Weekly Mini Episode: The 5 Biggest Breakup Mistakes Men Make

02/23/25 • 12 min

The Authentic Man Podcast with David Chambers

In this week's mini-episode, I dive into the struggles men face after a breakup and why so many get stuck in emotional loops. From chasing closure to numbing pain with distractions, I break down the biggest mistakes that keep men from truly healing. More importantly, I share practical steps to process emotions, regain self-awareness, and build a stronger foundation for future relationships.

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Previous Episode

EP211: This Is Why You Feel Lost as a Man! Repressed Anger, Emotional Shutdown & the Masculinity Crisis! These all hurt your relationships

David Chambers and Kieran Pollitt explore the complexities of emotional intelligence, particularly in men, and the pervasive issue of people pleasing. Kieran shares his personal journey from a childhood marked by emotional dysregulation to becoming a coach focused on helping others navigate their emotions. They discuss the impact of societal conditioning on men and women, the importance of self-acceptance, and the challenges of expressing emotions in relationships.

Kieran Pollitt is a Trauma and Emotional Alchemist who helps recovering people-pleasers heal childhood wounds and reparent their inner child. Combining mind and body practices, Kieran guides clients to dissolve shame, release emotional blockages, and cultivate self-regulation, enabling clients to build healthier relationships, set clear boundaries, and embrace their authentic voice with confidence and inner peace without worrying about rejection and what people think.

📌 Chapters: 00:01 - Introduction: Navigating the Masculinity Crisis 02:30 - Guest Introduction: Kieran's Journey into Men's Work 08:00 - Repressed Anger and Emotional Shutdown in Men 14:30 - The Impact of Suppressing Anger on Boundaries and Relationships 21:00 - Understanding the Physical and Emotional Signs of Disconnection 28:00 - The Role of People-Pleasing and Validation Seeking in Men's Struggles 35:00 - How Cultural Conditioning Shapes Men’s Emotional Expression 42:30 - Navigating the Modern Expectations of Masculinity 50:00 - Building Emotional Capacity: Why It’s Crucial for Men's Growth 57:30 - The Importance of Somatic Work in Releasing Repressed Emotions 65:00 - 🛠️ Tool: Inner Child Work for Healing Past Wounds 70:00 - 🧘 Practice: Expanding Emotional Capacity Through Presence 75:00 - Breaking Free from Shame and Embracing Authenticity 79:00 - Closing Reflections: Moving from Numbness to Deep Connection

Key topics include:

⭐️ From A People Pleaser To A Stable Mental Health

⭐️ Childhood Experiences and Emotional Suppression

⭐️ Why Ignoring Anger Is So Popular and So Dangerous For Men

⭐️ Unprocessed Loss and Grief: A Shortcut to Self-Sabotage Practices

⭐️ How People-Pleasing Could Lead To Lack of Boundaries

⭐️ The Need Of External Validation Vs Self-Worth

⭐️ The Role of the Inner Child in Your Healing ⭐️ Masculinity: Emotional Expression (Un)Limited ⭐️ Somatic Healing and The Power of Mindfulness ⭐️ Authenticity, Purpose and Personal Contribution to the World

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Next Episode

undefined - EP212: What Is Really Ruining Your Relationships! Wounded Ego, How Trauma, Avoidance & Anxiety Wreck Relationships Featuring Quentin Decamp

EP212: What Is Really Ruining Your Relationships! Wounded Ego, How Trauma, Avoidance & Anxiety Wreck Relationships Featuring Quentin Decamp

Struggling in relationships and wondering why you keep attracting the wrong partners? In this episode, attachment expert Quentin reveals the hidden patterns driving your love life, why good men often get left behind, and how to finally break free from self-sabotaging cycles to build deep, lasting connections.

Quentin is a relationship coach, mentor, somatic practitioner and breathwork facilitator. He is a dedicated writer & content creator who uses the power of language, breath and energy to create a safe, transformational space, helping people to dissolve their wounded ego limitations, release suppressed emotions and restraining narratives. Quentin guides individuals and couples to remove what’s in the way of them feeling attuned to their true selves, so they can build a lasting, connected and conscious romantic relationship with themselves and their partner.

Key topics include:

⭐️ How Childhood Shapes Your Relationships

⭐️ Why You Attract the Wrong Partners

⭐️ The Truth About Love & Validation

⭐️ Rejection as a Mirror of Self-Worth

⭐️ The Misconceptions About Easy Relationships and why real growth happens through challenges.

⭐️ Men, Vulnerability, and Perceived Weakness

⭐️ Breaking Free from Toxic Relationship Cycles ⭐️ Why People Fear Being Wrong in Relationships ⭐️ How to Build a Healthy, Evolving Relationship ⭐️ How Your Attachment Style Shapes Your Love Life

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Relationships and Healing Journeys

01:32 Quentin's Journey: From Pain to Purpose

06:45 Understanding Attachment Styles and Their Impact

10:07 The Programming of Relationships and Love

15:38 The Cycle of Healing and Repeating Patterns

20:52 Masculine and Feminine Vulnerability in Relationships

24:40 The Dynamics of Pressure and Emotional Release

30:05 Rejection: A Reflection of Self-Worth

37:01 Conflict: Symptoms and Solutions

44:10 Understanding Relationship Projections

48:40 The Dynamics of Conflict in Relationships