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The Big D

The Big D

Miranda

If you've ever been in love, and ever broken up, this podcast is for you. Younger generations aren’t approaching marriage in a traditional way, so why should we approach divorce in a traditional way? This podcast is a combination of honest stories about real relationships ---- and interviews with experts, some you might guess like a therapist, lawyer, financial advisor, and some surprises like a chef and meditation guide. It is practical, political, personal. It’s a serious topic, with a not-so-serious host.
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Goodpods has curated a list of the 10 best The Big D episodes, ranked by the number of listens and likes each episode have garnered from our listeners. If you are listening to The Big D for the first time, there's no better place to start than with one of these standout episodes. If you are a fan of the show, vote for your favorite The Big D episode by adding your comments to the episode page.

In this episode I talk to Chris Lafazanos, a celebrant or officiant, and ceremony guide, about her own love and divorce story, how she created a divorce ceremony for herself. We do a deep dive into all the ways the hetero, white supremacist, capitalist, colonial patriarchy builds up marriage, to warp our perspective, experiences, and ultimately set us up for failure. Even how these systems define and put a value judgement on what 'failure' means. Most importantly we talk about all the beautiful things we can create together to make up for lost, broken, or missing ceremony. Alone, with our current or past partners, and our community. Throw in a few references to astrology, cultural appropriation, and being so, so happy to be queer.

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As a ceremony guide, Chris Lafazanos (she/her) supports people in creating meaningful, story-filled ceremonies that are either non-religious or spiritual to mark life’s important milestones like weddings, memorials, child welcoming ceremonies and divorce ceremonies. She’s passionate about how ceremony builds individual and community resilience as it creates opportunities for connection—to both celebrate together and grieve together. As a queer person, Chris is focused on serving fellow 2SLGBTQ in ceremony. For more information, check out woven-threads.ca

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The Big D - 3, 2, 1: Danny's polyamorous breakup story
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09/22/22 • 43 min

In this episode, Danny shares her polyamorous breakup story.

What is polyamory? According to the Oxford dictionary, it's the practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved. When we recorded this episode, Danny was in the midst of planning her wedding to her nesting partner, which is already a sensitive, emotional, process to go through - which made me even more grateful that she took the time record with me. You'll hear all about how she processed the breakup, how she grew from self-judgement to trust, how her partner supported her, and the essential role of community in supporting our bonded relationships.

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Danny is an academic and social scientist studying kinship, and living on the West Coast of the country known as Canada.

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We're back baby! In this season two opener, I interview some of my favourite people, Carlos Andrés Gómez and Jeff Perera. We talk about helpful and unhelpful ideas of manhood and how they influence relationships. And of course, breakups. These unhelpful ideas of masculinity are not intrinsic to men or masculine people. So we talk a lot about character and qualities, what underpins gut reactions, and how we can do things differently. Together, Carlos and Jeff are the perfect messengers and I'm thrilled and entirely honoured to be kicking off the season with them. This episode is loaded with sweet metaphors, laughs, and mic drops: this conversation was like a healing balm. Join The Big D community by supporting on Patreon or following along on Instagram! - Carlos Andrés Gómez is a Colombian American poet, speaker, and equity & inclusion strategist from New York City. Gómez's poetry collection Fractures (University of Wisconsin Press, 2020) was selected by Natasha Trethewey as the winner of the 2020 Felix Pollak Prize in Poetry. Winner of the Foreword INDIES Gold Medal and the International Book Award for Poetry, Gómez has been published in New England Review, Beloit Poetry Journal, The Yale Review, and elsewhere. For more, please visit: CarlosLive.com Jeff Perera is a renowned speaker and facilitator having spoken across North America about our construction of gender, helpful versus harmful ideas of manhood, and inspiring men towards empathy-building, facing hard truths, and helping end gender-based violence. Jeff encourages men and young men to 'Be The Lesson in Action' and strive to become models of possibility for other men. Jeff started HigherUnlearning.com as an online space to explore how our ideas of masculinity impact all of us. You can hear, read, or watch media appearances, interviews, and news articles there.
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This is the second in a three part series on co-parenting, and Liza shares her divorce story. We talk about how her kid has started vetting her dates, the ways her and her ex navigate co-parenting, and mental health challenges. We also talk about about the cis-men of her generation - Gen X - only now getting access to mental health supports, going to therapy, understanding themselves, and how that journey-to-self leaves very little room for a new partnership. But mostly it’s a story about her relationship with herself, and how it has evolved from a hardened loss of empathy to a sweet softening.
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Kay's divorce story.

This week's guest is Kay, my friend. She's an arts worker and published author. We talk about divorcing because you’re unhappy - which some people think isn’t a good enough reason - how dating again is like a pop quiz to see if you’ve really learned your lesson, and exploring sexuality.

In this episode's -Separated Sibling Segment- my brother Graham and I tackle the question: Do you still think about your ex? Let us know what gets you nostalgic or back in your feels over at @BigDPod

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In this episode I chat with Samantha Bitty about her own divorce story, how a relationship with an ex can evolve, how divorce impacts us in relationship to and with our communities, astrology, intimacy after rejection, healing... and her glam divorce photoshoot.

