Difficulties Of Adult Friendships

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10/19/20 • 14 min

Tea And Talk: A Self Development Podcast for Wifehood

African American women struggle to find quality friends and this is coming from experience.
In my opinion, I feel that any women put themselves in a box and block themselves out from forming friendships with other women. Is it because we are afraid, feel threatened? Is it because we are in competition?
For one woman to be threatened by another says that she may not be comfortable in the skin that she is in. So, she creates and builds a wall which blocks her from forming relationships.
Is it some insecurities that hold us back from forming these necessary bonds?
We can not continue to allow the wall block us from being our best selves and attracting quality friends. We have to stop allowing the past and our insecurities dictate the future and who we are becoming now...
This should be a time when we see other women uniting and bonding instead of blocking, tearing each other down and being in competition with one another...
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What Is Resentment?

Resentment is bitterness that is in relation to the fact that you have not been treated fairly or that others are not doing enough for you.
What can cause you to feel resentment:

Feeling as if people are not listening to you
Feeling taken advantage of
Feeling as if you are putting more into a relationship than the other party
Not being assertive and standing up for yourself

How to know you are dealing with resentment:

Lingering anger
Recurring thoughts
Feeling regretful

Long term resentment can become unhealthy and cause the feeling of resentment to then become who you are as a person.

Forgive yourself but do not ever forget
Shine light on your feelings
Allow yourself to feel the emotion
Recognize and be aware of the root of resentment
Find a way to express those emotions
Learn self-calming techniques
Forgive the person you resent
Leave the past where it belongs
Avoid situations that are negative and can potentially lead to resentment down the line
Move forward and upward

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How To Be Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

We become so comfortable with the things that we do daily because of ease and routine.
Without change from our daily routines we become stagnant in areas of our life. We lack or lose motivation and therefore do not push as hard as we should from where we are to where we want to be,
The same thing day in an day is when you begin to go on autopilot and tune out certain pieces of the routine because of familiarity. However, when we tune out pieces of the routine could we also be tuning out pieces of ourselves?
We have to begin to embrace the feeling of discomfort and push past our limits to become even stronger and resilient in our lives.
Everything worth anything has some degree of difficulty and discomfort.
Do not allow your comfort kill your creativity.
Reasons we become trapped in being comfortable:
1. Predictability
2. Convenience
3. Ease
4. Safe
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