235: Dr. Gay Hendricks - How To Make The Big Leap

12/11/17 • 50 min

Episode 235: Dr. Gay Hendricks - How To Make The Big Leap

Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford, Gay served as professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving (co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks), both used as a primary text in universities around the world. In 2003, Gay co-founded The Spiritual Cinema Circle,which distributes inspirational movies and conscious entertainment to subscribers in 70+ countries.

Gay has offered seminars worldwide and appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. In addition to his work with The Hendricks Institute, Gay is currently continuing his new mystery series that began with The First Rule Of Ten

Episode 235: Dr. Gay Hendricks - How To Make The Big Leap

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The Learning Leader Show

"The money became an effortless byproduct of doing what I love"

Show Notes:

Commonalities of leaders who sustain excellence:
- Openness to learning
- Great listener
- They do not waste time being defensive
The makeup of insecure people who won't learn = Fear. A bug --> You poke it, it curls towards the center. They are scared. We have the same nervous system from many years ago
- Must acknowledge the fears -- "Don't try to out argue them or "out-facts" them"
- "Speak to your shared fears" when scared
- The 4 things we do when scared:
  - Fight
  - Runaway
  - Freeze
  - Space out
- Fear tries to take us out of the moment
His story of going on the Oprah show -- "Being on Oprah was like having 10 shots of espresso"
What is the upper limit problem? A point in success/happiness -- if you go past the point of it, you do something to knock yourself down. Fears keep people locked in certain zones
The 4 Operating Zones
- Zone of incompetence
- Zone of competence
- Zone of excellence
- Zone of Genius
Most love to do? "Living full time in the zone of genius"
Why you should start with "10 minutes of what you most love to do" -- Then continually bump that time up
Making the leap -- Freedom, pressure. Stand up, walk your talk. So rewarding, but can you make money?
- "The money became an effortless byproduct of doing what I love"
Walk quietly and with passion... Auspicious things happen
Life rewards expression of true genius
Early 90's, Gay spent 30% of time in his genius zone, then 50%, then 70%, now 90% of time is spent in his zone of genius
His zone of genius? "Be a model of creativity. Explain complicated things in a simple way."
- Oprah called it "Learning to love yourself"
Creativity - Conscious loving ever after -- How to access more creativity? Every day after 50 is a choice between creativity and stagnation. Move, play, create new ideas. At age 65, Gay started lifting weights. Must keep moving your body
He wrote his first mystery novel at age 65 (Wow!)
He just sold the mystery series to Netflix to turn it into a television series
- It's never too late to start accessing new paths of creativity
- Put your mind on how to create more
Learning Leader = "Commitment to learn from the moment"

"Life rewards expression of true genius."

Social Media:

Read: The Big Leap
Follow Gay on Twitter: @GayHendricks
Connect with me on LinkedIn
Join our Facebook Group: The Learning Leader Community
To Follow Me on Twitter: @RyanHawk12

Episode 235: Dr. Gay Hendricks - How To Make The Big Leap

Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher Radio

The Learning Leader Show

"The money became an effortless byproduct of doing what I love"

Show Notes:

Commonalities of leaders who sustain excellence:
- Openness to learning
- Great listener
- They do not waste time being defensive
The makeup of insecure people who won't learn = Fear. A bug --> You poke it, it curls towards the center. They are scared. We have the same nervous system from many years ago
- Must acknowledge the fears -- "Don't try to out argue them or "out-facts" them"
- "Speak to your shared fears" when scared
- The 4 things we do when scared:
  - Fight
  - Runaway
  - Freeze
  - Space out
- Fear tries to take us out of the moment
His story of going on the Oprah show -- "Being on Oprah was like having 10 shots of espresso"
What is the upper limit problem? A point in success/happiness -- if you go past the point of it, you do something to knock yourself down. Fears keep people locked in certain zones
The 4 Operating Zones
- Zone of incompetence
- Zone of competence
- Zone of excellence
- Zone of Genius
Most love to do? "Living full time in the zone of genius"
Why you should start with "10 minutes of what you most love to do" -- Then continually bump that time up
Making the leap -- Freedom, pressure. Stand up, walk your talk. So rewarding, but can you make money?
- "The money became an effortless byproduct of doing what I love"
Walk quietly and with passion... Auspicious things happen
Life rewards expression of true genius
Early 90's, Gay spent 30% of time in his genius zone, then 50%, then 70%, now 90% of time is spent in his zone of genius
His zone of genius? "Be a model of creativity. Explain complicated things in a simple way."
- Oprah called it "Learning to love yourself"
Creativity - Conscious loving ever after -- How to access more creativity? Every day after 50 is a choice between creativity and stagnation. Move, play, create new ideas. At age 65, Gay started lifting weights. Must keep moving your body
He wrote his first mystery novel at age 65 (Wow!)
He just sold the mystery series to Netflix to turn it into a television series
- It's never too late to start accessing new paths of creativity
- Put your mind on how to create more
Learning Leader = "Commitment to learn from the moment"

"Life rewards expression of true genius."

Social Media:

Read: The Big Leap
Follow Gay on Twitter: @GayHendricks
Connect with me on LinkedIn
Join our Facebook Group: The Learning Leader Community
To Follow Me on Twitter: @RyanHawk12

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234: Jocko Willink - Why Discipline Equals Freedom

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"As the leader, you are responsible for EVERYTHING that happens in your organization."

