loved these two and can't wait to have them back on!
Connect With Ben and Renae
Renae's Instagram: Plugged In Parent
Ben's Instagram: HERE
Ben's Upcoming March 2020 Event (Kelsey is speaking at): HERE
Want More Love Education?
Kelsey's next online webinar class is FEB 1st 2020 and we're diving deep into GHOSTING and REJECTION.
Grab your spot HERE and use the promocode: EARLYBIRD for $15 off (promo code ends Jan 26th)
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Can't get enough of the show? Us either...plus we just love kicking it with all ya'll, and we do that over in our after-show community.
We have fun weekly mixers, win sharing, Kelsey does a relationship training every Tuesday paired with our Movie Club...it's a blast..and FREE to join!
To get in on that goodness follow this link HERE (you will be prompted to answer 2 questions to get in- if you don't answer them we can't approve your request to join the love club. These answers aren't shared with the group, just for Jamie and I to make sure people who actually give a shit about great relationships and legendary love come through the doors).
xo