Sexual Mindfulness | Dr. Chelom Leavitt | #67

01/08/24 • 37 min

On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dr. Chelom Leavitt, J.D., Ph.D., will explore with Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz how to intentionally slow your mind and body to build awareness and create better connection during sex.

About Chelom Leavitt:

Dr. Chelom Leavitt, J.D., Ph.D. teaches in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University. Dr. Leavitt received her Ph.D. from Penn State where she focused her research on how mindfulness is linked to sexual functioning and satisfaction. Dr. Leavitt’s findings have been published in top research journals and books. Her research has helped uncover what couples experience during sex, and what factors contribute to connection. Along with her work in Sexual Mindfulness, Dr. Leavitt hosts interventions that teach couples how to slow down and be more aware and create greater connection during sex. She regularly blogs for Psychology Today as well her website www.chelomleavitt.com, where she shares with readers the latest research on meaningful sex, slowing down to experience greater connection, and being more curious in romantic and sexual relationships. Dr. Chelom Leavitt is married to David Leavitt and they are the parents of nine children.

Insights:

Chelom: Slow down, be gentle and be curious.
Dave: Media does not portray sex correctly, making time to breathe, slow down, and raise awareness will benefit your relationship in all ways.
Liz: Normalizing emotions in our life and bringing awareness can increase our sexual pleasure and lives.

Invites: •

Practice the mindful embrace and heads together exercise Chelom discussed with your partner.
Start mindfulness exercises. The next time you have 2 minutes of breathing room, sit down, practice how it feels to just breathe and be. Implement this routine more and more into your schedule.
Notice what happens when you are physically connecting with your partner. A hug can tell you a lot about how your relationship looks and what you and your partner need.

Chelom Leavitt Links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexualmindfulnessproject/

https://www.chelomleavitt.com/

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Dr. Dave Schr

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Dr. Dave Schramm:

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Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com

About Chelom Leavitt:

Insights:

Chelom: Slow down, be gentle and be curious.
Dave: Media does not portray sex correctly, making time to breathe, slow down, and raise awareness will benefit your relationship in all ways.
Liz: Normalizing emotions in our life and bringing awareness can increase our sexual pleasure and lives.

Invites: •

Practice the mindful embrace and heads together exercise Chelom discussed with your partner.
Start mindfulness exercises. The next time you have 2 minutes of breathing room, sit down, practice how it feels to just breathe and be. Implement this routine more and more into your schedule.
Notice what happens when you are physically connecting with your partner. A hug can tell you a lot about how your relationship looks and what you and your partner need.

Chelom Leavitt Links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexualmindfulnessproject/

https://www.chelomleavitt.com/

Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

StrongerMarriage.org
podcast.strongermarriage.org
Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife

Dr. Dave Schr

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Strongermarriage.org

Podcast.stongermarriage.org

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/

Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/

Dr. Dave Schramm:

http://drdaveschramm.com

http://drdavespeaks.com

Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com

Previous Episode

Overcoming Sexual Frustration | Tammy Hill | #66

On today’s episode of the stronger marriage connection, Dave and Liz with Tammy
Hill, educator, LMFT, ASSECT, and author discuss how to overcome rejection, desire difference,
and stale sex. Explore new ways to replenish your partner and build beauty in your sexual
connection.

About Tammy Hill:

Tammy Hill is passionate about strengthening marriage relationships. She is a Licensed
Marriage and Family Therapist and an active member of the American Association of Sexual
Educators, Counselors and Therapists (ASSECT). Tammy enjoys being an adjunct faculty
member at Brigham Young University in the School of Family Life where she teaches hundreds
of students each semester in Marriage Preparation, Marriage Enhancement and Healthy
Sexuality in Marriage courses. Tammy owns a private counseling practice where she largely
works with couples. She has free resources available on her website
(http://www.tammyhill.com) where she also offers numerous Making Love Retreats,
Honeymoon Workshops and Dating Bootcamps each year. Published in 2021, Tammy’s first
book, “God Made Girls and Boys” is a beautiful children’s book addressing agency, gender,
accountability, and hope in our Heavenly Parent’s eternal plan. Her second book, “Replenish:
Creating Sexual Fulfillment in Marriage”, was published earlier this year. Most importantly
Tammy is forever grateful to be a wife, mother and grandmother.

Insights:

Tammy: Humans are created with a capacity to have amazing sexual pleasure. Push yourself to
learn how to replenish each other.

Dave: Make time to intentionally have sex with your partner.

Liz: Monogamous does not have to mean monotonous.

Invites:

Instead of waiting for your partner to change, recognize the part you play in
conflict and seek to change it without any guarantee that your partner will do the
same. You may find that your partner’s response to your change is exactly what you
hoped.
Examine whether there is contempt in your relationship. If you “horibilize” your
partner by objectifying them and only seeing their faults and their weaknesses, you
might be guilty of contempt.
As yourself, “ If I were to give my whole heart to my partner, what would it occur
to me to do?”. Be still and then heed that inner call to connect

Tammy Hill Links:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tammy_hill_lmft/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/replenishyourmarriage

Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5wSW6CZ431e8nJFCVMUyeZ

Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:

Strongermarriage.org

Podcast.stongermarriage.org

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/

Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/

Dr. Dave Schramm:

http://drdaveschramm.com

http://drdavespeaks.com

Dr. Liz Hale:

http://www.drlizhale.com

Next Episode

How To Conquer Addiction and Shame in Marriage | Tyler Patrick | #68

Tyler joins Dr. Dave Schramm to talk about the challenges of addiction and shame in
marriage and the skill set required to overcome addictions with a stronger marriage connection.

About Tyler Patrick:

Tyler is a Marriage and Family Therapist has dedicated his career to mastering and
understanding of recovery from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. He has come to believe
that the men and women who embrace and live the principles of recovery do far more than get
their lives back. They become the best kinds of husbands and wives, fathers and mothers. He
has been married for over 20 years to an incredible woman and as a father to four amazing
daughters. His hobbies away from work include supporting his children's interests, fly fishing,
backpacking, and training River, his German Shorthaired Pointer.

Insights:

"I'm going to pursue a life where I understand what's going on in my mind and my heart, and
then choosing to live from that sort of centered, sort of gut place. And then that allows me to
live my life on, you know, on life's terms, if I'm having a bad moment, I can trust that I have the tools to do that. I can trust that I'm human.” -Tyler Patrick

“When you have two people who know who they are and can be vulnerable with one another,
and they choose to be with one another. That's where the deepest levels of connection
happen.” -Tyler Patrick

“If you're sitting there listening to this feeling like it's hopeless or it's dark, it's not, your story is not finished. It's just begun and you're sitting on a goldmine if you're willing to do the work.” -Tyler Patrick

Invites:

Check out the podcast of Brian and Tyler
Sign up for a first free session with Tyler.
Talk with your partner about the importance of humility and honesty in your
relationship.

Tyler’s Links:

Website: https://lovestrong.com
Instagram: @the.wandering.therapist

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StrongerMarriage.org
podcast.strongermarriage.org
Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
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Dr. Dave Schramm:

https://drdaveschramm.com

https://drdavespeaks.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com

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Podcast.stongermarriage.org

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/