05: How to Balance Attachment and Independence in Relationships
03/06/24 • 14 min
Today we're getting into the nitty-gritty of how our attachment styles—be it secure, anxious, avoidant, or even disorganized—shape the way we juggle needing others and standing on our own two feet in our relationships. We're talking about what it means to lean on someone just the right amount, how to spot when it's tipping into codependency, or when we're pulling away too much because of our attachment vibes. I've got some real-life stories to make sense of all this and to show why getting a handle on our attachment styles can seriously up our relationship game. We're also diving into this cool Theory called relational dialectics—think of it as the push and pull between wanting to be super close and needing our space. Plus, I'm here to cheer you on to explore your own attachment style and find ways to smooth out the ride in your relationships with a big dollop of openness, respect, and, you guessed it, honesty. Let's get to it!
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- Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
- Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
- Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
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DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for spe...
Today we're getting into the nitty-gritty of how our attachment styles—be it secure, anxious, avoidant, or even disorganized—shape the way we juggle needing others and standing on our own two feet in our relationships. We're talking about what it means to lean on someone just the right amount, how to spot when it's tipping into codependency, or when we're pulling away too much because of our attachment vibes. I've got some real-life stories to make sense of all this and to show why getting a handle on our attachment styles can seriously up our relationship game. We're also diving into this cool Theory called relational dialectics—think of it as the push and pull between wanting to be super close and needing our space. Plus, I'm here to cheer you on to explore your own attachment style and find ways to smooth out the ride in your relationships with a big dollop of openness, respect, and, you guessed it, honesty. Let's get to it!
**VOTE FOR SPEAK HONEST IN THE WOMENS PODCAST AWARDS!**
FIND OUT MORE!
- Apply for FREE Coaching with Jenn
- Become a Relationship Reboot Member and access all you need to become secure.
- Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
- Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
- Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
- Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
- Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
- Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!
DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for spe...
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- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
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- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
- Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
- Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
- Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
- Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!
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Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma - 05: How to Balance Attachment and Independence in Relationships
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Hello and welcome to Speak Honest. I am your host and certified relationship coach, Jennifer Noble. It has been my passion for over a decade to help women like you heal. What's been holding you back from having the relationships you deserve? Are you struggling with a relationship where you can't seem to voice your emotions, needs, and boundaries without having it blow up in your face?
Then you have found the right podcast. My friend, get ready for practical tips, empowering truths, and hon
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