Overcoming Your Entitlement for Success

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04/18/19 • 36 min

After 8 years of receiving employment applications throughout all of Alex and Mimi’s businesses, by far the most common unattractive trait that fails most applicants is ENTITLEMENT.

“The fact of having a right to something. The amount to which a person has a right. The belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment.” - Dictionary

It seems like it’s becoming more and more common these days, it’s certainly known as being a millennial thing...and even more known as a generation Z thing. Maybe it’s the glitz and glamour portrayed so easily and available on social media, maybe we’ve been told too many times in the self-help community that we DESERVE it and maybe our parents fostered that ideal from an early age a little too much.

Well, we explore what entitlement means to us and why it turns us off when we see it in people.

“Instead of talking about how amazing you are - nobody cares about that, talk about what you’re going to bring to the table, how are you going to take the position to the next level and be specific” - Mimi Ikonn [14:05]

So why do some people deserve special treatment? We certainly see it a lot living in London. We are on the doorstep of royalty, people with born privilege and born into wealth. There is certainly a lot of aristocracy with quite important titles that can be highly demanding and ooze entitlement, it can be sad to see especially when they value themselves higher without putting in the real work to really deserve it.

Actions speak louder than words, if you want to known for something, first you have to do the work. - Mimi Ikonn [33:40]

Alex shares about working in a company, where at the time he felt he deserved an equity share. His over entitlement led to him losing that opportunity, had he just played the long game and continued giving instead of asking, he may have very well earned it eventually. But faith and trust was displaced through that entitlement issue.

We also get into:

How social media acts like a portal to someone else’s reality
Believing anything is possible comes with very strict guidelines
Realising the hard work instead discussing the vacation time
Being humbled by your beliefs rather than being demanding
How being mindful and hard working and having gratitude, are the cure
Avoiding bragging and learn from others

“Dreamers who don’t work hard and hard workers who don’t dream don’t get anything in life, but dreamers who have both, with faith can do anything they set their minds to” - Unknown

Show notes: https://www.ikonns.com/podcast/episode23

After 8 years of receiving employment applications throughout all of Alex and Mimi’s businesses, by far the most common unattractive trait that fails most applicants is ENTITLEMENT.

“The fact of having a right to something. The amount to which a person has a right. The belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment.” - Dictionary

Well, we explore what entitlement means to us and why it turns us off when we see it in people.

Actions speak louder than words, if you want to known for something, first you have to do the work. - Mimi Ikonn [33:40]

We also get into:

How social media acts like a portal to someone else’s reality
Believing anything is possible comes with very strict guidelines
Realising the hard work instead discussing the vacation time
Being humbled by your beliefs rather than being demanding
How being mindful and hard working and having gratitude, are the cure
Avoiding bragging and learn from others

“Dreamers who don’t work hard and hard workers who don’t dream don’t get anything in life, but dreamers who have both, with faith can do anything they set their minds to” - Unknown

Show notes: https://www.ikonns.com/podcast/episode23

Previous Episode

Healing Health Journey with Yalda Alaoui

In today’s episode we are talking with our friend Yalda Alaoui from EatBurnSleep.com. We chat about the incredible journey she’s been on and how she healed her body into remission after suffering from a near terminal immunity condition. She shares her challenges and paves a path for other to follow by optimising these 3 simple things:

Eating right
Sleeping right
Exercising right

“Yeah..we’ve heard it all before a 1000 times”, BUT Yalda’s story is living proof of how drastic life can become when you don’t take these 3 things into consideration.

“It’s only when we are at our worst that we look for problems to the solution, I’m teaching people that prevention is a much better approach” - Yalda - [38:45]

Born to both Morocan and Iranian Parents, Yalda moved to France when she was 12 and immediately started having dietary issues, the junk food that she was now regularly eating, was a stark difference from what she’d grown up with back in Morocco.

At 15 years of age she found an interest in economics, finding a subject and a lens through which she could understand and see the world with. This led her to studying at the London School of Economics and EDHEC Business School. And was soon followed by a very stressful job working on a trading floor in capital marketing. The unhealthy eating and a stressful job, along with a failed pregnancy then signaled to her immune system to finally shut down. In 2007 she developed two life threatening auto-immune diseases:

Ulcerative Colitis
Auto-Immune Haemolytic Anemia

The latter causing her hemoglobin measurement to fall to 4 (usually reserved only for patients in a coma). After being admitted to hospital, countless blood transfusions later, the doctors struggled to get to the bottom of the underlying cause. This pushed Yalda into extensively researching health for herself. A ten-year recovery lead her to sharing her knowledge, making a full career change and a full recovery. She eventually got to the route corse while searching for ways to ease her chronic inflammation, by cutting out all foods and starting again like a baby. She Added 1 food at a time, narrowing her eating options to only foods that didn’t cause her problems. This was only the start...

Here’s what we get into on this episode:

What is your microbiome and how to avoid destroying your gut health?
60% of you neurotransmitters are in your gut? So let your belly think for you!
What is leaky gut and what happens when your body tries to fight back?
The importance of walking everyday.
What happens when your body’s natural defense doesn’t know how to turn itself off?
How stress plays a role in your immune system?
The benefits of collagen powder and bone broth.
Why lifting light weights are more important than the big heavy ones.
Fermented foods, the most common in the healthiest longest living societies.
The Vegan Myth - Why not all meats are unhealthy, just the processed ones.
Why we should be choosing whole foods and dropping dairy / wheat / nightshades?

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Show Notes: https://www.ikonns.com/podcast/episode22

Next Episode

Ultimate Travel Guide - How We Plan and Book Travel

Have you wondered on how we plan and book our travel? Find amazing places to stay around the world? In this episode, we reveal our secrets on how we do this.

In this episode we share 10+ years of their travel lifestyle and give you insights from their very best curated experiences.

We all know that feeling of getting off a plane for the first time, arriving at our destination, being so hungry and tired, we literally blow a bunch of our trips budget in a tourist trap restaurant in the cities main square, just to fuel our desperation.

The No.1 tip any traveller should hold to, is prior planning. Alex researches the heck out of every detail before he even book the flights. Infact, the flights aren’t the first thing he looks for.

It’s essential to find the right place in the right location, that is at the heart of your interests.

Are you looking for a beach holiday, a city break or something in nature. All of these options come with their own unique requirements, and planning is the only way to maximise your experience whatever your interests are.

“Travel is the way to self discovery, each time you do it, you know more about what you like, what suits you and what your tastes are” - Alex Ikonn [11:00]

Alex and Mimi share all the tools and secrets they use to make every trip like a dream experience. And you can do it too.

You’ll hear this and much more:

How exploring your own city for new experiences that you didn’t know were there, can be just as fun, rewarding and cheaper than travel
Why you should set your expectations before you go? Be realistic.
Budget Vs Luxury, when is it time to drop the lower quality option?
From maps to flights, hotels and restaurants, Google should be your first choice tool for travel.
Get a clear idea of the location before you choose by pinning your findings to Maps and Pinterest
Visualise your surroundings in advance with street view.
Prepackaged vacations are fine if you want a lazy, no pressure vacation, but they don’t maximise your possibilities.
How staying with a host can be much more rewarding than getting your own place
It can be cheaper than an hotel if you split the cost and rent a villa
Find the worst reviews, don’t only read the good ones. Check if there is going to be issues you don’t want to deal with
Never trust Trip Advisor, find your own curated referrals. Blogs are your friend.
Use a business account to collect fly points
Price matching and cross check every option
Check airlines directly, some of the cheapest flights aren’t on comparison sites, same with hotels
The last minute myth.