Alone But Not Lonely | Why Some of Your Healing Must Happen in Isolation

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03/26/25 • 22 min

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TRIGGER WARNING: This is the advice I avoided for YEARS because I knew it would force me to face every insecurity I had. But the truth? It was the ONLY thing that finally broke the cycle of toxic relationships and made me a magnet for healthy, loving relationships.

If you keep attracting the same emotionally unavailable partners—the ghosters, the breadcrumbers, the ones who leave you on standby until something “better” comes along—it’s not a coincidence. It’s a pattern. And it’s one I know all too well.

For years, I recycled the same five guys over and over, convinced that this time things would be different. They never were. The game changed when I finally stopped running—from relationships, from my fears, from myself.

The uncomfortable truth? The most transformative thing you can do is to intentionally be alone for a season. Not because you have to, but because your healing depends on it.

This episode of The Femme Cast is your wake-up call. We’re diving deep into:

Why we chase unavailable partners (and what it really says about us)
The generational wounds that keep us trapped in toxic cycles
How being alone becomes your greatest superpower, not your punishment
The exact steps to shift from chasing love to becoming a magnet for it

Listen now—because if you’re tired of the heartbreak, the disappointments, and the endless cycle of “maybe this time,” this episode might just change everything.

PS: Ready to stop chasing and start attracting?

If so, click the link below for instant access to my most powerful freebies + offers — including the Magnetize Love Meditation Series.

https://www.thefemmecast.com/links

Love, clarity, and major breakthroughs start here.

The uncomfortable truth? The most transformative thing you can do is to intentionally be alone for a season. Not because you have to, but because your healing depends on it.

This episode of The Femme Cast is your wake-up call. We’re diving deep into:

Why we chase unavailable partners (and what it really says about us)
The generational wounds that keep us trapped in toxic cycles
How being alone becomes your greatest superpower, not your punishment
The exact steps to shift from chasing love to becoming a magnet for it

Listen now—because if you’re tired of the heartbreak, the disappointments, and the endless cycle of “maybe this time,” this episode might just change everything.

PS: Ready to stop chasing and start attracting?

If so, click the link below for instant access to my most powerful freebies + offers — including the Magnetize Love Meditation Series.

https://www.thefemmecast.com/links

Love, clarity, and major breakthroughs start here.

Previous Episode

How to Handle Ghosting Without Losing Your Self-Worth (The Truth About Being Truly Unbothered vs. Just Pretending)

Ghosting can feel like a punch to the gut—leaving you questioning what went wrong and spiraling into self-doubt. But here’s the thing: your energy is too valuable to waste on someone who can't communicate with respect. In this episode of The Femme Cast, I challenge the common advice to "play it cool" when a ghoster comes crawling back. True empowerment isn't about acting unaffected—it's about recognizing your worth and not engaging with someone who’s emotionally immature.
We'll discuss:

Ghosting often triggers a spiral of self-doubt and questioning what you did wrong
How influencers suggest playing it cool when a ghoster returns, but this approach misses the mark
True high-value behavior means not investing energy in someone who has shown disrespect
Refusing to engage with someone who ghosted you isn't about what they think—it's about valuing your energy
The person who's right for you would communicate honestly even if it's uncomfortable
Moving through the discomfort of being ghosted eventually leads to genuine unbothered confidence
Focus on knowing what you deserve rather than trying to change how others treat you

I share how I’ve navigated being ghosted countless times, what I’ve learned, and why the right person for you would never disappear without explanation. Tune in for a no-BS approach to protecting your energy, reclaiming your worth, and setting boundaries that honor your self-love. Remember: If someone ghosts you, it says more about them than it does about you. Don't chase validation—your next relationship will honor you from the start.

PS: Ready to stop chasing and start attracting?

If so, click the link below for instant access to my most powerful freebies + offers — including the Magnetize Love Meditation Series.

https://www.thefemmecast.com/links

Love, clarity, and major breakthroughs start here.

Next Episode

You’re Not Broken—The Relationship Pattern That Is Meant to Heal You and Wake You Up

Have you ever found yourself obsessively drawn to someone you knew wasn’t right for you—and then judged yourself for it?

This episode of The Femme Cast is about to blow the lid off what attraction really means.

The truth is: attraction isn't random. It’s coded into your spiritual DNA as a divine mechanism for healing and evolution. Those magnetic pulls? They're not mistakes—they're soul compasses pointing you toward the lessons you most need to grow.

Let’s be real.

That emotionally unavailable ex?
That situationship you knew was a dead end but couldn’t quit?
That person who waved every red flag in the book and still had you hooked?

They were never random. They were assignments.

In this vulnerable and eye-opening conversation, I'll share my raw personal journey of being irresistibly attracted to all the wrong people—until the day it all changed. From feeling butterflies for toxic partners to now experiencing the “ick” response when faced with the same dynamics, I unpack what happens when you finally learn the lesson, integrate it, and shift your energetic signature.

No more attracting what wounds you.
No more settling out of fear of being alone.

Just wholeness, boundaries, and magnetism that only calls in what’s aligned with your highest good.

Get ready for an empowering reminder that healing changes your taste—and that’s a good thing.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

Why attraction is your soul’s GPS—and how to read it
The real reason you're drawn to red flags (and how to stop)
How healing shifts your desires from toxic patterns to healthy love
What it really means when someone suddenly gives you the “ick”
The importance of curiosity, not shame, in examining your attraction patterns
Why boundaries aren’t walls—they’re magnets for emotionally available partners
How to tell when you’re choosing from fear vs. choosing from wholeness
Why the willingness to be alone is the ultimate power move in love

Let’s normalize healing, conscious attraction, and waiting for the love that chooses you back—every single time.

Let's do this.

PS: Ready to stop chasing and start attracting?

If so, click the link below for instant access to my most powerful freebies + offers — including the Magnetize Love Meditation Series.

https://www.thefemmecast.com/links

Love, clarity, and major breakthroughs start here.

The Femme Cast - Alone But Not Lonely | Why Some of Your Healing Must Happen in Isolation

Transcript

MARIA @THEFEMMECAST00:00:31.580

Hey guys , what is up ? Welcome back to the show . I'm so excited and grateful to have you here . I'm crusty as fuck because I just smashed my middle finger in my the arm of my mic , yay . So it's probably gonna look ugly and purple and blue tomorrow , but it is what it is . And I actually checked in and I said , I asked myself , I said Self , do you still want to