Show Notes:

Commonalities of leaders who sustain excellence:
- Humility
- Constantly looking to improve
- Learning
- Willing and able to take criticism
Incredible story of a mutiny within the ranks because of a platoon commander's ego
Way Of The Warrior Kid - The message for children
- Be humble
- Don't give up
- Work hard
Ramadi -- The epicenter, insurgency in Iraq
- The confusion/fog of war
A firefight... Between friendly forces: Who's at fault?
Jocko took ownership - "As the leader, I'm responsible for everything that happens on that field. It wasn't your fault, it's mine."
"If you make a mistake, you must own it."
Owning the mistakes created confidence and trust with Jocko's boss
How do you handle a bad boss?
- Make them look good
- Ask for feedback, advice, ask for their approval, build them up
- Isn't that manipulation? "Yes..."
"It's not just what you preach, it's what you tolerate."
Decentralized command -- Empowering junior leaders to make important decisions. Front line leaders must be empowered. Why? Speed
- Being empowered as a quarterback to call an audible -- Why this was an optimal way for us to attack a defense and ultimately win games. The coaches needed to trust and empower me to do this
Are leaders born or made?
Characteristics of great leaders?
- They take complex things and simplify them
- They are articulate
- They are loud (seems strange, but it's true for military leaders and a quarterback)
How much can you learn? You must detach emotion, and be decisive.
Why wake up at 4:30 am? "It is time for me to own, it's before everyone else is awake"
Favorite part of work? - Podcasting and working with companies
How has Jocko created this lifestyle? -- Many years of consistent, sustained work
- "Discipline Equals Freedom."
His discipline for many years has helped him create a lifestyle that he loves

"It's not just what you preach. It's what you tolerate."

Social Media:

Read: Extreme Ownership
See why over 150,000 people follow Jocko on Twitter: @jockowillink
Connect with me on LinkedIn
Join our Facebook Group: The Learning Leader Community
To Follow Me on Twitter: @RyanHawk12

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236: Brian Scudamore - CEO of 1-800-GOT-JUNK: How To Scale A Business

Episode 236: Brian Scudamore - CEO of 1-800-GOT-JUNK: How To Scale A Business

Brian started his business in Vancouver, Canada at the age of 18, and later went on to franchise 1-800-GOT-JUNK? as a way to expand operations. Today, 1-800-GOT-JUNK? has 1000 trucks on the road throughout some 180 locations in Canada, the United States, and Australia.

Brian has received wide recognition in the media and business community. 1-800-GOT-JUNK? has celebrated appearances on the highly-acclaimed Undercover Boss Canada, Dr. Oz, Dr. Phil, CNN, ABC Nightline, the Today Show, The Hour with George Stroumboulopoulos, and the View. His story has been told in Fortune Magazine, Business Week, New York Times, Huffington Post, and Wall Street Journal, to name a few. 1-800-GOT-JUNK? is currently the starring junk removal attraction on the hit A&E reality show, Hoarders.

Brian has brought his entrepreneurial success story to many conference stages, including the Fortune Small Business Magazine’s national conference. A strong believer in personal and professional development, Brian graduated from MIT's four-year Birthing of Giants program, and has subsequently completed several years of MIT’s BOG’s alumni program, Gathering of Titans. He is also a participant in a nine-year executive education program at Harvard University through YPO Presidents’ University. (from 1800gotjunk.com)

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"I don't know if you can live the full potential if it's a side hustle. You need to give maximum effort."

Show Notes:

Commonalities of leaders who sustain excellence:
- Focus - All in, not a side hustle
- Faith - Belief in self, clear vision
- Effort - Discipline
Why we all need an "MBA" -- A "Mentor Board of Advisors"
Fred DeLuca -- Subway founder - He never took his eye off the prize. He struggled and kept going. 32 stores in 12 years.
Are entrepreneurs born or made?
- Brian started a carwash as a kid. He sold candy in his dorm room
Creativity as a Dad -- Always build things with your kids and watch them grow together (ie. a garden)
Why did he start 1-800-GOT-JUNK?
- Needed money for college... Initially called it "The Rubbish Boys"
Brian learned more about running a business from actually doing it than he did in school
The amazing story of Brian's dad "falling out of his chair" when he told me he was leaving school to run the business full time
- "It couldn't be a side hustle." The need for maximum effort to be successful
How Brian views opportunities
- And where he thinks of new ideas to create more businesses
The importance of going on walks
Meeting outdoors in Vancouver -- "Get your muscles moving"
Morning routine -- Get up at 5:55
- Power hour
- Focus on self
- Exercise
- Study French, Italian (other languages)
- Spend moments learning before the kids wake up
Side hustle -- "I don't know if you can live the full potential if it's a side hustle. You need to give it full effort. Imagine the possibility if they quit their job"
Philosophy on sales? Mentor Jack Daly -- "Ask questions and listen"
How he got his first 100 customers
"I have the best job in the world for me"
Brian's hiring process
Why he fired his entire team of 11 at one point -- They didn't have the right attitude
"Everyone must pass the beer and bbq test" -- "You have to want to have a beer and eat bbq with them"
- "I want friendly, ambitious, passionate, optimistic people."
- "Hire for attitude, train for skill"
- Brian is the "culture" interviewer
Cameron Herold -- Best man in his wedding, previous business partner. Brian shares why he had to fire him. "You cannot have 2 "fire, ready, aim" type of people."
The process of making mistakes on his path to hiring the right team
The need for Erik Church as the COO -- He is an executor. They are a great yin and yang
- Take a sheet of paper and write down what you enjoy doing and what you're good at. Also write what you don't like doing and you're bad it. Find the person to fill those gaps. Erik does that for Brian
- How to handle disagreements?
Birthing of giants - MIT -- Annual learning, monthly call
The importance of being a lifelong learner, be curious, ask questions
Book to read, The E-Myth by Michael Gerber