
38. The Expectation Trap: Why Your Partner Isn’t a Mind Reader (and How to Fix It)
10/23/24 • 22 min
Ever silently fumed because your partner didn’t do something you never actually asked them to do? (Yep, we’ve all been there!)
This episode is pulled straight from one of our amazing weekly Support Sessions in the Facebook group, where we dove into the three sneaky types of expectations—explicit, implicit, and covert—that can really mess with your relationships. Get ready for some fun, real-life examples and actionable tips to help you communicate your needs clearly and avoid the frustration of unmet expectations!
You might want to listen if:
- You’re done feeling frustrated by unmet expectations
- You wish your partner just knew what you needed
- You struggle with expressing your needs (without it turning into a fight)
- You want a fun, relatable guide to handling communication issues
- You’re ready to create stronger, happier connections
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FIND OUT MORE!
- Apply for FREE Coaching with Jenn
- Become a Relationship Reboot Member and access all you need to become secure.
- Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
- Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
- Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
- Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
- Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
- Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!
DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for spe...
Ever silently fumed because your partner didn’t do something you never actually asked them to do? (Yep, we’ve all been there!)
This episode is pulled straight from one of our amazing weekly Support Sessions in the Facebook group, where we dove into the three sneaky types of expectations—explicit, implicit, and covert—that can really mess with your relationships. Get ready for some fun, real-life examples and actionable tips to help you communicate your needs clearly and avoid the frustration of unmet expectations!
You might want to listen if:
- You’re done feeling frustrated by unmet expectations
- You wish your partner just knew what you needed
- You struggle with expressing your needs (without it turning into a fight)
- You want a fun, relatable guide to handling communication issues
- You’re ready to create stronger, happier connections
**VOTE FOR SPEAK HONEST IN THE WOMENS PODCAST AWARDS!**
FIND OUT MORE!
- Apply for FREE Coaching with Jenn
- Become a Relationship Reboot Member and access all you need to become secure.
- Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
- Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
- Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
- Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
- Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
- Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!
DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for spe...
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Curious about what it looks like at the start of a transformational journey? In this episode, we get a before look at Amanda, a member of my 12-week Relationship Reboot Program. During this coaching call, Amanda opens up about her struggle with triggers and negative spirals that affect her communication. We discuss how the program will help her build healthier communication habits and develop the confidence to express her needs without crumbling. This is just the beginning — we’ll check back in 12 weeks to see her progress.
You might want to listen if:
- You struggle to communicate your needs without feeling overwhelmed.
- Triggers send you into spirals of self-doubt that affect your relationships.
- You’re in a good relationship but feel like there's room for growth in communication.
- You want to stop repeating unhealthy communication patterns.
- You’re curious about how a 12-week relationship program can create real change.
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FIND OUT MORE!
- Apply for FREE Coaching with Jenn
- Become a Relationship Reboot Member and access all you need to become secure.
- Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
- Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
- Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
- Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
- Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
- Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!
DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for spe...
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39. Why Do We Push Love Away? A Deep Dive into Healing Attachment Styles | Coaching Call with Carol
Have you ever found yourself pushing away the very love and support you've always wanted?
In this episode, I sit down with Carol, a member of the Relationship Reboot Program, as we explore her journey to discovering why she struggles to accept love and compliments from her husband. Together, we uncover the deep-rooted attachment wounds and limiting beliefs that often keep us from embracing the love we deserve. Through Carol’s powerful story, you'll gain valuable insights into your own relationships and learn actionable strategies to shift your mindset and start receiving love more fully.
You might want to listen if:
- You struggle to accept compliments or love from your partner.
- You feel unseen or unheard in your relationships, even when your partner is supportive.
- You tend to take things personally and internalize others' reactions.
- You want to understand how past wounds might be affecting your present relationship.
- You’re ready to do the deep work to heal attachment wounds and improve how you see yourself.
**VOTE FOR SPEAK HONEST IN THE WOMENS PODCAST AWARDS!**
FIND OUT MORE!
- Apply for FREE Coaching with Jenn
- Become a Relationship Reboot Member and access all you need to become secure.
- Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
- Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
- Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
- Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
- Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
- Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!
DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for spe...
Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma - 38. The Expectation Trap: Why Your Partner Isn’t a Mind Reader (and How to Fix It)
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Hello and welcome to Speak Honest. I am your host and certified relationship coach, Jennifer Noble. It has been my passion for over a decade to help women like you heal what's been holding you back from having the relationships you deserve. Are you struggling with a relationship where you can't seem to voice your emotions, needs, and boundaries without having it blow up in your face? Then you’ve found the right podcast, my friend. Get ready for practical tips, empowering truths, and
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