EP 1:44: Sober Fetish and Kink: Healing the Sexual Template with Ralf
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12/26/24 • 76 min
Supplemental Study Guide: https://www.drdallasbragg.com/newsletters/blog/posts/leather-rubber-skin-head-what-s-your-flavor
In this episode of the Aftermeth Podcast, Dr. Dallas Bragg engages in a candid conversation with Ralf, a recovering chemsex addict, podcast host, and sober HERO, about the intersection of sobriety, kink, and mental health. They explore the challenges of enjoying sex and kink in recovery, the importance of community, and the therapeutic aspects of reclaiming power through kink. The discussion also touches on navigating triggers, the role of creativity in recovery, and the significance of boundaries in kink dynamics.
Find Ralf here:
X (Twitter): RealClearFetish
Instagram: @realclearfetish
Bluesky: @realclearfetish.bsky.social
Email: [email protected]
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@realclearfetish
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0t1b6ylbLxThpAQmXgEffH?si=trxdBJwwSkGnaUvjYQUwzQ
Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/realclearfetish-talks-realclearplay/id1608329714
Takeaways
- You can enjoy sex even more after recovery.
- The sober fetish scene offers connection and acceptance.
- Empowerment comes from rewriting the rules of recovery.
- Kink can be a path to healing and self-discovery.
- Navigating triggers is a crucial part of recovery.
- Creativity plays a vital role in the recovery journey.
- Community support is essential for healing.
- Exploring fetishes can be a trial and error process.
- Reclaiming power through kink can be therapeutic.
- Consent and boundaries are fundamental in kink. Consent is crucial in kink dynamics, even in non-consent scenes.
- Sober sex can be rewarding but may feel awkward initially.
- Intimacy in kink involves trust and vulnerability.
- Establishing boundaries is essential for safe play.
- Mindful exploration of kinks can enhance self-awareness.
- Communication is key to navigating recovery and kink.
- Finding trustworthy partners is vital for a positive experience.
- Kink can provide a sense of community and connection.
- It's important to allow oneself to be awkward in new experiences.
- Sex should be fun and playful, not serious or anxiety-inducing.
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Dr. Dallas Bragg
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Supplemental Study Guide: https://www.drdallasbragg.com/newsletters/blog/posts/leather-rubber-skin-head-what-s-your-flavor
In this episode of the Aftermeth Podcast, Dr. Dallas Bragg engages in a candid conversation with Ralf, a recovering chemsex addict, podcast host, and sober HERO, about the intersection of sobriety, kink, and mental health. They explore the challenges of enjoying sex and kink in recovery, the importance of community, and the therapeutic aspects of reclaiming power through kink. The discussion also touches on navigating triggers, the role of creativity in recovery, and the significance of boundaries in kink dynamics.
Find Ralf here:
X (Twitter): RealClearFetish
Instagram: @realclearfetish
Bluesky: @realclearfetish.bsky.social
Email: [email protected]
YouTube: https://youtube.com/@realclearfetish
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0t1b6ylbLxThpAQmXgEffH?si=trxdBJwwSkGnaUvjYQUwzQ
Apple Podcasts:
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/realclearfetish-talks-realclearplay/id1608329714
Takeaways
- You can enjoy sex even more after recovery.
- The sober fetish scene offers connection and acceptance.
- Empowerment comes from rewriting the rules of recovery.
- Kink can be a path to healing and self-discovery.
- Navigating triggers is a crucial part of recovery.
- Creativity plays a vital role in the recovery journey.
- Community support is essential for healing.
- Exploring fetishes can be a trial and error process.
- Reclaiming power through kink can be therapeutic.
- Consent and boundaries are fundamental in kink. Consent is crucial in kink dynamics, even in non-consent scenes.
- Sober sex can be rewarding but may feel awkward initially.
- Intimacy in kink involves trust and vulnerability.
- Establishing boundaries is essential for safe play.
- Mindful exploration of kinks can enhance self-awareness.
- Communication is key to navigating recovery and kink.
- Finding trustworthy partners is vital for a positive experience.
- Kink can provide a sense of community and connection.
- It's important to allow oneself to be awkward in new experiences.
- Sex should be fun and playful, not serious or anxiety-inducing.
