#136:Rachel-Finding Identity Among Ghosts & Reconstruction
03/03/23 • 104 min
How does being an identical twin influence your understanding of yourself? What if people only knew you by way of reference to another person? You're the tallest in your family, you're much quieter than your sister. Who takes more after their mom? What if your referent looked just like you? Had the same smile, same face, an exact DNA replica?
"The irony with being an identical twin is that people think they know you because you have someone who shares your same DNA. You feel like a ghost because people think they see you, but they don't take the time to really get to know you as an individual."
Rachel is an incredible leader. She shares the deconstruction of her high-demand religion, redefining motherhood, and how she can best show up for those in need. She also gives the inside scoop about what drove her to launch her non-profit, Common Thread, and we talk about the massive impact she is having in the community and on nearly a thousand teens who are struggling with trauma and dealing with significant adversity.
Rachel Garrett is a former high school teacher, a licensed foster parent, and a certified CASA. Rachel has a master's degree in Psychology: Child and Adolescent Development, emphasizing how trauma impacts brains and behaviors. Rachel is Founder and Executive Director of Common Thread, a non-profit dedicated to building community and strengthening teens who are experiencing significant adversity in their lives.
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How does being an identical twin influence your understanding of yourself? What if people only knew you by way of reference to another person? You're the tallest in your family, you're much quieter than your sister. Who takes more after their mom? What if your referent looked just like you? Had the same smile, same face, an exact DNA replica?
"The irony with being an identical twin is that people think they know you because you have someone who shares your same DNA. You feel like a ghost because people think they see you, but they don't take the time to really get to know you as an individual."
Rachel is an incredible leader. She shares the deconstruction of her high-demand religion, redefining motherhood, and how she can best show up for those in need. She also gives the inside scoop about what drove her to launch her non-profit, Common Thread, and we talk about the massive impact she is having in the community and on nearly a thousand teens who are struggling with trauma and dealing with significant adversity.
Rachel Garrett is a former high school teacher, a licensed foster parent, and a certified CASA. Rachel has a master's degree in Psychology: Child and Adolescent Development, emphasizing how trauma impacts brains and behaviors. Rachel is Founder and Executive Director of Common Thread, a non-profit dedicated to building community and strengthening teens who are experiencing significant adversity in their lives.
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109 Meg-Friendly Refuge (Deconstruction, Reframing "Motherhood"),
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#IdenticalTwin, #Identity, #FosterCare, #Depression, #Identity, #CommonThread, #Acceptance
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