Episode 64: Sex Coach Sofia Ashley on Finding Your Sex Drive After Kids

11/20/24 • 56 min

The Not Your Mother's Pelvic Floor Podcast

In Episode 64 of the Not Your Mother's Pelvic Floor podcast, Aliya chats with Certified Sex Coach Sofia Ashley all about how to get your libido back after having kids.
In this episode, you'll hear Sofia and Aliya chat about:

Where Sofia learned about periods, tampons, STIs and sex
What it was like to feel disconnected from her body growing up
What happens in our body (and our pelvic floor) when we have an orgasm
The surprising things that can impact our sex drive after having a baby
What "libido" is and what influences our arousal
Spontaneous vs scheduled sex - is it ok to schedule sex?
Sofia's recommendation of "naked sexy fun time" as a way to play with your partner without any pressure
How much sex is "enough" in a relationship?
Tools such as simmering, setting the stage, and soothing the nervous system and how these work to help restore connection + intimacy in a relationship
Why sex is a social skill!

About Sofia Ashley:
Sofia Ashley is the founder of the Happy Vagina Project. She is a certified sex coach and educator with over 10 years experience teaching adults, teens and tots about sex and she is your totally TMI buddy who has been giving sex advice since high school. She is a mom and step mom living in a neurospicy household and a blended family just trying to keep her libido alive in this busy world while parenting three kiddos. Sofia spent her twenties at war with her vagina and searching for the grand orgasm. Along the way she found out that the keys to better sex are the keys to a better life and that listening to my V (ahem that’s code for vagina) was the key to it all. She supports moms and couples with her Light Your Fire Five Day Challenge and her 9 month signature program - Sex After Kids.

Find her on Instagram @thehappyvproject or on her website at www.thehappyvaginaproject.com - you can find Sofia's "Solve Your Sex Drive" quiz there!

Thanks for listening!

About Aliya:
Aliya Dhalla PT, B.Sc, MPT is a Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist in Toronto, Canada and the Founder of Box Wellness Co. You can learn pelvic floor exercises and tips from her on Instagram @boxwellnessco - this is where she likes to share some behind-the-scenes of her life, her clinic, and what she's eating these days.
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Check out boxwellness.co to learn more about Aliya + how she can help you through her online courses, programs, and more!
For FREE resources to help you along your pelvic health journey, check out https://boxwellness.co/free-pelvic-floor-resources
Follow along @boxwellnessco + @notyourmotherspelvicfloor for more fun.
More info on: The Pelvic Floor Mobility Program
More info on: Online Pregnancy Courses

Where Sofia learned about periods, tampons, STIs and sex
What it was like to feel disconnected from her body growing up
What happens in our body (and our pelvic floor) when we have an orgasm
The surprising things that can impact our sex drive after having a baby
What "libido" is and what influences our arousal
Spontaneous vs scheduled sex - is it ok to schedule sex?
Sofia's recommendation of "naked sexy fun time" as a way to play with your partner without any pressure
How much sex is "enough" in a relationship?
Tools such as simmering, setting the stage, and soothing the nervous system and how these work to help restore connection + intimacy in a relationship
Why sex is a social skill!

Find her on Instagram @thehappyvproject or on her website at www.thehappyvaginaproject.com - you can find Sofia's "Solve Your Sex Drive" quiz there!

Thanks for listening!

Previous Episode

Episode 63: 3 Ways to Release Your Tight Pelvic Floor

If you've been holding tension in your body - like your jaw, neck, shoulders, or pelvic floor, then this episode is for you.

In Episode 63 of the Not Your Mother's Pelvic Floor Podcast, Aliya talks all about 3 ways to release tight pelvic floor muscles and explains how to figure out how and why you might be holding tension in your pelvis to begin with.

Other episodes you might like:
Aliya mentioned a few other episodes that you might find interesting. Check out Episodes 41 (is your pelvic floor tight?), 35 (why you should stop sucking in your belly), 27 (your pelvic floor + your breath), 13 (stress + your pelvic floor).

**Today's episode is sponsored by THE PELVIC FLOOR MOBILITY PROGRAM. This is an online program filled with follow along pelvic floor exercise videos designed by Aliya, a Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist and based on the exact exercises she teaches her patients. To date, this program has helped hundreds of women fix their pelvic floor problems through a whole-body approach that includes breath work, stretching, mobility, pelvic floor + core strengthening, and stress reduction. Learn more about it HERE! **Use the code PODCAST for 10% off**

If you’d like to get in touch, Aliya would love to hear from you! Find her on Instagram at @boxwellnessco or send her an email at [email protected].

Thanks for listening!

Next Episode

Episode 65: Stop Leaking When You Cough Or Sneeze

If you've experienced leaks when you cough or sneeze, then this episode is for you.

In Episode 65 of the Not Your Mother's Pelvic Floor Podcast, Aliya talks all about why we commonly leak with coughs and sneezes and shares 5 helpful tips to stop stress urinary incontinence with coughs or sneezes.

Resources:
Aliya mentioned a neat product called URESTA that provides internal support and helps stop leaks. You can check out URESTA here and use the code BOXWELLNESSCO to save 15% off a Starter Kit.
She also mentioned how helpful her online pelvic floor exercise program is when it comes to improving leaks and bladder control. Aliya's PELVIC FLOOR MOBILITY PROGRAM is an online program filled with follow along pelvic floor exercise videos designed by Aliya, a Pelvic Floor Physiotherapist and based on the exact exercises she teaches her patients. To date, this program has helped hundreds of women fix their pelvic floor problems through a whole-body approach that includes breath work, stretching, mobility, pelvic floor + core strengthening, and stress reduction. Learn more about it HERE! **Use the code 2024 for 20% off until the end of the year**

If you’d like to get in touch, Aliya would love to hear from you! Find her on Instagram at @boxwellnessco or send her an email at [email protected].

Thanks for listening!