Ep. 10: Feeling Like You Are Waiting For Your Life To Happen? Post-Grad Depression and "Now What?"

08/30/23 • 19 min

Are you waiting for your life to happen? I've been there too. I've been in a place where I felt in a "waiting stage" after graduating college. I felt like I didn't have direction for my life anymore and I was constantly asking myself, "Now What?" This created a cycle of stress and depression. Now, I've come out on the other side and I am here to help you do the same!

Feeling Directionless and in a "holding state" after a major life change, whatever that may be, is completely normal. We've been programed throughout most of our lives through school and work to be conditioned to work within a certain structure to achieve success. When we leave that structure, we can feel lost and identity-less.

Its important to know that you don't need to have it all figured out now, you don't need to know what your next steps are. You don't need to be achieving everything now - even though its unfortunately pushed onto us in our 20s.

Lets reframe this "lull' time in our lives by taking advantage of this time:

1. Celebrate your success and how far you've come!

2. Re-discover what you love!

3. Find your identity without the constraints of school, work, or other people.

4. Be selfish with your self love and self discovery.

5. Find Your Inspiration in life and in those who inspire you.

6. Take time to REST!

This weeks journal prompts:

1. What would you do if money wasn't a factor?

2. Who would you be if no one was watching?

3. What are three hobbies that you want to try?

4. BONUS!!! Try making a vision board !!!! :)

Thank you for listening! Follow this podcast @femmefatale.podcast on instagram, and my personal account @Lauren.kuiper

Lets reframe this "lull' time in our lives by taking advantage of this time:

1. Celebrate your success and how far you've come!

2. Re-discover what you love!

3. Find your identity without the constraints of school, work, or other people.

4. Be selfish with your self love and self discovery.

5. Find Your Inspiration in life and in those who inspire you.

6. Take time to REST!

This weeks journal prompts:

1. What would you do if money wasn't a factor?

2. Who would you be if no one was watching?

3. What are three hobbies that you want to try?

4. BONUS!!! Try making a vision board !!!! :)

Thank you for listening! Follow this podcast @femmefatale.podcast on instagram, and my personal account @Lauren.kuiper

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Ep. 9: How To Set Healthy Boundaries, Weaponized Psychology and Jonah Hill

Do you have trouble setting healthy boundaries in relationships? Me too, sis. This week we talk about boundaries, what they are, how they've been skewed in pop culture, how we can set our own healthy boundaries, and what to do if someone disrespects those boundaries. We discuss boundaries vs. controlling behavior as well as weaponized psychology, therapy-talk, and the drama with boundary man Jonah Hill and his ex-girlfriend Sarah Brady.

Healthy Boundaries look like:

Setting boundaries in relation to yourself and your actions and not in a way to control others behavior

Using "I" statements to share how you feel

Stating boundaries early on and in a calm, clear, and respectful way

Preparing before hand

Allowing for the potential of flexibility and compromise, without compromising your own values and needs

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Ep. 11: Delulu Is The Solulu: Why You Should Be Delusional - Limiting Beliefs and Embodying Your Dream Self

Is Delulu really the Solulu? Pyschology would say...yes! There are many theories in psychology that back the reasoning behind why it can be good to be delusional. Being delusional doesn't necessarily mean living in denial, and can actually be used as a tool to help us accomplish everything that we dream of and desire. Ideally, we want to embody a version of ourselves who can see the challenges but hold a knowing that we can find the solutions and not feel intimidated by circumstances. We will reponed out of a new belief system in a mature and stable way:

There are many psychological reasons that prove being delusional works:

1. Self fulfilling prophecy - We are likely to experience that which we believe to be true about ourselves, our circumstances, and others.

2. The reticular activating system - Our brains own, "filter", which allows us to focus on what it is that we assume to be true or present in our reality.

3. The Cognitive Triangle - Thoughts/beliefs affect Emotions/feelings which affect Actions/behaviors.

Next time you find yourself facing an undesireable circumsatnce or a situation that the current version of you dosent believe they are able to fix or participate in, ask yourself what beliefs you need to change to be able to deal with this circumstance or participate in this disired expereince. Ask yourself, what is the version of you who already has this? What is the version of you who knows the solution?

*THIS WEEKS JOURNAL PROMPT*

What limiting beliefs are holding you back from reaching your potential?

Love you all so, so much! Talk to you next week!