17: Trust Issues in Relationships

06/27/17 • 16 min

Steps and Tools for Emotional Intelligence

People with mild paranoia often have difficulties in relationships. Their trust issues take a particular form. They are suspicious, quick to read between the lines, quick to assume that the person speaking with them has a hidden motive. At times, they will accuse others of having thoughts and intentions that are not there. It creates anger, frustration, and a whole boat-load of misunderstanding.

In this episode, Dr. Hamlin explains how to recognize this pattern in others and in one's self. He briefly discusses the causes of this way of thinking. Finally, he offers tips for how to deal with it in a constructive manner.

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What does it look like to have a friend who is also your mentor? What is the value of being mentored by someone who your friend? In this episode Dr. Hamlin reflects on one of his own friendships to illustrate a few defining principles of mentoring friendships. In the context of friendship, a mentor is an encourager and a witness to the forward movement of your life.

"This episode is dedicated to Erwin Mooradian, friend and mentor, who passed away in May 2017."

-- GH

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Disappointments are a part of life. The smaller they are, the easier it is to "just get over it." But major loss brings disappointment to a whole new level. When loss has a magnitude that is earth-shattering we also find that our coping mechanisms are shattered. The death of a loved one, the loss of a relationship, and even intangible losses can leave us floundering. This is because the grief process requires us to grow in our emotional intelligence in gut-wrenching ways. If we try to avoid this, we just prolong our misery.

The process of grief is a natural process of moving from point A (crushing loss that leaves us broken) to point B (full adjustment to our new reality). Sadly, there is much confusion about what grief is and what to do with it.

In this episode Dr. Hamlin offers tools to understand the process of grief and steps to move through it. He also describes how the right kind of therapy can make the whole process easier and faster.