The New Etiquette Rules

03/02/23 • 26 min

Tipping. Dinner parties. Canceling plans. We could all use an etiquette guide that teaches us to live without pissing people off. Luckily, New York Magazine has one – and it went viral. We (politely) asked Choire Sicha, who edited that guide, to come on our show.

You can read the full list from New York Magazine here: https://www.thecut.com/article/tipping-rules-etiquette-rules.html

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03/02/23 • 26 min

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Story of the Week with Joel Stein - The New Etiquette Rules

Transcript Summary

In this episode titled 'The New Etiquette Rules,' the podcast explores a viral cover story from New York Magazine that lists over 194 updated rules for polite society. The guide covers various situations such as the workplace, subway, and social interactions, taking into account generational shifts and changing social norms. Some notable rules include refraining from discussing people's food, canceling social plans with a two-hour notice, and taking your trash with you when leaving a party. Controversial suggestions like "if you penetrate, you pay" and having one opportunity to object to a friend's partner also sparked debate. The guide acknowledges the evolving values and social dynamics brought about by the younger generation and offers practical recommendations like controlling device alerts, not intentionally waking up your partner, and refraining from using inappropriate terminologies. It also touches on tipping rules, the importance of timely responses, and the significance of etiquette in mainstream media. Overall, the episode presents a sincere effort to provide a thoughtful guide aimed at generating conversation and debate.

Transcript

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Pushkin. I'm Corey Ska and I co edited the Etiquette Guide for New York Magazine, and it's the story of the week. One of the things they never told me about getting old is that I no longer know how to behave in polite society. I'm just doing stuff the way I've always done it for fifty one years. I'm utterly oblivious to the fact that I'm the only one left announcing my three pronouns instead of two. I'm out there saying I'm a he h his like some k

The New Etiquette Rules Top Questions Answered

How many rules are included in the New York Magazine's updated etiquette guide?

The New York Magazine's updated etiquette guide includes almost 200 rules.

What was the aim behind creating the New York Magazine's etiquette guide?

The aim of the guide is to help make people's lives a little bit better by providing guidelines on modern etiquette.

What are some controversial rules in the New York Magazine's etiquette guide?

Some controversial rules include "if you penetrate, you pay" and having bowls of cigarettes at parties.

Are all the rules in the guide applicable to everyone?

The list acknowledges that some rules may not work for everyone, and individuals should use their judgment in applying them.

What is considered rude regarding notifications on phones?

Notifications on phones should be controlled by users and not constantly interrupting them.

Is it considered rude to purposely wake up your significant other?

Yes, it is considered rude to purposely wake up your significant other.

Are mainstream media workers allowed to have guns in New York?

No, in New York, mainstream media workers are not allowed to have guns.

How is openly carrying guns in public perceived in terms of etiquette?

Openly carrying guns in public can be seen as rude.

Is using the term "partner" considered annoying and vague?

Using the term "partner" can be annoying and vague to some people.

Has tipping increased in restaurants?

Yes, tipping in restaurants has increased to 20-25% for a good tip.

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