THIS-functional Me!
02/11/21 • 29 min
Today’s Life Quote: “You are responsible for your life. You can’t keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on.” Oprah Winfrey
How many times have we heard someone say that either they themselves are the product of a dysfunctional family or they know someone who comes from a dysfunctional family? What does it mean to be a product of dysfunction? Webster’s defines dysfunctional as “not functioning properly: marked by impaired or abnormal functioning. Or Characterized by abnormal or unhealthy interpersonal behavior or interaction.”
My definition of dysfunctional (in addition to what Webster’s has to say) is; dysfunction is comparing what you may deem as abnormal in your family or life by comparing it what you deem to be normal in the life/family of another who too sees there life/family as dysfunctional. Hmmm! Now imagine that. Disclaimer: Any form of abuse is dysfunctional and is not the type of dysfunction I’m referring to for the purpose of this podcast.
Now that we understand “dysfunctional” then what exactly is “THIS-functional.”
THIS-functional is the functionality excuse or blame factor used to continue in one’s own dysfunctional world. Here are a few examples:
THIS is how I am!
THIS is the way I was raised!
THIS is the way it’s going to be!
THIS is how it’s done!
THIS is what I enjoy doing!
THIS is all I know!
Does any of this sound familiar? Are you yourself guilty of remaining stuck or stagnant in your own THIS-function. Growth and change inevitably go hand in hand. When we’re young and in our toddler to pre-teen years we enter into a world filled with the beliefs and experiences of our parents, and because they’re our parents we look up to them and take their word and experiences as the gospel and the only way to live life. Then the teenage years come along, and we meet other people who too are filled with the beliefs and experiences of their parents, and when the two come together other beliefs and experiences are born. As we go through life reading, learning, and experiencing we will either hold onto everything and allow that to be our ONLY guiding path, or we allow new (hopefully) positive experiences to light the way. I’m not suggesting that everything we experience is life is not good for us, but we have to be open enough to at least explore. Why would anyone CHOOSE to remain in a place (mentally, physically or emotionally) that’s not serving you in a positive way.
Today’s Life Quote: “You are responsible for your life. You can’t keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on.” Oprah Winfrey
How many times have we heard someone say that either they themselves are the product of a dysfunctional family or they know someone who comes from a dysfunctional family? What does it mean to be a product of dysfunction? Webster’s defines dysfunctional as “not functioning properly: marked by impaired or abnormal functioning. Or Characterized by abnormal or unhealthy interpersonal behavior or interaction.”
My definition of dysfunctional (in addition to what Webster’s has to say) is; dysfunction is comparing what you may deem as abnormal in your family or life by comparing it what you deem to be normal in the life/family of another who too sees there life/family as dysfunctional. Hmmm! Now imagine that. Disclaimer: Any form of abuse is dysfunctional and is not the type of dysfunction I’m referring to for the purpose of this podcast.
Now that we understand “dysfunctional” then what exactly is “THIS-functional.”
THIS-functional is the functionality excuse or blame factor used to continue in one’s own dysfunctional world. Here are a few examples:
THIS is how I am!
THIS is the way I was raised!
THIS is the way it’s going to be!
THIS is how it’s done!
THIS is what I enjoy doing!
THIS is all I know!
Does any of this sound familiar? Are you yourself guilty of remaining stuck or stagnant in your own THIS-function. Growth and change inevitably go hand in hand. When we’re young and in our toddler to pre-teen years we enter into a world filled with the beliefs and experiences of our parents, and because they’re our parents we look up to them and take their word and experiences as the gospel and the only way to live life. Then the teenage years come along, and we meet other people who too are filled with the beliefs and experiences of their parents, and when the two come together other beliefs and experiences are born. As we go through life reading, learning, and experiencing we will either hold onto everything and allow that to be our ONLY guiding path, or we allow new (hopefully) positive experiences to light the way. I’m not suggesting that everything we experience is life is not good for us, but we have to be open enough to at least explore. Why would anyone CHOOSE to remain in a place (mentally, physically or emotionally) that’s not serving you in a positive way.
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