Parenting Mistakes - Unconditional Love and Fear

12/30/22 • 72 min

(Jaynee part 3 of 3)
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Jaynee Poulson, mother and step-mother of six shares her struggles to find the balance between discipline and unconditional love, risking her children's security, with ironic consequences that make them stronger.
You will learn:
1. What is the best way to parent effectively while still allowing children to make their own choices?
2. How can we find the balance between loving our children unconditionally while still helping them understand consequences?
3. What is the impact of providing children with different expectations due to their level of maturity and life experience?
Jaynee Poulson has learned from her mistakes and is striving to balance her parenting style. She is committed to supporting her children in making their own decisions and helping them learn from their mistakes.

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Comparing vs. Cheering: Our Expectations - Their Self-Worth

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What goals do we set for ourselves to be remarkable? And what do those milestones say about who we are and what we value?

In this second part of Jaynee’s three-part series we talk about how the goals and values we aspire to has a direct impact on all our closest relationships, especially in communicating what we believe is important to our children. Consider this as you listen to today’s conversation – how do our choice of heroes and goals impact those around us who may have different aspirations or values?

How well do we help those around us discover their own values and set their own, independent course?

This is one of the many areas where I did not do a good job as a parent. At the time, I was stuck in the binary thinking of one true path. I was beating myself up for falling short and wore blinders of exact obedience to the singular prescribed path. I certainly worked hard at instilling the same system in my kids.

In spite of my unskilled parenting, my kids eventually found their own beautiful path. I regret the many battles where I tried forcing them onto a foreign path. Even more, I feel that I robbed them of the wonderful gifts they could have given the world if I had been more supportive of helping them find their genuine path much sooner.

"Lift, Love, & Lead with Remarkable Women - Cheer for their Victories and Support their Choices."

Jaynee Poulson is the 2020 recipient of "Remarkable Woman of the Year." Dedicated to uplifting and recognizing women for their service and achievements, she is passionate about helping others recognize their own worth and value, free from comparison and competition.

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SYK Episode 128: “Parenting Mistakes - Unconditional Love and Fear” – Dr. Jaynee Poulson (Part 3 of 3)

Jaynee [00:00:04] But it's just finding those things that are going to push you. You know, I would present on things all over the country at one time in my life that was part of my career. And I got so comfortable in it that I would just, like, show up, you know, make me out and just walk out. But that's when I was like, I'm not good at