
Get Older. Own It. See Stuff. A conversation with Caddis Founder Tim Parr
11/16/23 • 33 min
Remember that scene in Pretty Woman where Julia Roberts tries to buy a new dress and no one will take her money? That’s how it feels to be a 50+ consumer.
Then there’s Caddis. CEO and Founder Tim Parr says it’s a mission disguised as an eyewear company: “Get Older. Own It. See Stuff.” And we totally believe it. Who else would have the cajónes to quote Miss Piggy, describe one of their eyeglass styles as a “dab of Harvey Wallbanger” (when was the last time you ordered one of those?) and embrace cranky online reviews in their advertising?
Listen to how Parr and his team are breaking all the rules in a completely awesome way.
Here’s Caddis
And here’s the nonprofit it helps support: Caddis donates a portion of gross revenue to music education programs via Music Farming. Learn more here.
Transcript:
Debra Hotaling: Hello and welcome to the Dareful Project. I'm Debra Hotaling. So you know that scene in Pretty Woman where Julia Roberts has this handful of money and no one will take it so that she can buy a dress. That's how I feel as a consumer being over 50. Either I am completely invisible or they somehow think that the only thing I want to do is walk down a beach and wear a little soft knitted sweater. But then there's Caddis. Caddis says it's a mission disguised as an eyewear company, and that feels completely true to me. And joining us today is the CEO and Founder Tim Parr, who's going to talk to us about how they are breaking stuff and having way too much fun for a brand and how they got there. Tim, welcome.
Tim Parr: Thank you. Thanks for having me.
Debra: So if you don't mind, I would like to start by reading the language that's on the back of the box. Amazing. So this is what it says, folks. It says this is for people who are not in the long process of giving up. It has everything to do with age, but nothing to do with your job, your gender, or whether you live in Orange County or Hazard County. It has to do with being who you are and owning it. Tim, where did that come from?
Tim: That was just a late night. The bottom of this box is all white, and I hate that and I want to put something on the bottom of that.
Debra: Come on. It's more than that though.
Tim: I know. That actually came before we were even on a mission. So prior to that being written, we were just, and we're just an eyewear company looking for money and we hadn't even shipped anything yet because we had no investors. We didn't have anything. So yeah, someone was talking just the night before about how fifties and new forties, sixties and new fifties I, I don't get it. And if this is going to be a lifestyle brand, you have to be authentic in order to be a lifestyle brand. And I don't understand this whole position on age and reading glasses. There's no better product about it to have a conversation about age than reading glasses. But at the time that I wrote that, it was a subconscious thing. And then I had someone read that to me who didn't like it, a potential investor, and she said, you can't do that.
Debra: Wait, talk to me more about that because that feels exactly true how those conversations would go.
Tim: And I asked her, well, why can't I do that? And they said, no one wants to believe that they're the age that they actually are. And everyone wants to think that they're 15 years younger. And that was the end of the meeting. And I had to pack up my things and walk down three, five flights of stairs to the sidewalk. And when I hit the sidewalk, that's when it hit me. Oh my God, we're actually in the age business. We're not in the eyewear business. We're in the age business. And that's when everything shifted.
Debra: And what was the thinking beyond that? Because I know from other entrepreneur friends, when you go back and you tell the origin story, it sounds like, of course that was obvious, but at the time you're like, I am all by myself here and every force is telling me that this is a ridiculous idea.
Tim: Well, we didn't have our why prior to that moment, and every brand needs a why. If you don't have a why, then you're just making stuff. And if you're just making stuff, I don't care. It's not enough to get me out of bed. So it was at that moment that it was, oh my God, now we have a why and it's David and Goliath. It's all these things that we need in order to have to be propelled forward.
Debra: And then what happened after that?
Tim: I was running down the street and I called up, I had at the time probably four co-founders and I was calling 'em each up. And I told them, this is a pivot almost of sorts. This whole idea that people are afraid of their age i...
Remember that scene in Pretty Woman where Julia Roberts tries to buy a new dress and no one will take her money? That’s how it feels to be a 50+ consumer.
Then there’s Caddis. CEO and Founder Tim Parr says it’s a mission disguised as an eyewear company: “Get Older. Own It. See Stuff.” And we totally believe it. Who else would have the cajónes to quote Miss Piggy, describe one of their eyeglass styles as a “dab of Harvey Wallbanger” (when was the last time you ordered one of those?) and embrace cranky online reviews in their advertising?
Listen to how Parr and his team are breaking all the rules in a completely awesome way.
