Episode #131 “Listen to Hear: How Deep Listening Can Change Your Money Story”

03/23/23 • 50 min

Dr. Ted Klontz Ph.D | Associate Professor | Researcher | Author | Speaker Intro: In this episode, we have a conversation with Dr. Ted Klontz, who is often referred to as "The People Whisperer". He is an associate professor of Practice and Financial Psychology at Creighton University, a professional consultant for major entertainment management groups, an international speaker, a published researcher and author who has contributed to 6 books, and the Director of the Financial Psychology Institute®. Why You Should Listen: This episode is a must-listen for anyone who wants to understand the power of listening and how it can help us change our money story. Dr. Klontz discusses the importance of embracing the discomforts that present themselves around money instead of fleeing or avoiding the discomfort. He shares how listening is the most important part of helping people change and how experiences, and not telling, are the most effective ways to make meaningful change. Dr. Klontz provides practical insights and tools that can help listeners understand and change their money story. He emphasizes that if we learn to listen to our own truth, the money will take care of itself. Dr. Klontz also suggests music is one of the most powerful ways to communicate with our authentic selves. When we hear the words being sung back to us, it’s like no other feeling to be heard. It’s a way people can feel heard. Highlights: - The power of first money memories and how they shape our beliefs about money - The importance of understanding our financial flashpoints - Embracing discomfort around money and learning from it - The importance of listening and how it can help us change our money story - How to take off the armour we have built up around our money story - Why engage with experiences over "being told" what do to is most effective at changing money beliefs - Dr. Klontz explains how the authentic part of us speaks in metaphors and analogies, pictures; it is a sensory voice, and music excites more areas of the brain than anything else Quotes: “If you can learn to honour your own truth, the money will take care of itself” Dr. Ted Klontz “Every kind of tear has a message” Dr. Ted Klontz "Telling is not teaching" Dr. Ted Klonz “We run out of life before we realize it’s not about the money” Dr. Ted Klontz Links:- Dr. Ted Klontz's website: CLICK HERE - John Fox's poem "When Someone Deeply Listens to You" CLICK HERE

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Episode #130 “Finding Financial Wholeness: A Conversation with Dr. Michael Thomas”

Dr. Michael Thomas Ph.d | Lecturer | Researcher | Author | Intro: In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Michael Thomas, an Accredited Financial Counselor, lecturer at the University of Georgia, and founder of Modom Solutions - a virtual financial coaching service. Dr. Thomas's research focuses on financial empathy, self-compassion, financial behaviours, and the connection between brain function and money. In our conversation, we explored what it means to be financially whole, the importance of financial empathy, and the impact of internal and external financial systems on our financial journeys. We also discussed Dr. Thomas's upcoming book, "Black Financial Culture: Building Wealth from the Inside Out." Why You Should Listen: In this episode, Dr. Thomas shares his insights on how we can find financial freedom through self-awareness, empathy and finding our whole self. He discusses the importance of understanding our whole selves, aligning our spending with our authentic voice, and cultivating empathy to deepen our connections with others. You'll also hear about his upcoming book, which is a unique blend of financial advice and personal storytelling that encourages readers to reflect on their own money stories. Whether you're just starting your financial journey or looking for ways to deepen your understanding of your money beliefs, this episode offers practical insights and guidance to help you find and navigate your money story. Highlights - Understanding what it means to be financially whole and aligning our spending with our authentic selves. - The importance of cultivating financial empathy and how it can lead to more meaningful communication and understanding. - The impact of internal and external financial systems on our financial journeys and how recognizing these systems can help us make more informed financial decisions. - Dr. Thomas's upcoming book, "Black Financial Culture: Building Wealth from the Inside Out," and how it serves as a love letter that incorporates financial topics written from the heart. - The power of recognizing and acknowledging our financial stories to find greater financial freedom and live authentically. LINKS: - Black Financial Culture (Dr. Thomas' website for his book): CLICK HERE - Modom Solutions: CLICK HERE - LinkedIn: CLICK HERE

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Exploring Love & Money with Dr. Sonya Lutter

Dr. Sonya Lutter Ph.D. CFP®, LMFT | Research | Program Director | Owner of EnLite.World | Author Intro: In today's episode, we're excited to have Dr. Sonya Lutter, the Director of Financial Health and Wellness and the owner of EnLite.World, join us to discuss Love & Money. Money is a sensitive topic, and it's not uncommon to see it causing conflict in relationships. In this insightful conversation, Dr. Lutter shares her knowledge and experience to help us understand why our money conflicts are rarely just about the money, and how we can engage in healthy and effective reflective exercises to bring more awareness to our relationship with money. Why You Should Listen: Money is an essential part of our lives, and it's something that we all have to deal with in our relationships. Dr. Sonya Lutter brings her extensive experience and expertise as a Certified Financial Planner, Marriage Family Therapist, researcher, and professor to provide evidence-based exercises to help us understand our money relationship and bring awareness to our core values. By listening to this episode, you'll learn how to communicate around money effectively, lean into difficult financial conversations, reflect on your feelings and emotions about money, and strengthen your relationship while healing your money relationship. Highlights: - Money conflicts are not just about the money but the underlying emotions waiting to be seen and heard. - Our money conflicts are about our core values, which for many of us, are unknown and unexplored. - Dr. Sonya Lutter shares evidence-based exercises that can help couples engage in healthy and effective reflective exercises to bring more awareness to their relationship with money. - We explore core values, leaning into difficult financial conversations, effective communication around money, and reflecting on our feelings and emotions pertaining to money. - By understanding the core values behind our financial conflicts, we can find healing, strengthen our relationships, and ultimately find more peace and insight. LINKS: - Sonya's Website: CLICK HERE - Sonya's LinkedIn: CLICK HERE - Sonya's Book: CLICK HERE