The Break-Up Diet

What happens when a monogamous relationship evolves into something more complex? Carla Borges, rising top model and dear friend, joins us to unpack her journey through the emotional landscape of open relationships and breakups. Carla's candid recount of her six-year relationship, marked by the transition from monogamy to openness, gives us a raw glimpse into her world. She opens up about how she navigated her partner's insecurities and her own path of self-discovery, including the embrace of her bisexuality. This episode offers a unique perspective on balancing personal growth with the emotional intricacies of love and loss.
Together, we tackle the nuanced dynamics of relationships, reflecting on the delicate dance between jealousy and territoriality, and how societal expectations shape our personal narratives. Our own experiences from high school relationships shed light on the challenges of polyamory and monogamy, especially during life-altering moments like university and lockdown. It's a thought-provoking conversation about the importance of setting boundaries and the fine line between connection and codependency. We share stories that illustrate how relationships can both test and nurture our personal evolution, underscoring the value of respecting ourselves and each other.
The journey doesn't end with a breakup; rather, it marks the beginning of profound self-reflection and healing. Carla and I share our experiences in processing breakups that lack definitive closure and how embracing vulnerability can lead to newfound strength. We discuss the liberation found in self-awareness and independence, and the courage required to wish for mutual growth following a breakup. This journey of personal transformation is filled with honest reflections, as we highlight the empowerment that comes from fully understanding and embracing our emotions, setting the stage for new beginnings and aspirations.

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Breaking up starts long before those final words are spoken. In this raw and revealing episode, we explore the undeniable signs that signal when a relationship has run its course - from communication breakdowns to fading admiration.
We've all been there: making excuses for partners who miss birthdays, experiencing those uncomfortable silences, or feeling the subtle shift when you'd rather spend time with friends than your significant other. These aren't just bumps in the road; they're your intuition screaming that something fundamental has changed.
What makes this conversation so powerful is our shared vulnerability. We open up about our own experiences with relationship endings - from the times we went "super psycho" near the end (because they'd stopped putting in effort that once came naturally), to moments of clarity when we realized we no longer admired the person we were with.
The most profound insight? The distinction between seeing someone for their potential versus accepting their reality. Many of us stay trapped in the fantasy of who our partner could become rather than acknowledging who they truly are right now. As we discuss, men often choose based on present reality while women frequently invest in potential - a perspective that might revolutionize your approach to relationships.
Whether you're questioning your current relationship or healing from a past breakup, this episode offers the clarity and validation you've been seeking. Trust your gut, see the patterns for what they are, and remember - actions speak louder than words. Ask yourself: are you choosing reality or fantasy?
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What happens behind closed doors when a man experiences heartbreak? Jacob Price, reality TV personality from the dating show "Honesty Box," pulls back the curtain on the male experience of breakups with refreshing candor and unexpected wisdom.
From the initial "reckless phase" of excessive partying to the delayed emotional processing that follows, Jacob walks us through the distinctive stages of male heartbreak recovery. "We go and fuck ourselves over, then we regret it, and then it's too late," he admits with striking honesty. This emotional divergence from how women typically process breakups illuminates why miscommunication so often plagues post-relationship dynamics.
Jacob doesn't shy away from his past mistakes, openly discussing his experiences with infidelity and the revelations that followed. "If your head's looking elsewhere and you're able to cheat, it must mean there is something wrong in the relationship," he reflects. His journey from being what he jokingly calls "a red flag" to embodying the green flags of healthy partnership demonstrates the profound growth that can emerge from relationship failures.
The conversation takes a fascinating turn when Jacob reveals his methodical approach to self-improvement after breakups. From journaling about his perceived flaws to transforming unhealthy fitness obsessions into balanced routines, his systematic work on himself challenges stereotypical notions of how men handle emotional pain. The ultimate revelation? "You gotta love yourself before you can actually fully love them."
Whether you're recovering from heartbreak, trying to understand the man in your life who is, or simply curious about the less-discussed male perspective on relationships, this episode offers valuable insights into transforming pain into personal evolution. As Jacob proves, sometimes the end of a relationship marks the beginning of the most important relationship of all—the one with yourself.

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Breakups change everything—your routines, your emotions, and even who you become afterward. But navigating this challenging transition doesn't have to be guesswork.
With raw honesty and plenty of hard-earned wisdom, we dive into the essential do's and don'ts that can make or break your healing journey. From the temptation of "just one more" meetup (never worth it) to the liberation found in solo adventures (highly recommended), we're sharing what actually works and what leaves you stuck in emotional quicksand.
Digital ties often keep us chained to the past. We explain why complete severance—blocking, deleting photos, and resisting the urge to stalk—creates the space needed for healing. The moment you forget to check their profile marks true progress in moving forward. Similarly, avoiding memory-laden locations prevents those overwhelming emotional floods that can set your progress back weeks.
Beware the post-breakup impulses! Whether it's dramatic haircuts, rebounds, or airing your grievances on social media, these short-term reliefs often create long-term complications. Instead, we advocate for healthier alternatives: feel your emotions fully, create evolving playlists that match your healing journey, and celebrate milestone moments like one month of no contact.
Perhaps most powerfully, we discuss the incredible growth waiting on the other side of heartbreak. Each relationship teaches valuable lessons about what you want, what you won't tolerate, and who you're becoming. The version of yourself emerging from this experience is smarter, stronger, and better prepared for whatever comes next.
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Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the pressure to have the perfect life? The perfect job, relationship, apartment, savings account—and to somehow make it all look effortless?
"Breaking Free from Perfectionism" tackles the impossible standards we set for ourselves and how these expectations intensify after significant life events like breakups. We explore how society gives you grace in your early twenties, but the moment you hit 25, suddenly there's pressure to have everything figured out—from career trajectories to marriage prospects.
The conversation dives into social media's role in perpetuating perfectionism. Those picture-perfect relationships you see online? Usually just carefully curated facades hiding messy realities. We share some shocking examples of seemingly ideal couples whose public personas masked serious private struggles. What appears polished and flawless often conceals years of hard work, failures, and persistence that nobody posts about.
Financial perfectionism gets special attention as we question how people manage impressive investment portfolios and savings accounts while basic necessities become increasingly expensive. Where is this money supposed to come from, and why aren't more people talking about the struggle?
The episode's most powerful insight comes in shifting focus from perfectionism to consistency. Success rarely happens overnight—it's built through consistent effort over years. We discuss reframing your journey as the "waiting zone" or "summer after exams"—that period where you've done the work and are simply waiting for results to materialize while enjoying the process.
Ready to break up with perfectionism and embrace your unique timeline? This episode offers practical wisdom for anyone feeling behind, inadequate, or stuck in comparison. Because nobody—not even that seemingly perfect person—has it all figured out.

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