Here’s Caddis
And here’s the nonprofit it helps support: Caddis donates a portion of gross revenue to music education programs via Music Farming. Learn more here.
Transcript:
Debra Hotaling: Hello and welcome to the Dareful Project. I'm Debra Hotaling. So you know that scene in Pretty Woman where Julia Roberts has this handful of money and no one will take it so that she can buy a dress. That's how I feel as a consumer being over 50. Either I am completely invisible or they somehow think that the only thing I want to do is walk down a beach and wear a little soft knitted sweater. But then there's Caddis. Caddis says it's a mission disguised as an eyewear company, and that feels completely true to me. And joining us today is the CEO and Founder Tim Parr, who's going to talk to us about how they are breaking stuff and having way too much fun for a brand and how they got there. Tim, welcome.
Tim Parr: Thank you. Thanks for having me.
Debra: So if you don't mind, I would like to start by reading the language that's on the back of the box. Amazing. So this is what it says, folks. It says this is for people who are not in the long process of giving up. It has everything to do with age, but nothing to do with your job, your gender, or whether you live in Orange County or Hazard County. It has to do with being who you are and owning it. Tim, where did that come from?
Tim: That was just a late night. The bottom of this box is all white, and I hate that and I want to put something on the bottom of that.
Debra: Come on. It's more than that though.
Tim: I know. That actually came before we were even on a mission. So prior to that being written, we were just, and we're just an eyewear company looking for money and we hadn't even shipped anything yet because we had no investors. We didn't have anything. So yeah, someone was talking just the night before about how fifties and new forties, sixties and new fifties I, I don't get it. And if this is going to be a lifestyle brand, you have to be authentic in order to be a lifestyle brand. And I don't understand this whole position on age and reading glasses. There's no better product about it to have a conversation about age than reading glasses. But at the time that I wrote that, it was a subconscious thing. And then I had someone read that to me who didn't like it, a potential investor, and she said, you can't do that.
Debra: Wait, talk to me more about that because that feels exactly true how those conversations would go.
Tim: And I asked her, well, why can't I do that? And they said, no one wants to believe that they're the age that they actually are. And everyone wants to think that they're 15 years younger. And that was the end of the meeting. And I had to pack up my things and walk down three, five flights of stairs to the sidewalk. And when I hit the sidewalk, that's when it hit me. Oh my God, we're actually in the age business. We're not in the eyewear business. We're in the age business. And that's when everything shifted.
Debra: And what was the thinking beyond that? Because I know from other entrepreneur friends, when you go back and you tell the origin story, it sounds like, of course that was obvious, but at the time you're like, I am all by myself here and every force is telling me that this is a ridiculous idea.
Tim: Well, we didn't have our why prior to that moment, and every brand needs a why. If you don't have a why, then you're just making stuff. And if you're just making stuff, I don't care. It's not enough to get me out of bed. So it was at that moment that it was, oh my God, now we have a why and it's David and Goliath. It's all these things that we need in order to have to be propelled forward.
Debra: And then what happened after that?
Tim: I was running down the street and I called up, I had at the time probably four co-founders and I was calling 'em each up. And I told them, this is a pivot almost of sorts. This whole idea that people are afraid of their age i...
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Ageist Founder David Stewart thought he was moving temporarily to Park City, Utah from Los Angeles. Four years later, he’s still there. And he has done a lot of reflecting about what we gain and lose when we move somewhere new. Whether you’re thinking about downsizing, starting new in an Italian village or chucking it all and RV’ing around the country, David has thoughts.
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My current situation is one of accidental transience. We left Los Angeles in early COVID for a smallish mountain town in Utah. Out of architectural obsession, we bought a 1982 townhouse in a ski resort with the idea we would renovate it and then rent it seasonally. This meant it could not be our “home” in the normal sense, as we couldn’t have our personal stuff out if we were vacation renting it. This temporary solution has now been almost 4 years, much of which has been spent pondering exactly where we should live more permanently. Although I miss all the art and books and memories that are boxed in a storage unit, I miss them less and less every day. Not having them here means we have tremendous flexibility about where we can be: either here in the vacation rental or in New York, Los Angeles, or some other place. But it is also lonely, if that is the word for missing my things.
