Identify your people pleasing tendencies

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Let me get real honest & raw with you. This podcast was hard to prepare for and it’s even harder to share. It's all about people pleasing. Why you say? I'm a people pleaser.

Are you saying, Yes. Or are you saying No, I'm not a people pleaser.

• We all have people pleasing tendencies
• People pleasing isn’t all bad
• But, people pleasing can lead to stress and burnout especially if you are a caregiver.

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Let’s now dig into People Pleasing.

As a caregiver, your Loved One is your top priority. You open your heart, soul & energy to go beyond simple kindness to give to them everything they need & want.

Pleasing might not sound all that bad. After all, what’s wrong with loving & being nice to your Loved One & making them happy? You do whatever it takes meaning you make sacrifices with little to no complaints.

You go out of your way to do things for them based on what you assume they want & need. You give up your time & energy.

The urge to please them can be rewarding to you, but also damaging to you. The wants of your Love One are more important than your own needs as well as other relationships.

Many people-pleasers confuse pleasing people with kindness. When discussing their reluctance to turn down someone’s request for a favor, they say things like, “I don’t want to be selfish,” or “I just want to be a good person.” Consequently, they allow others to take advantage of them.

Here are some tell tale signs of pleasing:

• You have a low opinion of yourself
• You need others to like you
• Please pleasers find it hard to say no
• You apologize or accept fault when you aren’t to blame
• You’re quick to agree, even when you don’t really agree
• You struggle with authenticity
• You’re a giver
• You don’t have any free time
• Argument and conflicts upset you

What are the affects of pleasing?

Pleasing isn’t inherently negative. Part of having relationships with others involves taking their wants, needs, & feelings into account. These tendencies can often come from a place of concern or affection.

Trying to earn the regard of others usually means you neglect your own needs and feelings. In a way, you’re putting on an act. You’re doing what you think people want so they like you. You might only pretend to enjoy helping, since this is part of keeping your Loved One happy.

This isn’t exactly honest, & eventually people-ple

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