The AfterMeth:
Join our Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theaftermeth/
Dr. Dallas Bragg
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drdallasbragg
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdallasbragg/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drdallasbragg
YouTube: The Aftermeth Podcast
X: https://twitter.com/Drdallasbragg
Free online course to End the Relapse Cycle: https://www.drdallasbragg.com/offers/e7c2Eo22/checkout
Previous Episode
EP 1:43: Straight Girls Like Meth Too with Nicole
Supplemental Study Guide: https://www.drdallasbragg.com/newsletters/blog/posts/she-almost-lost-her-son-to-meth-addiction
In this episode, Dallas sits down with his close friend, colleague and straight cis woman Nicole! Nicole shares her personal journey through addiction, pregnancy, and the fight for her family, emphasizing the importance of commitment, support, and the role of medication-assisted treatment (MAT). They explore the complexities of recovery, advocating for a more inclusive understanding that recognizes diverse paths to sobriety. The conversation highlights the significance of community and resilience in overcoming addiction, ultimately inspiring hope for those struggling with similar issues.
Find Nicole here:
Youtube: https://youtube.com/@discovering_nicole1?si=wIiTQbsGAXFhw1l2
Tiktok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@discoveringnicole7754?_t=8rdksVvv8VW&_r=1
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/discovering_nicole77?igsh=dWludDRqeGV2M2Ft
Threads:
https://www.threads.net/@discovering_nicole77
BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/discoveringnicole.bsky.social
Sign up for Syllaby & make viral faceless videos: https://syllaby.io/?via=nicole92
Recovery Delivered For MAT: https://www.recoverydelivered.com/nicole
Lemon8: https://v.lemon8-app.com/al/OgTcwfUp
Chapters
00:00Introduction and Trigger Warnings
02:52The Journey of Addiction: Early Influences
05:48The Role of Body Image and Mental Health
09:09Transitioning to Meth: The First Encounter
11:59The Escalation of Use: From Smoking to Injecting
15:07The Impact of Relationships on Addiction
17:54Consequences of Addiction: Legal Troubles and Recovery Attempts
21:00Finding Love in Addiction: Meeting Neil
24:06The Complexity of Recovery and Support
26:56Reflections on Addiction and Community
34:40The Chaotic Journey of Addiction
36:09The Turning Point: Pregnancy and Sobriety
45:05Fighting for Family: The Commitment to Recovery
48:51The Power of Love and Support in Recovery
52:37Redefining Recovery: A Personal Journey
01:01:46Creating a Community for Recovery Support
The AfterMeth:
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Dr. Dallas Bragg
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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drdallasbragg
YouTube: The Aftermeth Podcast
X: https://twitter.com/Drdallasbragg
Free online course to End the Relapse Cycle: https://www.drdallasbragg.com/offers/e7c2Eo22/checkout
Next Episode
EP 1:45: Drug Treatment: Queer-Affirming vs. Gay-Friendly with Rainbow Hill Recovery
Do you know the difference between “Gay-Friendly” and “Queer Affirming” when it comes to treatment and sober living? In this conversation, Dr. Dallas Bragg and his guests Joey Bachrach and Steven Buffin-Stewart from Rainbow Hill Recovery delve into the complexities of drug treatment, particularly within the LGBTQ+ community. They discuss the importance of queer sober living environments, the necessity of reentry services, and the role of emotional sobriety in recovery. The conversation highlights the significance of creating a sense of belonging and family within treatment centers, as well as the need for affirming spaces that cater to the specific needs of queer individuals.
Find Rainbow Hill Recovery:
https://rainbowhillrecovery.com/
Joey Bachrach is the Co-Founder and CEO of Rainbow Hill Recovery and Rainbow Hill Sober Living, as well as the Founder of Big Little Bows.
Passionate about supporting the LGBTQ community, Joey has dedicated his career to creating affirming spaces for individuals on their journey to sobriety and mental wellness.
With firsthand experience in recovery, Joey, alongside his husband Andrew Fox, opened Rainbow Hill Sober Living in 2021, driven by a deep commitment to helping others find light in their darkest moments.
Under Joey's leadership, Rainbow Hill Recovery has earned recognition for its client-centered and inclusive approach, receiving the 2024 LGBTQIA+ Advocacy Award from CCAPP.
Through Big Little Bows, Joey extends his support to LGBTQ youth, ensuring they feel seen, valued, and empowered
Steven Buffin-Stewart is Program Coordinator and the OG Sober Living House Manager.
The AfterMeth:
Join our Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theaftermeth/
Dr. Dallas Bragg
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdallasbragg/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drdallasbragg
YouTube: The Aftermeth Podcast
X: https://twitter.com/Drdallasbragg
Free online course to End the Relapse Cycle: https://www.drdallasbragg.com/offers/e7c2Eo22/checkout
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