Episode 3: What? A Healthy Holiday?

11/25/22 • 6 min

I don’t even know how to process a healthy holiday. I just hosted a Thanksgiving without ANY of the residual feelings revolving around trauma or the abuse tactics of holidays past. I’m not sure how to process that.
Maybe next year I’ll have better insight. Those first few holidays were reeeeely hard. It gets better, Friends.
Thanks for listening.

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Episode 2: Didn’t you see the red flags?

A question I often get asked is “Didn’t you see any red flags?” My short answer is a simple no. Listen in for the long answer. The one that makes sense.
Resources:
Books:
No Visible Bruises by Rachel Louise Snyder
Talking to Strangers by Malcom Gladwell
Articles by Sarah McDougal:
What Does Domestic Violence Actually Look Like?You Might Be In An Abusive Relationship If...*YouTube Playlist:
Systems of Abuse
Comprehensive Resource List:
Advocate+Survivor Resource List | WILD's Fave Everything

National DV Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE

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Episode 4: Verbal Abuse

In this episode I share what verbal abuse is, what that looked like for me, and how different things are now compared to what I experienced. One of these times I’ll get the timing right so it doesn’t cut off. Still learning here.
Here’s the power and control wheel and red flags charts that I refer to in this episode. If you or a loved one are experiencing abuse, or even questioning if what you are experiencing is normal, I encourage you to check out these resources.
You Might Be In An Abusive Relationship If...*

Have you ever wondered if it's abuse or just... "Marriage is hard, right? Mine is Exhibit A!"