This is all a lot of heavy thinking around how we define ourselves, what gives us comfort, and where we find meaning. My friend Carlo has a rule: never live in the same place more than 3 years — it keeps the flow of new place-energy going. The downside is: it is very hard to plug in to a new community every 3 years then abandon it. Steven Meisel, the great Vogue photographer, once said he is not interested in having a retrospective of his considerable accomplishments, as it would force him to focus on the past and he is only interested in the future. My good friend Rob, about 5 years ago, sold his big house and moved to an apartment in Santa Monica. At this point, he still had a nice car, home furnishings, exercise gear, and the like. Since then, he has become basically nomadic, staying in various apartments around the world for a few months here and there. The car and the stuff are all gone. As he told me yesterday, he has never felt better or freer in his life. Rob is a very future facing guy. On the other end of the spectrum are a couple I know who bought a giant old house on a big property and have stocked it with all their lifetimes' accumulation of stuff. It feels homey, but the maintenance of it is a way of life.
I have chosen a life filled with variety: I love big cities and my big city friends while, at the same time, I love the mountains and my outdoorsy friends. What I really don’t like is being bored. I once had a proper house, filled with my stuff. Each weekend was about Home Depot, the Garden Center, and other chores. Now I have an HOA, some of whom are at this very moment painting the outside of our unit, which allows me the mental space to be able to write this. When I was younger, I identified more with what I did and the stuff I had. Certain stuff still warms my heart, like some of the baby artifacts that my mom managed to hold onto from my very early toddler days. There is something warming about feeling the continuum of history. As we get a bit older, some people become the Marie Kondo editors of their lives, others become collectors. I feel somewhere in the middle: missing some things, but not wanting to become an indentured caretaker of them. Maybe home is where our things are?
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What's our superpower? Our own lives. An encore conversation with Kris Evans
“Don’t ever not be curious.” That’s Kris Evans’ advice for tapping into our creative superpowers. Evans is an awarding winning makeup artist with experience in feature films, television, commercials, music videos, fashion editorial and advertising. She started her career in New York City working with Barbara Walters, Saturday Night Live, feature films and episodic television. Her film career spans more than 35 features and includes working with Bob Costas for every Olympics from 2002-2016.
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Hey Dareful tribe—you’re listening to one of your favorite episodes as an encore with artist Kris Evans. It originally posted in 2021 so a few updates: I talked with Kris this week and she says she’s back to work now that the actor’s strike is over. Look for her work in the TV show Big Sky for Disney and Francis Ford Coppola’s new film Megalopolis. She also just finished a book, Naked Shadows...hopefully more on that in a future episode. And now, Kris Evans:
Debra Hotaling (00:04):
Hello and welcome to the Dareful Project. I'm Debra Hotaling and I'm joined today by Kris Evans. Kris has built a thriving career in Hollywood for more than 40 years in every aspect of the arts that you can imagine. Kris, you've done makeup design for film, for tv, for Broadway. You've done it all.
Kris Evans (00:25):
Yeah, I guess so. Yeah. Gosh, I lived in Paris. I did fashion. It's opera. I mean, I think I love it all. So anything that gave me the opportunity to do whatever, that would be challenging and interesting I took. So I never really said no to anything. I said yes to everything. And then once I said yes, I thought, oh my God. And then I figured it out.
Debra (00:52):
And it sounds like we were talking about the creative process and how really your superpower now is the history that you have not only in the industry, but in the arts in general, and just being a really curious woman for your whole life. And while everyone else is looking at TikTok and trying to come up with something new, you are looking at vogue from the 1960s or things that we all know. Tell me more about your creative process.
Kris (01:22):
Well, I just find that because the internet is so easy to get to by everyone, that everyone goes to the internet. So when you're thinking creatively, everyone goes to Instagram or everyone goes to TikTok or everyone goes to Facebook. I mean, let's not say everyone, but a lot of people do. And I noticed that when I am on a project or something, it's the first thing that people go to is the internet. And so for me, in order to seem fresh and not like I'm copying or not grabbing something from someone else per se, recently, I like to go back in time or in different areas where I don't think people will go. So that what I see will maybe inspire me to think of something I wouldn't have thought of had I been influenced by other people, if that makes sense.
Debra (02:16):
It totally makes sense. And I was thinking about this this morning, getting ready to chat with you that I still have in one of my little girlhood boxes where you keep all your rocks and special shells. I have pages that I tore out of Vogue and Women's Day and Better Homes and Gardens from the 1960s that someone would leave in a spare bedroom. They were so glamorous. They were so lovely. And I still go back and enjoy looking at those images.
Kris (02:47):
Well, it's so funny you say sixties and seventies because now for me, the eighties is period, and then is period for me. So when they say, oh, the eighties, I say, aha. And then I bring in a picture of me in the eighties, blonde, bleached blonde, living in Paris, and they go, wow, who's that? Yeah, that would be me.
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