075 - Patience Is A Virtue, So Why Is It So Bloomin Hard!?

Patience Is A Virtue, So Why Is It So Bloomin Hard!

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Patience Is A Virtue, So Why Is It So Bloomin Hard!

Patience is a virtue right? It is. But it can also be so damn hard to practice!

Patience is something we tend to need in droves when we’re making any big changes or starting or running a business...but it can be one of the hardest things that we do. Go figure!

Now please!

We want it to happen NOW, NOW, NOW! Many people also lose patience on the journey and give up, often just before a break through.

There’s a great Thomas Edison quote to emphasise this, “Many of life's failures are people who did not realise how close they were to success when they gave up.” Coming from the person who also said “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work” I really think it’s an opinion worth listening to.

Being patient means that we have to accept that we’re living in a moment of uncertainty and when our brains loooove certainty it can make it feel very difficult.

Impatience is a big issue!

In the last few years I've really seen impatience being a big issue for business owners, and anyone trying to make a big change too of course.

Think weight loss, new morning routines, diet, exercise, all the things where we know what to do to make the change but we don’t stick to it because it feels too hard.

So take fad diets for example because I always love a weight loss analogy!

So, you lose the weight really quickly through sacrificing certain foods or restricting calories, does it ever actually stay off?

Whereas, if you lose it slow and steady over time and create a lifestyle change that actually works for you, you incorporate exercise that you actually enjoy and it allows your unconscious habits to catch up with you, does it stay off then?

Which process feels better?

There's a little more to it

But, here’s the thing, it’s not JUST because you’re frustrated at the time it takes for your business to grow. You’re frustrated at what you’re making it MEAN that it’s taking so long for your business to grow.

So...what are you making it MEAN to you that you’re not growing as fast as other people say you should?

That you’re not good enough?

That you’re not cut out for this?

That other people are better than you and judging you for not being further ahead?

Listen to those pesky little thoughts and catch them so you can challenge them, because they’re not true!

Nothing has any meaning except for the meaning you give it.

It's not your fault!

We’re constantly bombarded with the ‘how I made 6 figures in 6 months and I can teach you my exact steps’ (If you’re not sure how I feel about then head HERE) so we’re seeing how ‘doable’ it is.

Other people have done it right? Apart from all the steps that may have been missed out, the different backgrounds, circumstances etc etc. DOH!

So, because of these messages, we’re expecting that in 6 short months we’re going to be making 6 figures in our brand new business, and if we don’t we’ve failed.

So, hang on, you’re expecting to be able to understand business, marketing, your message, your niche, your ideal client, what products you want to sell, test everything, create your brand, your content, know how you want to work, actually work with people so you have testimonials, build a reputation, tame all the mindset gremlins you’ve had since you were a child, not to mention all the other things you need to learn or create, and make 6 figures...all in 6 months?? With no help??

Impatience can be the killer of dreams!

Impatience clouds your judgement, increases your frustration (which is the biggest driver of quitting!) and makes the mindset gremlins go crazy!

‘Why haven’t YOU done it yet, other people have’.

‘Why aren’t you where they are? They must be better.’

It can really cause you to self sabotage and no...