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samantha bitty (she/her) is an award-winning, interdisciplinary sexual health and consent educator, speaker, certified Emotional Intelligence coach and social change Entrepreneur. With humour, empathy and liberation as central to her work, Samantha uses games, drag, and media to push the boundaries of propriety and facilitate entry points into challenging conversations.

An education and media polymath, samantha has worked independently and in collaboration, at all phases of development, production and execution of small and large scale projects. Prioritizing art, aesthetics and accessibility, her practise is rooted in pleasure, anti-racism, disability justice, and is affirming to folks across the gender/sexuality spectrum and survivors of gender-based violence.

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This episode is full of bravery and mega flavours.

I interview Chef Joshna Maharaj, and we talk about comfort food, food as a trigger, healing through food, and finding our way back to ourselves through food. I also go on a bit of a pre-ramble about my own journey with food post-divorce.

ANNOUNCEMENT - My season finale recorded with a live studio audience (you?!) will be Thursday, January 19th, 2023 in downtown Toronto, and my guest will be Samantha Bitty. Tickets will go on sale tomorrow! Stay tuned to my Instagram @BigDPod.

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Joshna Maharaj is a chef, a two-time TEDx speaker, & activist who wants to help everyone have a better relationship with their food. She believes strongly in the power of chefs & social gastronomy to bring values of hospitality, sustainability, & social justice to the table.

Joshna works with hospitals & schools in Canada to build new models for institutional food service. Her first book entitled Take Back the Tray (May 2020), captures the lessons and experience from her work in changing institutional food systems around the globe. She is an enthusiastic instructor of both culinary and academic students, constantly finding ways to make food stories come alive.

Joshna hosts Kitchen Helpdesk, a weekly call-in food show on CBC Radio, and she co-hosts a food & drink podcast called HotPlate, currently in its 4th season.

@joshnamaharaj

@takebackthetray

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This episode features Kat Foldvari, and we’re talking about mental health. Kat also shares some of her own divorce story.

She talks about her own high expectations of herself to navigate her mental health through divorce, stigma, stress responses, triggers and ways we can pull ourselves through.

Recognizing that there is a huge gap in mental health services and support, especially for people going through separation and divorce, Kat’s dedicated to providing mental health education, helping people navigate the system and advocating for the development of additional resources.

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Kat Foldvari is a mental health social worker with a masters in public health systems research. Most recently she’s worked on projects building comprehensive mental health strategies and designing wellness programming for healthcare workers in response to the COVID-19 pandemic. She’s a fierce advocate for empathy and understanding, and passionate about the strength-based approach to coaching and guiding others.

She’s a certified daydreamer and avid trail runner; mother of three bio-kids and two bonus kiddos.

Resources:

Thinking Traps

Hypo- and Hyper-Arousal

Rejection and the Brain

Divorce and Suicide

How to Put Kids First

Tips from Canadian Mental Health Association

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I’m so excited to share this chat with you, it’s a fun one.

In this episode I’m interviewing Lynzie Kent from Pop Up Chapel and Mad Bash Group, getting the tea on wedding planning when it’s your second time around. I share the conversation with my wedding photographer - Eyekah Foto - that inspired this episode. Lynzie and I talk about traditional and modern weddings, what it's like when couples break up, suffocating expectations, and what couples doing it for a first or second time can learn from each other.

Find Lynzie here:

@lynzie.kent

@popupchapel.ca

@madbashgrp

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*Siri, play Believe by Cher* Do you believe in life after love?

In this episode I reflect on my experience as a single gal, and have the opportunity to interview Nadine on her experiences of dating post-divorce. We talk about cold showers, making out in the summer, sexting, the expectations we set for ourselves and others - and the stories that define how we approach dating.

Read Nadine's article In Chatelaine here: It's Never Too Late to Learn How To Sext

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Story coach Nadine Araksi writes for some of Canada’s best-known media brands and also appears on podcasts and television. She rose in the ranks as a leader on the business side of media before deciding that she wanted to do more coaching and writing, which married her love of exploring stories, helping women and building community. As a story coach, Nadine helps women seeking more joy and ease learn to manage their minds as they navigate living through these uncertain times. Nadine is obsessed with examining the stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck and oppress us. As a first-generation Armenian-Canadian descendant of genocide survivors, Nadine’s passion is to rewrite societal, cultural, and familial stories to liberate and empower women and marginalized groups. Nadine lives in Toronto with her two teenagers and one very pretty cat. Find her on the internet: Website: www.kickstartology.com Instagram: @nadinearaksi @kickstartologycoaching Twitter: @scarbiedoll

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FAQ

How many episodes does The Big D have?

The Big D currently has 27 episodes available.

What topics does The Big D cover?

The podcast is about Society & Culture, Podcasts and Relationships.

What is the most popular episode on The Big D?

The episode title 'Food is the ultimate love language: with Chef Joshna Maharaj' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on The Big D?

The average episode length on The Big D is 51 minutes.

How often are episodes of The Big D released?

Episodes of The Big D are typically released every 7 days, 23 hours.

When was the first episode of The Big D?

The first episode of The Big D was released on Sep 28, 2021.

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